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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: When to have the chat? |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2024, 3:57 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 13,579
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| We had the chat a few months ago at about 10 and a half. He was shocked. I don’t know. Middle school is gonna be brutal. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I Got Bored So I Signed Up For A Filipino Dating Site. |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2021, 2:00 am
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Replies: 83
Views: 6,797
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| Ohh boy.. I'm married to a Filipina that I met online 15 years ago, after having online relationships with several. Be a little careful. Some (many) are going to create a fake relationship with you, get you to send them some money every month, and spend it with their boyfriends. If they ask for mone... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Advice on telling kids about their autism |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2021, 1:46 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 6,130
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| Ha. I had "the talk" with my 8-year old this week. I told him everyone has a different kind of brain, there are some things he's good at and some things he struggles with. Some things he learns differently than others, so we have therapies and aides at school and whatnot. I told him some f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Should children be medicated for ADHD? |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 01 Sep 2020, 3:00 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 469
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| Hi again Folks. My son is now 7 years old, pretty much in the middle of the spectrum. Bright kid but with significant communication/attention deficits, among other things. To me, it is becoming that his biggest deficit is around attention. He gets sidetracked extremely easily, even with one-step req... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Effects of divorce on you? |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2020, 4:55 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 841
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| Thanks everyone. I don't want to get into too many specifics but my current wife has an abusive personality and the new lady isn't capable of being mean. Not that im blameless by any stretch, but reconciliaton isnt an option. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Effects of divorce on you? |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2020, 10:43 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 841
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beady wrote: I think if you proceed through the divorce in as sensitive a way as you are able that all will be well.
Children can feel strife and unhappiness whether it is expressed or not.
I think children need to live within a happy relationship so they can internalize how it works.
I'm hoping this is true. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Effects of divorce on you? |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2020, 10:40 am
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Replies: 23
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| My parents would not have been allowed to adopt in Sweden, because they never argued, and so I never saw a resolution of an argument. I was only five when I realized that I had no idea why my parents married, but they stayed together for another ten years. It might have been better for me to have s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Effects of divorce on you? |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2020, 10:38 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 841
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| Something to think about...If neither of you can handle your son on your own, and you get to leave and have a relationship and your wife gets all the work and has no life, you are not going to stay amicable for long. So if you do this make sure you stay involved in his life with at least a 30/70 sp... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Effects of divorce on you? |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2020, 10:24 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 841
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| @ScottieKarate: Your child will know that you divorced his mother to marry another woman. He will likely reason that if you can stop loving his mother, then you could also stop loving him, especially if you have more children with your new wife . If you don't mind destroying your son's faith in yo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Effects of divorce on you? |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2020, 10:21 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 841
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| I probably wouldn’t seek a divorce now. Especially if he definitely benefits from the presence of both of you together. My parents separated when I was 11, divorced soon after. It didn’t affect me too much. Perhaps because my father came to see me once a week. Thanks for weighing in Kraftie. Good t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Effects of divorce on you? |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2020, 12:41 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 841
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| Hi all. I've only been lurking recently, haven't posted in a while. But I've got something I need your help with. You all probably don't remember me. My name is Scott, I've got a son, now 7, who is essentially right in the middle of the spectrum. Smart kid in his own ways, but has far more severe so... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being A Responsible Adult |
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Posted: 02 May 2019, 12:04 am
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Replies: 16
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| Awww, that's a lot going on! I hope you didnt mean it. Stress and anxiety can play nasty games! You can do it! Make a list and start checking it off! Dont be afraid to let someone know if you need help, but it sounds like you got this! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What I saw at an ABA clinic |
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Posted: 01 May 2019, 9:14 pm
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Replies: 33
Views: 1,562
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My son does have meltdowns, that isnt what these are.
The bigger point is that kids in ABA have to work really hard and often must perform tasks they don't want to do, instead of playing, stimming, or relaxing. Doesn't seem fair. Can that cause problems in a child? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What I saw at an ABA clinic |
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Posted: 01 May 2019, 12:37 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 1,562
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| Thing is, parenting a child on the spectrum can be really difficult. The parenting instincts you are born with often don't fit how a child on the spectrum learns. I'll give an example... When my son doesn't get his way, he drops to the floor and screams. Now, the protective parent in you wants to ge... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Mainstream kids or not? |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2019, 2:10 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 883
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| I wanted to add another little piece to the equation. The class he's in now is like the Cadillac of special ed classes. There are two groups, K-2, 3-5. And they mingle a lot. 16 kids between the two groups, almost all of which are high-functioning ASD kiddos. The rest have some form of behavioral is... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Mainstream kids or not? |
| ScottieKarate |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2019, 1:44 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 883
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| I think that mainstreaming would be a much better choice than Special Ed. It's the modern way of doing things and it's beneficial for both your son and his peers. I liked high school better than elementary school because I was mainstreamed in high school. Sure, most of my peers were snots but it su... |
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