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Forum: The Haven Topic: Depression and Loneliness |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2009, 11:52 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,459
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| Dear LazyGamer, Well done! By the way, the things I saw in your post are that you are intelligent and articulate. You have good traits, and you need to learn to believe in your strengths rather than your weaknesses. And this isn't so much a matter of lying until it becomes the truth as learning to h... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Depression and Loneliness |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009, 8:57 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,459
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| Dear LazyGamer, Please do not force me to reach through the internets to give you a noogie. Your response to my previous post illustrates my points. I'm giving you an assignment here. Go do it. 1. Get a pencil and paper. Typing on the computer will not work, although a pen will. 2. Write down at lea... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Depression and Loneliness |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2009, 6:17 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,459
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| Dear LazyGamer, Listen to the people you talk to. Strangers on the internet generally have no reason to be nice to other strangers. If you were annoying the others, they would let you know. In short, cut yourself some slack. You have decided that other people don't like you, because you believe that... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Things have gotten strange here |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 20 Jan 2009, 12:56 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 880
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There might be something like that here in America, but I'm not doing that much, really.
A career in cooking is a possibility. I have a lot of experience in fast food. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Things have gotten strange here |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2009, 1:00 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 880
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| My father passed away in November, and I have been trying to job hunt since several months before that. I'm currently living on insurance money and trying not to panic about the economy. December 20th, my roommate, Dave, asked me to take him to the hospital because his left side had gone numb. He wa... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Unholy Desire |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 24 Sep 2008, 11:47 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 860
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| Dear philosopherBoi, I hear your words and they could have come from my lips when I was your age. You are right that people don't care if outsiders are abused, and you are right that being brutally maimed would be less painful. But revenge won't help. I spent far too long obsessing about revenge, bu... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I am lost |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2008, 12:31 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,933
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P.S.
The point of my bad advice is not to get you revenge, which will not help you heal, but to let you know that you have the power to make the abuse stop, which will help. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I am lost |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2008, 12:49 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,933
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| Poor sweet FieryGatoh, You need a hug and shoulder to cry on and someone to give you good advice. Let me give you evil advice instead. I am over three times your age, but I still remember what it was like. I remember being told to walk away from confrontations and ignore the bullies and that if you ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: im scared to post this in case you all avoid me from now on. |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2008, 12:20 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,166
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| Dear Monkees4va. I am pleased to hear that you are making progress. To get from where you are to where you want to be will require a great deal of effort on your part. I will not lie to you about that. But you are young and have time on your side. Let me first say that I have a long history of depre... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: No-life? |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 17 Sep 2008, 11:50 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,267
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| I frequently tell people " I don't have a life. I have hobbies instead." I live in an apartment with literally tons of anime and role-playing games. Literally. I have commercial grade shelving covering one wall to hold up one section of the collection, and stuff overflowing from every horizontal sur... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I just took a proactive step |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2008, 1:40 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,113
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| Dear Nightbender, Been there. Done that. Got the coffee mug. When I was in the Navy I was suffering severe depression and self-medicating with caffeine. My typical day included over a 6-pack of Coke, a few cappuccinos, two liters of Mountain Dew, and a pot or two of coffee. When I went on Elavil I q... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Zero tolerance for failure (my life and relationship issues) |
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Posted: 24 Jul 2008, 11:24 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 879
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| Dear ChristinaCSB, When I was a freshman in college, I got in a petty argument with one of the people I hung out with. The get-together was breaking up and we both lived in the same dorm. There were two ways, about equally short to get back to the dorm, so when he took one route, I silently took the... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Life hurts alot sometimes. |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2008, 1:28 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,062
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| Dear LiendaBalla, We take these things personally and are hurt by them because we have trouble looking outside ourselves. Neither you nor I know what kind of day your unpleasant customer was having, nor how much of her gasoline budget was going to something she had been told would be free. This is n... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Wanting more out of life :( |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 19 May 2008, 11:55 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,383
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| Calibama, You can't care too much, but you can care in the wrong way and about the wrong things. There is so much wrong in the world, and for one person to try to fix it all is just too big a job, and if you spend your time thinking about what you can't do, you'll never do anything. Find the place w... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: what is it with Asperger's people and anime? |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 18 May 2008, 12:06 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 10,512
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| I've been an anime fan since the mid 80's, when it was still Japanimation and if you mentioned it, people assumed you meant tentacle porn. Part of the appeal is the obviousness of the characters' emotions, but also that they have emotions at all. Many American live-action shows feature characters wh... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: NEED ADVICE! HELP |
| Ikari_Gendo |
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Posted: 10 May 2008, 11:41 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,116
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| Dear Poeticromance, Go talk to him. Seriously, what is the ABSOLUTE WORST THING that could happen? If he decides he doesn't like you and won't talk to you, you're no worse off than you are now, not talking to him. Ask him about his favorite anime. Ask where he got his hoodie. Ask if school sucks as ... |
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