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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Worried women will expect me to be "experienced" at 30+ |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2025, 12:55 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 2,035
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| I had no dating experience before February 2018 when I met my first girlfriend (and she is still my current girlfriend). Because she lives in Russia and I in the Netherlands, I decided to go to Russia a few times and once in Belarus. Until the war in 2022 it was very easy to go to Russia even with t... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Micromanaging boss |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2025, 12:31 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 2,760
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| There is a theory that the main cause of work place stress isn't long hours, workload and interactional issue its lack of personal autonomy. Which is often caused by micro management. I think that is true. With the new boss (he actually is my boss since one year (relatively, since teh 5th of March ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Do you worry about what your workmates think about you? |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2024, 3:28 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 1,786
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| I generally don't care much about what they think, but I want them to be friendly towards me, and most of them are. Yesterday I had an appraisal talk with my boss. One of the subjects is an event, some weeks ago, and I wanted to help the organizers with several things. I wanted to help with Augmente... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: How common is it for the ASD crowd to utilize sex workers? |
| hmk66 |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2024, 8:56 am
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Replies: 149
Views: 1,431
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| My therapist recommended I join some hookup websites to find some non-transactional sexual relationships. And I took the therapist's advice; I joined some hookup websites. What I've learned, however, is: After 9 years of getting the vast majority of my sex from escorts, I've pretty much forgotten *... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Autistic employees being underpaid |
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Posted: 31 Aug 2024, 4:41 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 3,332
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| When someone with autism is employed they always seem to work hard and don’t get paid much for it. I read somewhere that employers can pick up on that fact that the autistic employee is only doing the job benefit of the work and not the money. I also think employers are discriminating against autis... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: A lot of people with Autism don't drive cars, why is that? |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2024, 12:41 am
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Replies: 102
Views: 16,261
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| My wife recently got a "new" car. It's a Ford from about 10 years back and it includes a bunch of driver aids to make driving more comfortable, and somewhat safer. I do wonder how many more autistic people will be able to drive with things like blind spot detection, and automatic emergenc... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: A lot of people with Autism don't drive cars, why is that? |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2024, 12:30 am
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Replies: 102
Views: 16,261
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| self-driving cars can't come soon enough for me. I'm not convinced they'll ever become viable on roads with human drivers. If they can't operate safely around human drivers they shouldn't be allowed on the road at all. I think the FSD (Full Self Driving) of Tesla is becoming extremely good. As good... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Applying for jobs |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2024, 11:22 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 4,085
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| Applying for jobs is riskful for me. When an application is pretty succesful, there is a fair chance, there will be an interview. There is some chance that I get the job. Unfortunately there is a fair chance that the employer appears not to like me. No are minor complaints, but I would get fired for... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Taking over tasks from a sick co-worker |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2024, 8:06 am
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Replies: 0
Views: 3,313
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| Since yesterday a co-worker was very tired, a slight burn-out, so she stayed home. Another co-worker did some tasks that the first co-worder would, if she weren't ill. I talked with him. "I think she told you how to do things, for example pritting reports for students with figures (how they hav... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Majority of autistuc men dont have a girlfriend? |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2024, 7:32 am
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Replies: 469
Views: 24,877
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| Women don't usually ask men out or make other moves that put them in the situation to risk rejection. I don't think risk of rejection and the hurt involved is something women reflect on. They are more corncerned about the possibility that they will have to handle unwanted interest from a man. In th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Majority of autistuc men dont have a girlfriend? |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2024, 7:17 am
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Replies: 469
Views: 24,877
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| Relationships are often initiated by non verbal communication. Someone who is autistic may not relalize that a potential partner is signalling them non-verbally and thus ignores the overtures that person is making. This. 100%. I'm convinced I've missed lots of opportunities because of this. The rev... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is anyone else obsessed with learning languages? |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2024, 7:36 am
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Replies: 31
Views: 14,486
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| I am Dutch, I was even non-verbal autistic, until I was 5 years old. Then I started talking and at the same time I learned a few other things like reading, writing and also reading music sheets. At 6 I learned to play organ, but I was a little boy, so playing organ was difficult, until I was a bit t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: A lot of people with Autism don't drive cars, why is that? |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2024, 7:17 am
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Replies: 102
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| Autistic people do, indeed, drive. Spectrum. I drive and consider myself a superb driver. I know an autistic man who's an Amazon delivery driver. At autistic social events, there are autistics who drive to them. There's also a NASCAR driver who's autistic. I am a very experienced driver as well. So... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: New supervisor |
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Posted: 25 May 2024, 11:29 pm
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Replies: 4
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| For me, it's other way around. My previous bosses were only interested in money, didn't care about my health, weren't interested in my skills and things I want to learn, refused to talk to me. The task they gave me are way to simple. They didn't want to talk with me about my deficiencies. Since Marc... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and lying |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 8:12 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 12,274
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| I almost never lie, for 2 reasons. First, I'm honest and direct by nature. I say what i think, ir say nothing. Lying usually just doesn't occur to me. Second, lying is difficult for me. I'm just nit good ar it. If I lied in the way many NTs do, I'd get my lies mixed up and very quickly get caught. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and lying |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 8:06 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 12,274
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babybird wrote: I'm blunt. I have no interest and nothing to gain in trying to deceive people
I only lie, deceive and manipulate people, if they trying to manipulate or gaslight me, and I want to avoid that.
In most of the cases there is no reason to lie, so I will be honest then. |
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