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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adult Diagnosis |
| BourbonGuy |
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Posted: 08 May 2015, 9:00 am
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Replies: 75
Views: 8,959
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| I work in the software industry (aka IT). I imagine a lot of software people are on the spectrum, especially where I live (near Silicon Valley). By the way, I can't see how a diagnosis would endanger future employment prospects. The only thing that will endanger future employment prospects is simpl... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspies and One-Sided Relationships |
| BourbonGuy |
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Posted: 08 May 2015, 8:53 am
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Replies: 43
Views: 6,841
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| I have noticed that for people with Asperger's syndrome (or at least me and I'm assuming others have noticed this too), relationships tend to be extremely one sided. I believe this is one reason it is so hard to develop and maintain friendships for a person with AS. I am not referring to the tenden... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: discriminated out because of age and being an aspie |
| BourbonGuy |
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Posted: 08 May 2015, 8:01 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,611
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| I've seen this happen to a dozen or so Aspies over the years, and it upsets me each time. Often times, I wonder whether or not the NT's are just trying to get Aspies to quit without having to file all the paperwork it takes to legally fire someone. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Some thoughts on 'social skills' and office politics. |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 3:51 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 6,213
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Hahaha!! !  Yes, exactly! I agree. |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: I am learning algebra and trig on my own. |
| BourbonGuy |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 12:36 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,415
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Agreed! There are a good number of us here on WP with helpful math skills & knowledge. I, too, like Khan Academy...a very good resource.
Ask, and you shall receive! |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: At what point do you consider somebody a friend? |
| BourbonGuy |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 12:07 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,594
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| I don't know how many others feel this way, but...for me the first time someone shows me they're interested in one (or more) of my "special interests", I have to resist the urge to instantly move that person right to the top of my "must have as a friend" list. I've gotten burned ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adult Diagnosis |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 11:21 am
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Replies: 75
Views: 8,959
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| Prices will vary, depending on where you live and the availability of doctors/ specialists etc. Where I went, they had a sliding scale for low-income individuals. My fiance provides for us and I just have my income a student so they went off of my income and it was maybe $240 total? Maybe check out... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Some thoughts on 'social skills' and office politics. |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 11:04 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 6,213
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| I am SOOO aware of manipulation and subtle negativity from other NTs. I'm able to keep up with them, but it's really unpleasant for me, so I elect not to. A mentor of mine once said that the longer you study sociology and social interactions, the worse you are at behaving "normal." I comp... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adult Diagnosis |
| BourbonGuy |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 10:58 am
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Replies: 75
Views: 8,959
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| I like your avatar. Hehe...thank you :D Backstory on the image: During my first visit to Kentucky, my wife took me on the touristy "Bourbon Trail" to visit all the distilleries because at the time, I became fascinated in the whole process of the history of Bourbon and how it differs from ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adult Diagnosis |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 10:32 am
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Replies: 75
Views: 8,959
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| Thank you for responding! :D Here in Kentucky, all I've found for requirements is that if I do have an official diagnosis, I must disclose it....and unless it prevents me from being able to do any part of my job, I'm not required to seek a diagnosis...so it seems to be all subjective at this point. ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Some thoughts on 'social skills' and office politics. |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 10:05 am
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Replies: 46
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| I've had to force myself to learn how to "get by" socially with my coworkers & supervisors over the years. I learned early on that I had a knack for quickly learning any new technology and marketed myself as an "I.T. Jack-of-All-Trades" Within a month on any job, I found myse... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If you're married - where did you meet? |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 9:20 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 688
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| I met my wife while on IMVU.com , strangely enough. I originally went there to post my poetry which my 1st wife hated & wrote off as "that mushy crap", and my current wife saw my poetry, liked it and sought me out. It took a long time for me to begin to believe her; but after building ... |
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Forum: Games and Video Games Topic: What are you playing right now? |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 9:12 am
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Replies: 4,569
Views: 299,242
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| I've got more than 1 game I'm playing at the moment....my ADD kicks in with any game I play, so I have several I bounce between. Currently the list is: Star Wars: The Old Republic (SWTOR) Guild Wars 2 Dragon Age: Inquisition Mass Effect 1, 2, & 3 Star Trek Online (STO) Skyrim (I also try out man... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adult Diagnosis |
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Posted: 06 May 2015, 9:01 am
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Replies: 75
Views: 8,959
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| I'm new to the forum, and I'm unsure whether to pursue a diagnosis or not. A little background: Over Christmas, my wife tells me she thinks she's discovered an explanation for my quirks and asked me to consider taking one of the online AQ tests as a starting point. Being thorough, I took every onlin... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Questions about you |
| BourbonGuy |
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Posted: 05 May 2015, 8:45 am
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Replies: 5,758
Views: 1,243,255
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| What is your first name? Stephen Age: 45 Location: Kentucky Hobbies and Interests: Parenting, Computers, Video Games, D&D, and many others... Why are you here? I seem to have several of the Asperger's characteristics, but I'm not ready to pursue an official diagnosis (yet). I'm here to connect w... |
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