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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Tired of being called uncaring--of people being tired of me |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2015, 5:04 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 8,054
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| I'm glad you got some feeling of help from my post; I've really needed to feel like someone "gets it" for me too many times. I was a little irritated about that guy of yours when I posted, because it did so very much remind me of people in my own life who have done this to me -- expected ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Myth of Millennial generation wild hookup culture |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2015, 5:00 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 249
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| Yeah, it's a shame it's so troublesome to talk about sex (and romance, to a lesser extent). Wouldn't it be nice if you could just hang a sign on yourself for what you wanted and everyone would respect that? Of course, that would require knowing what you want and what your options are. That article ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Myth of Millennial generation wild hookup culture |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2015, 4:56 am
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Replies: 18
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| Here is a great study on the subject. https://lisawadedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/wade-talk-the-promise-and-peril-of-hook-up-culture.pdf I am an Xer who sometimes dates Millennials and I find their backwards attitudes frustrating. It seems that the normal route is hookup, then date, then rel... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Myth of Millennial generation wild hookup culture |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2015, 4:53 am
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Replies: 18
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| Here is a great study on the subject. https://lisawadedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/wade-talk-the-promise-and-peril-of-hook-up-culture.pdf I am an Xer who sometimes dates Millennials and I find their backwards attitudes frustrating. It seems that the normal route is hookup, then date, then rel... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is "Ghosting" Socially Acceptable? |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2015, 4:42 am
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Replies: 205
Views: 20,504
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| That depends on how long you've known the person before you start dating. If you go on a first date with someone who you've known a week, it's unreasonable for either of you to expect exclusivity at that stage; you simply don't know each other well enough to know if the other person is worth forsak... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is "Ghosting" Socially Acceptable? |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2015, 4:21 am
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Replies: 205
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| I had to google her address, come over to her house, and ask what was up. I said I was fine if she was no longer interested, just tell me, it's not a problem. ^That's one of the creepiest damn things I've ever heard. For future reference, that's a fantastic way to get yourself a restraining order. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is "Ghosting" Socially Acceptable? |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2015, 4:16 am
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Replies: 205
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| She told me she wasn't interested any more, and I was ok with that. Found out later she was dating some ugly bald dude, to each his own. We are both redheads though, she said it felt like it would be incest, I was like, you saw my pic before we started dating. So whatever. So let me start of by say... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is "Ghosting" Socially Acceptable? |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2015, 4:11 am
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Replies: 205
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| OK, so I suppose treating someone badly may be justified if they've treated you badly first, but your statement still makes no sense to me. If you want to give them the benefit of the doubt (in case the MySpace angle wasn't intentional), couldn't you say you're not interested without stating a reas... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is "Ghosting" Socially Acceptable? |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2015, 4:07 am
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Replies: 205
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| You aren't entitled to closure. Not from from folks you know well and DEFINITELY not from someone you barely know (eg have dated casually, not exclusively). The folks who "ghost" you? Are entitled to do so. What a horrible POV. I'm certainly glad I won't be dating you. Maybe you should pu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Chemistry? |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2015, 5:16 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 2,687
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IOk yellow tamarin--I took your advice. I had a date yesterday and I tried to actually LISTEN to what he was saying and not think about ME or if I was acting weird.  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Chemistry? |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2015, 11:29 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 2,687
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| I guess also like-- I don't really genuinely want to get to know them yet--I don't care about them yet. I have to care about someone in order to actually want to get to know them. Sometimes after I care I'll go back and ask questions--ok now you said you do this for a living? What is it again? It's ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Chemistry? |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2015, 11:19 pm
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Replies: 35
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| Yeah, not for me. Even when I was very VERY similar to someone, I found it out later. I think the first person is right--I've already asked all of the are we compatible questions befor I've met them, now at first date I just have to stay afloat. It may have to do with the slow processing speed. That... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Chemistry? |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2015, 4:16 am
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Replies: 35
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| This question is for Aspies only: have you ever experienced "natural chemistry?" So often I hear from exes or dates or friends this thing about "natural chemistry." It has always sort of baffled me and so I looked it up. By definition it is apparently an instant rapport with some... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Myth of Millennial generation wild hookup culture |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 03 Jun 2015, 4:07 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 249
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| Here is a great study on the subject. https://lisawadedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/wade-talk-the-promise-and-peril-of-hook-up-culture.pdf I am an Xer who sometimes dates Millennials and I find their backwards attitudes frustrating. It seems that the normal route is hookup, then date, then rela... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How can you get a girlfriend if you have aspergers syndrome? |
| Mistermist |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 12:28 am
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Replies: 184
Views: 38,772
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| I think she just doesn't want them to fake it. She wants them to have had the same interests BEFORE meeting her. I get that. I used to be like that when I was younger. Now I'm okay with feigned interest--at least they're trying. If you think about it, it really says a lot about how much they like yo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Eligible Odd-Bods! - The Premier Aspergian Singles List |
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Posted: 18 May 2015, 12:23 am
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Replies: 3,827
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| See above--And also someone who lets me be me, and I would do the same back. Let each other be free and do what we each want in everyday life (not some weird swingers thing or something, just normal everyday decisions.) I've found I'm most happy when I have lots of freedom and I start to go crazy wh... |
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