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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "The human brain does not stop developing until age 21" |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2015, 8:04 pm
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Replies: 11
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| Looks like the brain doesn't fully mature till as late as it's convenient to invalidate younger people of ages at which it used to be customary to live as an independent adult, but isn't anymore. I wonder if that is why the 'typical' human brain is not maturing until the mid twenties. Childhood has... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you relax? |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2015, 6:51 pm
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Replies: 65
Views: 3,022
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| While I haven't had time to do much about any new techniques I'm trying a bit of a new approach that would probably seem a bit out there for some people; when I'm stressed over something, I do it. No regard for how miserable it may be to do so. No consideration to how distressing it may be. Just...... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I need help |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2015, 4:26 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 3,163
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| I'm here. You've been here so often for others, so I hope that we can also help you. Sorry things are hard for you right now. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Intellegent female vs. female aspie |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2015, 4:25 pm
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Replies: 53
Views: 2,515
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| Do you have the option of going to an expert in diagnosis of Autism Spectrum disorders in adults? Usually when people have other medical issues, they are advised to look for second, third, even fourth opinions. One woman I worked with had to go to 4 doctors before she found one who correctly diagnos... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: WEIGHT GAIN for the Autistic with food troubles. |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2015, 4:13 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Hi, Hard to fine what part of the forum to put this in, but now I'm living independently I want to increase my quality of life and good living. Long story short: - Male Aged 18 (6 months ago) got diagnosed with multiple things, including ASPERGERS. - Weighed 38kg/ 85lbs /6.2 stone whilst being 180c... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: sociopath vrs aspies |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2015, 6:12 pm
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Replies: 77
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| Not sure if any other aspies feel this way but here are my issues with empathy: 1) I have empathy but it is delayed . Ex. A I may have to get a cue from someone that I should help them with something (like carrying a heavy bag). Ex. B I may say something in conversation only to realize later that i... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Virtual Sexists |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2015, 5:08 pm
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Replies: 82
Views: 3,858
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| Have you considered that provoking you is exactly their intention? Walking away is hard but the right thing. I often fail to do this, though. When it comes to sexism, if you are a woman and men say sexist things to you and you don't stand up for yourself and just walk away, they think that is tacit... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than guys? |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2015, 3:12 pm
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Replies: 672
Views: 31,600
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| Young people have a much easier time getting dates. If only I'd started doing this when I was younger. It would have been so much easier back then. This is a self-downing and self-defeating statement. You've already dated an attractive young woman at least once. Yes, it didn't result in a lasting r... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than guys? |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2015, 2:55 pm
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| That will be hard to do given how most of the things we're being exposed to these days such as advertising and the news are motivated not by compassion or a desire for excellence but rather by greed. That is true. I have simply decided that difficult does not equal impossible (and I see this mental... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Is it common for women with AS to get taken advantage of? |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2015, 2:51 pm
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Replies: 96
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| I found the work of Liane Holliday Willey to be very helpful. You might want to check out her book, "Safety Skills for Asperger Women: How to Save a Perfectly Good Female Life" if you haven't already read it. Like the other posters in this thread, I have been, and sadly continue to be far ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Virtual Sexists |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2015, 2:38 pm
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Replies: 82
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| So it never occurred to you to arm yourself with a weapon....Or even a baseball bat to defend yourself against bullies? Neither was exactly an option at school. Besides, I'm sure they'd have grabbed the bat, so I'd have just foolishly given them an extra weapon. I brought a kitchen knife to my Juni... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Virtual Sexists |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2015, 5:01 pm
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Replies: 82
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| Have you considered that provoking you is exactly their intention? Walking away is hard but the right thing. I often fail to do this, though. *sigh* I walk away - they taunt and sneer, labeling me as a typical weak, emotional female I stay - and risk assault charges or being beaten up myself when I... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What Is The Employment Club? |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2015, 4:52 pm
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Replies: 6
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Might need one more term:
Former Member<---
After 25+ years of performance of various repetitive rituals, I decided to take a 'time out' and figure out what was actually happening with my health. 18+ months later, still have not attempted re-entry. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than guys? |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 21 Dec 2015, 3:22 pm
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| Wilferforce, I think you are right. I know there are a number of girls, even attractive girls who have never been asked out. And if they are also too shy to ask someone out (a phenomenon that can happen to girls or guys), then it's a two way street that's being blocked at both ends. I for one like ... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: My stance on a cure for autism |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 21 Dec 2015, 1:44 pm
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Replies: 82
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| The trouble is, as I've already pointed out, you would then be effectively imposing it on the rest of us, because the neurotypicals would tell us to take the fix or have all supports and patience for difference removed anyway. On what basis do you make that claim? Even if I were to accept this as t... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: My stance on a cure for autism |
| Varelse |
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Posted: 21 Dec 2015, 11:49 am
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Replies: 82
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| The trouble is, as I've already pointed out, you would then be effectively imposing it on the rest of us, because the neurotypicals would tell us to take the fix or have all supports and patience for difference removed anyway. On what basis do you make that claim? Even if I were to accept this as t... |
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