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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2018, 10:40 am
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| I agree. Ten days ago, I did pop off at him after he pulled one of his stunts. I said something like, "You are NOT Master of the Universe and I am NOT your subordinate! You will NOT speak to me this way!" It did get his attention. After that, I did send him an email to address the ASD, his... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2018, 11:30 pm
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Good point about the importance of documenting issues!
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2018, 2:38 am
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| Yes, I agree with you: This is about more than HFA, it seems. Sorry to hear about your problem with your neighbors. I also learned my lesson about neighbors the hard way, as you did. What I have gathered over the last ten years is, people who cause that sort of purposeful trouble do not care about t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2018, 12:30 am
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| SweetLeaf, Thanks for your help and support. I think we will need to stick together until my lease is up on 9/1/2019. Hopefully, I spoke to him strongly enough last week that he will back off permanently. Things are quiet here now. No interaction at all for eight days. Perhaps it's over. Wishful thi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2018, 12:26 am
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| Hi CockneyRebel, We haven't spoken since his last 'incident' a full eight days ago. I did snap at him, I was so mad; I informed him that he is not the Master of the Universe, and I am not his subordinate, so he'd better get over himself because I won't let him talk to me that way. We have been avoid... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2018, 9:08 pm
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| Yes, I am a bit familiar with Spoon Theory. As a disabled introvert, I have only so much 'social energy' to expend. I assume Michael has the same sort of social energy limitations. This is why I do not expect him to engage in chit-chat, etc.; I do say, "Have a good day," and the like, but ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2018, 4:57 pm
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| He has a large bedroom all to himself. It would help if he would discuss his autistim and triggers with me - but he will not. He will not admit to triggers. How can I respect his sensory triggers when he will not admit them to me? When he will not admit to having any triggers whatsoever? He's not ma... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2018, 6:36 pm
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| That's exactly what he is trying to do, and why it is all so troubling. I know he has communication issues, but that does not give him permission to hurt me. How about this one? I went to the kitchen to pour a cup of juice. He was already there; he'd just finished making himself a cup of coffee. Cle... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2018, 6:27 pm
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| I cannot tell you all how much I appreciate your helpful input. We both enjoy solitude. I am an introvert. Neither of us watch TV, play video games, or watch movies. We both come home and enjoy our peace and quiet. So, point being, this is not a noisy environment that is putting him over the top. An... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2018, 12:33 pm
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| We have another seven months to go on the lease. He has a very hard time relating. For instance, I once inadvertently left a can of air freshener on the bathroom vanity only to have him then demand to know whether this action of mine indicated malicious intent. Generally, he walks in, makes his dema... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2018, 12:18 pm
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| Thank you for your helpful response. I guess I will just need to send him emails regarding necessary topics, as he yells at me if I speak even one word. What would you recommend regarding other control issues? For instance, if I enter the kitchen while he is present, he yells at me to get out. He is... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Roommate with HFA |
| Blackbearfamily |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2018, 11:59 am
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| Hello, My new roommate (well, he moved in five months ago) has HFA. There are a few issues of concern, but the most problematic one is that he refuses to allow me to speak unless he has initiated the conversation. He is quite rude about this. Essentially, he controls all of the conversations in our ... |
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