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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Theory of mind - can we learn that? |
| PlushDisaster |
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Posted: 22 Nov 2015, 5:57 am
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| NT communication is so complicated!! All they do is all day is communicate. No wonder it needs aspie scientists and aspie artists to get stuff done! Ahahaha! Now that is so spot-on! I make a point to mention that I am a simple person, and everything is just as it looks on the outside. I also avoid ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Theory of mind - can we learn that? |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2015, 1:39 pm
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| It is only a matter of conscious practice. No, you will not look "normal" all the time, yes, you will be regarded as "the Sheldon", but it is possible to achieve some sort of acceptance while still being yourself. The more you learn, the less blunders you commit. With body langua... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Theory of mind - can we learn that? |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2015, 11:43 am
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| Yes, Asperger people can learn it, just it's later and non instincive. The core basis of TOM is already learned in an adult, Asperger people are just worse at the more complicated stuff. Basically if you are in the same environment, among the people you know and care for, you are able to figure out ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Im terribly depressed |
| PlushDisaster |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2015, 5:11 am
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| Alcoholism is the first and most important thing to combat. Groups and institutions that help to fight alcoholism also take care of other psychological problems, because they know that all goes together. Seek help asap. There should be local AA around. Alcoholism is an ilness and it's damn too serio... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2015, 8:49 am
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Replies: 35
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| If you break, you can always be glued together, and sometimes with the patches of gold like these little Japanese porcelain things. You can never come back to what you were, but I found that after a while the new me, with new awareness about the world, is pretty much the person I like. And the old p... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
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Posted: 08 Nov 2015, 3:57 pm
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Replies: 35
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| You could start with looking what your core values are. I mean, freedom, friendship, hard work, these kind of things. Then do things that allow to follow the values. It is even natural to desire a bit of status or wealth, they are just not the thing that should be a primary motivation or an end in i... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2015, 3:51 pm
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| Well, I have a job and a hobby. I identify with both so strongly that I had to make a living as an independent adult to follow them. It could not be done otherwise. Then circumstances almost defeated me. Then, somewhere along the ride, I fell in love and found that together we are stronger, not weak... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Invalidated by my autistic default behaviors |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2015, 6:14 am
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Replies: 21
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A new doctor might be more empathetic. It is possible that they will treat you better. Doctors really can be different, sometimes they are too numbed with their work to notice people, sometimes they're fine.
Also, this sucks, I'm sorry for you. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2015, 6:04 am
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Replies: 35
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| Well, nobody can decide it for yourself. In my case I just really wanted to move out and live independently. Do my own laundry, stay late at the computer and never report where I went to party, even paying my bills seemed like a responsible, attractive possibility, that could boost my self-esteem. L... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2015, 5:11 am
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| For me wondering if to buy a house at 32 sounds like a first world problem. See, where I live, most of my friends have either co-bought their flats with their parents, or parents bought it for them (my case), or inherited the flat from a dead cousin, or are renting. The ones that bought their flat f... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2015, 1:00 pm
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Replies: 35
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| My career is full of nerds, geeks and social originals, so I kind of get a free pass unless I really mess something up. Which happens every now and then, but not as often as before. I'm not underemployed, but not on par with my age peers, I lost a few years. But it's ok. NTs like to have people like... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2015, 5:35 am
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| Oh dear. Then it looks like the place I was in several years ago. There's definitely a pattern. After a year I thought I was better. Then, after another year, I realized I was then in a bad shape actually, and I'm better. Then, it took me two more years until the panic attacks completely subsided (I... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
| PlushDisaster |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2015, 2:43 am
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Replies: 35
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kraftiekortie wrote:
And stop them from thinking about sex all the time.
That, for cats, is actually a quite simple operation  |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2015, 2:23 am
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Replies: 35
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| At least you did not return from your trip with fully blossomed depression and panic attacks. That happens. About that friends and family thing (true friendships are gold, and sometimes more lasting than any romantic interaction), it is not a thing that just happens. It's just some NTs make it look ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: 32 and not a clue... |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2015, 1:26 pm
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Replies: 35
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| I'd say that "taking responsibility for your life" is not looking around for reasons you fail (or you think you fail) or complaining and seeking excuses. Heard from an ex-girlfriend, she probably means the complaining part. Should not miss her. My husband puts up with my complaining for th... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Adult life overload |
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Posted: 28 Oct 2015, 2:14 am
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Replies: 18
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| In minor, everyday cases - use your weekends. Remember to take breaks during the day and to get sleep. If impossible because of babies, ask for help where you have support (spouse, friends, parents, siblings?), so they can do things for you, and you sleep. In any case, sleeping is important. Sometim... |
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