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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What do you do when you find yourself unable to connect |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 07 Oct 2015, 10:19 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,272
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| I am not sure if the OP is still going through this but I have had this happen to me. I assumed that perhaps my friend was going through some type of depression. I want to be there for him but it hurts when I am giving my all and getting nothing in return. I think it is best to admit there is a prob... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2015, 6:48 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| kraftiekortie, thanks so much for your words. I have found solace in being able to speak with you Aspies. I joke that I just missed the cutoff for falling on the spectrum myself. It is possible that I am just too overwhelming for him so he can only take me in doses. Maybe the feelings are more than ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2015, 6:19 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| I am so confused. We have been intimate....once. He is very desirous of me. He always tells me how pretty and beautiful I am. I always contact him and he comes back around....I just don't understand why he doesn't put the effort in if he likes me. What is holding him back? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2015, 5:59 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| kraftiekortie, do you mind if I ask, while you were dating did you ever go days or even more than a week without talking to the woman who ended up becoming your wife? If so, why did you do that and what were your feelings for her at that time? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2015, 5:14 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| I might add that this is where the turmoil arises. As much as I hate the distance I feel like he needs me. I feel like he is going through some type of depression and I am the only one who reaches out to him. He told me that his parents were the only ones besides me who check on him. It is just hard... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2015, 4:47 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| *sigh* This is not the kind of relationship that I want or need. I believe that we are spiritually connected. Intuitively, I know he is not doing this because he is angry with me or trying to punish me because we haven't gotten into an argument. We haven't been fighting about anything and we both ab... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2015, 4:40 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| I think that League_Girl may be transferring her negative experience with her ex onto my experience with my guy. He is not a narcissist. He literally will put himself in situations so as not to hurt other people. Though he does have an issue with avoidance. I even looked at the Schizotypal and Shizo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2015, 4:31 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| He never said he was on the spectrum, but I used my experience of studying clinical psychology and being 'married' to the DSM-IV, in addition to the two adults I knew with Aspergers as well as the children that I have worked with on the spectrum to deduce that he is also indeed on the spectrum. Most... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2015, 3:29 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| Thanks for the insight rdos. I am still trying to figure it all out myself. As I stated, we have been friends for 11 years. He finally confided in me this year that he obsessed over me for all of those years but never had the courage to tell me how he felt until now. So yes, it is puzzling that he h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2015, 1:38 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| He also has an IQ of 150. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
| Matureflower |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2015, 1:34 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| Thanks for the response Waterfalls. I initially thought that maybe it was because he was an INFP and that it might have something to do with how he responds to situations. But, I started putting the pieces together. His parents came to visit him earlier in the year and he said he wasn't looking forw... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT dating an UD Aspie and confused by his actions |
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Posted: 04 Oct 2015, 1:10 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,583
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| Help! I have been dating an undiagnosed Aspie with all of the classic symptoms. We were friends for 11 years and connected within the past year. When we first started dating I had no clue that he could possibly be on the spectrum. He cut me off after two months when I said something to him that he f... |
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