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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2015, 4:13 am
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| I can't offer a lot of good advice--if he wants to leave, he's an adult and you can't stop him. But here is a small piece of insight into an aspie mind (mine, anyway) that i see no one has mentioned yet and i must tell it in a story since that is how i think: <snip> Thanks for the insight, it's ver... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2015, 4:00 am
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| There's very little that is universal about people on the spectrum, but the idea of letting them come to you is nearly so. I like to be near people for a while and observe them before I interact with them. If they ask me too many personal questions or seem overly-friendly, I want nothing to do with... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2015, 7:39 am
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| Let him come to you if he doesn't for a while then maybe lightheartedly mention it way before bed time so he knows your open to the idea. He might be unsure of his boundaries. Thanks ZD, you and a couple others here have been really helpful. I'll definitely try it! I'm not great at being patient, b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2015, 7:30 am
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| :D You go girl! You're doing everything exactly right, he looks like he's feeling a lot freer now that you have given him, and are continuing to give him plenty of space. I'm so pleased for you! Carry on! :D It won't be easy, it doesn't come naturally to me to be patient! But I can wait - he's a go... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 18 Nov 2015, 4:00 pm
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| I recently ended a relationship the same way he did. My guess as to why he doesn't want to tell other people about the breakup is that he wants to be fair to you. He doesn't want to cause drama with other people. He also probably is still working though his feelings about the breakup. He is just do... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2015, 2:05 pm
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| But what I don't understand is why he doesn't want anyone to know it's over between you two. what you can do now is live like you are room mates. If he doesn't want to eat with you or be in the same room as you or even want to see you, that is his problem. Let him make it hard for himself and you j... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2015, 10:27 am
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| Smudge, Thank you. Your post was perfectly to the point and gave me real, solid advice I can follow. I recognise almost everything you said in regards to how he is feeling, and also how my presence is making him feel - you've just articulated it far better than I could :) Funnily enough I've started... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2015, 10:21 am
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| He won't realise he is messing with your head to me he's been quite clear. I wouldn't read anything into him sleeping in the same bed as it's his bed, I would do the same thing why would I sleep somewhere else. I think he isn't fully committed to leaving yet but as I said before do as he asks, give... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2015, 9:55 am
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| He is an adult and said its over. Everything else is just noise. With all due respect, we are both adults and there are certainly more ways to communicate than with just with words - why would I apply more weight to him verbalising that it's over then anything he does ? That seems a bit illogical t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2015, 9:05 am
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| If this is it-- Well, do you really want to be in a forever relationship with someone who can't forgive you when you f**k up big-time?? Because everyone does. Thanks for the reply, BB. That last line really hit home. I do know what you mean, and it is something that I've given a fair amount of thou... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS partner wants to end relationship - advice needed please |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2015, 7:49 am
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| Hello everyone, I'm brand new here, and relieved to finally find what seems to be an active and knowledgeable site. I'm sure what I'm about to ask advice on has been written a million times, so thank you in advance for reading on... I'm currently living with my partner - we've lived together for jus... |
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