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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Sorry to any members or readers I have harmed |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2016, 12:07 pm
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Replies: 4
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| It has been brought to my attention that my posting style is upsetting to people, so I would like to apologize for any harm I have caused by being too blunt. It has been nice engaging with you all, but I will move on now and have asked for a ban. I wish you all the best! |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: She's weird |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2016, 11:41 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 678
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| Yep that sounds like my former friend alright and she made me feel bad by making cutting remarks here and there about her family, friends and spouse having a problem with me over this or that. She also cut me down all the time for this or that. - I wear my hair short and that I was too young to hav... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: She's weird |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2016, 9:35 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 678
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| If someone has a low opinion of themselves, they may translate this to not respecting the opinion of anyone who genuinely likes them, seeing it as a sign of your bad taste or stupidity, and gravitating to those that mistreat them, seeing it as a sign that the mistreater has accurately assessed them ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Looking for new friends in adulthood-Out of ideas |
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Posted: 20 Jan 2016, 4:20 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,187
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| Let me start off by saying I really appreciate, in the truest sense of the word, that a stranger would take the time to address this issue in such detail. It’s obvious you’ve thought out your responses and are an insightful person that I can learn from. You seemingly possess many skills I lack, yet... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Looking for new friends in adulthood-Out of ideas |
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Posted: 20 Jan 2016, 4:19 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,187
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| Let me start off by saying I really appreciate, in the truest sense of the word, that a stranger would take the time to address this issue in such detail. It’s obvious you’ve thought out your responses and are an insightful person that I can learn from. You seemingly possess many skills I lack, yet... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People don't believe |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2016, 2:40 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 1,135
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| That's a lot of stuff to say you just done't to be helpful. That's fine. Nobody said that you or anybody else had to do anything. But, when people do make allowances for you, and I think there are a lot of them doing so and you either won't see it or can't, you should try to recognize it. You can b... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Looking for new friends in adulthood-Out of ideas |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2016, 2:27 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,187
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| @Mobers: Thank you for the thoughtful response. I appreciate the challenge to my way of seeing this in a helpful manner. I’m currently evaluating many of these things about myself and am (at times) begrudgingly accepting that my way of seeing things isn’t always the “right”. This signifies signific... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People don't believe |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2016, 1:52 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 1,135
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| That's a lot to wade through, but I take exception to the idea that nobody should have to make allowances. And, always being on the lookout or too vigilant for fakers can prevent people who need help to be denied. It's sum effect is marginalization for those that need the help or recognition. So, l... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People don't believe |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2016, 1:52 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 1,135
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| That's a lot to wade through, but I take exception to the idea that nobody should have to make allowances. And, always being on the lookout or too vigilant for fakers can prevent people who need help to be denied. It's sum effect is marginalization for those that need the help or recognition. So, l... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People don't believe |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2016, 1:24 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 1,135
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| Huge misinformation by posters here. First of all the OP did not self diagnose, she told people she POSSIBLY has AS. Deciding you may have a condition on the basis of your own research is self-diagnosing. It doesn't mean that your diagnosis is incorrect, but it isn't the same to others as being dia... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I don't get it anymore! |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2016, 10:22 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 508
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| Your friend should not be shouting at you, even if you somehow made some minor faux pas. I don't see anything wrong with your behavior in any of the situations, but even if you've accidentally left out some relevant details that you weren't aware of or didn't perceive as relevant, your friend's reac... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: People think I'm arguing when I'm trying to understand |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2016, 9:54 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 5,729
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| This happens to me often. One problem is that people often enjoy talking about things they know practically nothing about. They have conversations with each other that are exchanges of misinformation with neither party listening very closely or thinking very hard. While you or I upon hearing somethi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Doing all the work! |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2016, 9:33 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 384
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| Sometimes people just accept that their role in a relationship is that of receiver and they don't bother to try to change it, assuming that you're comfortable in your role. You could stop trying to contact them and see if they pick up the slack, or even let them know that you aren't sure if you shou... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Growing up too fast? Too slow? Lemme explain... |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2016, 9:19 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 300
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| I'm currently 15, but I currently have a very bizarre...Dilemma, I guess, going on right now. Lately, I've been feeling like I've "grown up too fast", and that I'm not ready for the "adult", or even "teenage" world. I feel as though everything's just moving too fast, a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People don't believe |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2016, 9:03 am
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Replies: 28
Views: 1,135
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| Without you actually being diagnosed, why would people believe you? As far as they are concerned, you have decided you have a neurological difference based on a couple of things you read on the internet, plus this difference could be something that would potentially require them to excuse behavior t... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Looking for new friends in adulthood-Out of ideas |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2016, 10:07 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,187
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| Of course not. And I don't mean sharing interests, simply my ability to connect with another person regarding friendship, something I think a lot of aspies have trouble with. Connecting with others can definitely be challenging. One thing that helps is to approach an interaction with the mindset th... |
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