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Forum: The Haven Topic: Nothing ever changes |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2016, 4:56 am
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Replies: 40
Views: 1,238
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I feel the same way. It's so hard to make friends, and even harder to keep them when everything is changing all of the time. I'm the only thing that doesn't change, but I desperately need to.
You're not alone. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm a terrible person. |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2016, 4:51 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 465
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| Yeah, I'm a terrible person. Just, in general. I say the wrong things at all the wrong times. I hurt people without meaning to, and then my apology isn't enough. I try so, so hard to be a nice person. I really do! I compliment my friends as often as I can, but it's not enough. It's never enough. I'v... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Were you a bossy child? |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2016, 6:25 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,358
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| Oh, absolutely. For every game I set rules, even for imaginative role-play games, and if they were broken I would be terribly mad. I needed to know what exactly doing, and I would break down when the other kids drifted off to play other games as they do. I often asked my playmates what the point of ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and OCD |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 14 Aug 2016, 6:12 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 344
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| I've read a lot about how autism and OCD overlap, such as with repetitive behaviours. However, I was wondering about possible overlaps between the two on the issue of intrusive thoughts. Ever since I can remember I've struggled with intrusive thoughts. I would cry for days because I was afraid of ki... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: When Autism Comes up in Class |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2016, 8:38 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,613
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| That sounds horrible, painting ASD people as subhuman. I would argue that we are more human than neurotypicals in some ways. It really bothers me when people in class use "autistic" as a playful insult. I'm not "out" as an Aspie, so I don't really say anything, but I swear someda... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why do people think I'm innocent? |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2016, 8:33 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 13,433
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| I know the feeling. In my case, it's a combination of my short stature, my babyface, and my extroversion. They usually change their minds when I start actually talking, because I speak very very formally, and I'm extremely pedantic. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Some NT just called me a robot |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2016, 8:30 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,112
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| I've had that too. People tell me I'm an encyclopaedia, too, because I know a lot about a lot of things, and I'm not good with jokes and sarcasm. I tend to talk in a very formal way, like a professional debate, and they come to the conclusion that I don't have feelings. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Signs that someone is losing interest in you |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2016, 8:27 am
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Replies: 42
Views: 13,793
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| I'm not too great at reading those signs either, but the things I have noticed are: - If you ask them how they've been, they just say something silly like "Good" - They hang out with people you don't usually hang out with - They don't respond to your texts, calls, etc. - They tell you you'... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Extroverted Personality and Autism/Aspergers |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2016, 8:22 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 23,147
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| I'm an extroverted Aspie, but to most I come across as introverted. I tend to be reserved when meeting other people because I just can't do small talk. I either launch into big discussions or stay silent, and I chose the latter. On the rare occasion that I make a friend, however, I am social to the ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Sensory Issues with eating |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 04 May 2016, 12:57 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 436
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| I'm close to underweight because I can't stand the texture of many foods. I gave up meat because it was hell for my senses, and I can't stand milk or hardboiled or fried eggs. I hate bread, beans and some sorts of pastas, and I can't eat much of what I do like because I have a small stomach. As a re... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: To diagnose or not to diagnose? |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 04 May 2016, 12:52 am
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Replies: 56
Views: 1,744
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| You should talk to your family first. When I first realised I might have AS, I first talked to my mother, who noted that she'd wondered about it herself since I was very small. Talk to your parents about how you acted when you were little, maybe that will give you some insight. For example, I used t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I figured out what NT's mean by "smiling" |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 04 May 2016, 12:39 am
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Replies: 40
Views: 1,941
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I used to smile 24/7 because I was told to smile before I realised this was what they meant!
I've given up on trying to look happy, because it just doesn't work for me. |
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Forum: Adolescent Autism Forum Topic: How popular are YOU? |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 04 May 2016, 12:36 am
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Replies: 143
Views: 34,886
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| I'm generally well respected, but there are a few people who hate me and a few who like me. I think that because of my straightforward personality, most people wouldn't like me if I didn't get good grades. I'm lucky in that respect. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why don't NT's come to our gatherings |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 04 May 2016, 12:33 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,013
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| Nobody likes being an outsider to a group. I think everyone likes to hang out with like-minded people, and NT people are no different. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I am able to talk about deep things, I can't do small talk |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 04 May 2016, 12:31 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 5,662
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| I can't do small talk either. It involves too many vague expressions and formalities, it's hard for me to wrap my head around. When I'm talking about a topic of some substance, it's far easier to know what they're talking about, and I feel productive. Diving straight into my favoured topics hasn't g... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: People more responsive when you're not trying to be friendl? |
| Ladybeetle |
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Posted: 04 May 2016, 12:28 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,122
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| I notice this too. If you act reserved and uninterested, people want to be friends with you. If you act friendly and bubbly, people actively avoid you. It sucks that I always get the opposite reaction! Other people can get away just fine with being over exuberant to the point of being clingy, and ha... |
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