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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie traits? |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2016, 3:49 pm
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| Hi, Dated a very very quiet woman for 4 months + 1 months of social media + 1 month we're off due to vacation/b trips. Not exclusive haven't held hands yet. Doesn't help when she's extremely traditional and conservative (Asian). I'm from the same culture as her but just a little more liberal. Just w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: If you had the chance to cure you're Autism would you? |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2016, 5:28 pm
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| The answer should always be yes IMO. And I'm not here to judge anyone, but coming from how the human species work, if all of us were Autistic and shy away from social interaction, we would not be here today. Humans evolved because our ancestors (you know, when they look like apes) formed social conn... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it even possible for ASD + NT relationships to work? |
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Posted: 13 Jul 2016, 8:47 am
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| It’s worth remembering that “neurotypicals” aren’t all the same. (Some people on here do seem to forget that!) There is an enormous psychological range in the general population. I know non-autistic people who are fully capable of meeting me halfway if I explain my point of view, and others who sel... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it even possible for ASD + NT relationships to work? |
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Posted: 13 Jul 2016, 7:47 am
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| I have an NT boyfriend and am lucky that he is very understanding. I don't thing being very critical is an NT thing to be honest. Sometimes I do have meltdowns and it have taken him 2 years to understand and recognise it's not me being difficult and that it is natural. He sometimes struggles becaus... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My girlfriend might have Aspergers |
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Posted: 13 Jul 2016, 7:44 am
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| An NT perspective for a relationship with a neurodiverse man (in my case). Learning my lovely friend had aspergers was the breakthrough I needed to understand him. He was'nt being uncaring, aloof or cold, in fact quite the opposite. However it is a little like learning a different language you have... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My girlfriend might have Aspergers |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2016, 8:25 pm
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| You're completely ignoring what I said. If the person doesn't know they have an asd they can't tell you that they are on the spectrum. Ah...sorry. Would they know they're 'different' (at least, for HFA)? I remember I was going through HBR's book on Emotional Intelligence, and the girl I spoke to (w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My girlfriend might have Aspergers |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2016, 6:00 pm
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| Not sure if Katy, but for the lurkers... People who you think have an asd can't be forthcoming about it if they don't know they are on the spectrum. All they're doing is their best and feeling bewildered when other people get upset with them Its expectation management. Its a stigma to reveal mental... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My girlfriend might have Aspergers |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2016, 4:56 pm
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| Man....what you said is soooo similar to a chick I just broke off with. 6 months of dating too... She never told me anything about her allegedly disorder. I thought it was a matter of introversion until I researched the issue. Now I know why she acted the way she did and was able to go white to blac... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does this person have AS? |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2016, 3:49 pm
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| Lol, I don't know about this.. What's that 'weird observation' about hairs?? And hairs on her leg? You are strangly observant. And then you find her 'suspicious of others'. Well that makes sense. Someone like you would really creep me out. Also wondering how she would like it that you are in no con... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does this person have AS? |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2016, 2:19 pm
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| Yes, I understand it's hard to acknowledge oneself with such issues. What you said is true. Its just unfortunate I am not able to help her and given how she's wrapped in bubble sheets by her parents for the past 2 decades, I dont think it's possible for her to adapt but to live in her own world. Not... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does this person have AS? |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2016, 1:48 pm
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| Thanks Kraftie. Haha we cant break up if we were never together. I cant seem to find info on BAP. I did do a questionnaire based on what i know of her (questions im uncertain about i give benefit of the doubt responses) and she scored high on eccentric and rigid, says it could be BAP or autism. My m... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does this person have AS? |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2016, 10:39 am
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| You're right...a traditional Chinese father probably wouldn't pry like they seem to be prying. And they probably wouldn't ask you; they might investigate themselves, or ask family members who are around her age. I'm wondering if the parents she's promiscuous, based upon the fact that she's "da... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does this person have AS? |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2016, 9:47 am
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| I'm actually a very traditional and conservative Chinese as well. I understand the quirks that were mentioned - infact, while she's been actively dating different people for 5 years I haven't dated anyone in 10. But that's why I think she might have something beyond introversion. I did ask my introv... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does this person have AS? |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2016, 9:20 am
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shes Chinese
Very traditional and conservative
Dad wouldnt let her go on dates until she was done with her Masters. Came over to N. America at 16 yrs of age. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does this person have AS? |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2016, 8:45 am
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| Hi, I am new to the board. I went through a rough 6 months trying to figure out a girl I have been dating. Now that things have ended - quite abruptly, I do want to know whether I have been dating someone who is different from the average Joe out there. I do note though, I never thought or treated h... |
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