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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The Social RULES Do NOT Apply to Us |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2019, 2:02 am
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Replies: 58
Views: 2,430
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| That's Sheldon Cooper's way of relating to people. It's not most people's way of relating to people. I quite like the idea of drawing up entire social contracts for interactions with someone living in close proximity to me. Yes, there's beauty in guesswork in getting to know someone but the basic s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: [If applicable] Why do you find eye contact difficult? |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2019, 1:51 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 1,870
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| Remembers me to something. Two weeks ago a guy wanted to shake my hand but didn't dare to look at me and looked away to the ground. First I thought that he was one of the islamistic s**theads like there are many in Germany now. I told him that he should look into my eyes while he takes my hand. He ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: [If applicable] Why do you find eye contact difficult? |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2019, 1:46 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 1,870
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| I don't like eye contact because I feel like it's one of those nuanced things. Staring can be used to convey one's earnest sincerity but it can also be used to challenge the other person. And uninterrupted eye contact is just as unsettling. The more comfortable you feel with a person, the easier it ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I sometimes think that not everyone likes me |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2019, 10:53 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 579
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| Social media is largely used to project our ideal selves. Brazen. Bold. Successful. There are failures and there are accomplishments. The constant gloomy news may be offputing but don't get fooled by what others post. As for how you relate to others, I had really bad social anxiety because of my obs... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How important are diagnostic questionnaires? |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 07 Oct 2018, 7:44 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 429
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| I'm not an expert but irritation and violent behavuor would potentially incur a diagnosis of either depression or a disorder versus a neurological condition. Hopefully after the questionnaire, the neuropsychologist actually interviews you because questionnaires can be fudged. You should probably voi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Voice Inflection |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2018, 1:21 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 1,689
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| I have the same experience as the original poster; however, I don't ever really get choked up unless I'm furious. I've watched television and not travelled. My friend finds it annoying after a while. Sometimes, I consciously do it to see if I have control over it but it tends to sound more authentic... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Mentally Feel Younger |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2018, 1:47 pm
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Replies: 65
Views: 2,961
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| I've always had my mental age and intellectual age as incongruous. I think because society doesn't really confront getting help from others beyond this misconceived notion of a Renaissance Man who can do a little of everything. It's only in academic settings where they tell us to abandon that notion... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Sertraline (Zoloft) experience. |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2018, 7:53 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 474
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| My experience has been odd. I thought this whole time that being selectively mute and poor at understanding people past a purely emotional and intellectual level (knowing why someone was mad but not quite understanding the customs of comfort) was wrong. Since I started taking the medication, I've ba... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is God More of an NT Concept? |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2018, 2:50 am
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Replies: 36
Views: 1,080
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| I hope this opinion isn't too unpopular: We are not made in God's image but rather we have made Him in our own. The thing about religion is that depending on the community's culture, how the pillars are interpreted varies by the people. Hateful Christians are very guilty of cherry-picking verses but... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Study of Being Mindful of Social Exhaustion |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2018, 2:36 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 434
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| I appreciate all the replies! @Mr. Bike, I do believe that self-care often swems indulgent to those who don't experience how much it does for you. But she loves you regardless so it's all good. @Mme Arthur, I need to acquire a person like your husband in my respective circles... I like your system @... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How would you explain this? |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2018, 9:33 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 300
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| Delayed reactions. Like severely delayed reactions. Did you feel the anger then when the incident of the shouting occurred or was it only when you remember getting upset some six years later? When you say that you tense up, I imagine that you tense up as if you're about to yell or pounce but that yo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Exhaustion- is this unreasonable? |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2018, 9:20 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 278
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| You aren't being overly dramatic. This was a dramatic revelation for you, maybe even an epiphany. As for unreasonable, not to offend you, but you've just parroted parables that say that you should be yourself because you can never please the world. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why Do We Struggle In Social Circles? |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2018, 9:12 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,200
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| I believe that a few people made a point of saying that it was a matter of interests, like the relevance of the conversation topic and in what you have interest. I think we largely struggle because while most neurotypicals claim to only wait until there is a lull to insert their piece while half-lis... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Study of Being Mindful of Social Exhaustion |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2018, 8:57 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 434
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| Ever since I learned that I was autistic, I have an easier time of noticing when I feel emotionally drained during social interactions. I'm now at the point where my reactions aren't wooden but the mask physically feels harder to slip into place and I start to falter into resting mode. Before, I cou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Expert on Myself |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2018, 9:15 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 216
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| I have. I'm seeing a psychiatrist. He's nice. The meeting went well. I'm decreasing my dosage and seeing how things plays out. But yeah, I've been coming out of burnout for the past month so I feel myself feeling more than a little fatigued even though I started BC over two months ago. Judging from ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Expert on Myself |
| Desmilliondetoiles |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2018, 6:56 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 216
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| I don't want to further complicate my health. My doctors are somewhat appalled at the idea that I want to get off the sertraline but in my other burnouts, I didn't need it. Granted, I'm definitely more overwhelmed in young adulthood than I was by acknowledging other kids; yet, I think I'm taking too... |
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