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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: how many is too many? |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2017, 11:55 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 1,582
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| there is no answer. it's all about the person. it's no one's position to judge you. you are who you are and if you like sex, who is to judge that. we are all individuals and it is good to be ourselves and if some one is compatible with that, well, that is awesome. otherwise have no worries |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Living Life In the fast or slow lane? |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2016, 2:59 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 428
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| being dx later in life, i feel living in the fast lane has led my anxiety, depression, and burn out issues. i am feeling much better now that i have learned some limits and have stopped trying to meet everyone elses high expectations. not that you can not push yourself, but having boundaries is impo... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: ADHD and Aspergers |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2016, 2:53 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 552
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| i was dx at age 43 with aspergers. i was previously dx with adhd/pi, depression, and anxiety. now i am the recipient of all 4 dx. actually doing better now that we are treating the adhd symptoms along with depression as in the past it was one or the other with poor results. also putting things into ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Drinking and ASD |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2016, 11:49 pm
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Replies: 52
Views: 23,918
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| then of course becoming a beer snob becomes a special interest. crazy town |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Drinking and ASD |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2016, 11:48 pm
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Replies: 52
Views: 23,918
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| unfortunately alcoholism runs in my family and i am hfa, thus it becomes a great self medication for all the sensory and emotional overloads i feel. is it any worse than taking valium etc? any worse than muscle relaxers? not sure? i know i can let my brain relax and fall asleep. pretty crappy situat... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you live in 'the now' and forget about 'the before'? |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2016, 10:27 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 910
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| i am very much in the now and future. i quickly move on to new things and new interests. i am also adhd. i tend to compartmentalize my past and especially bury the uncomfortable stuff. i love denial. i also tend to take an identity of what i am doing currently. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: I'm HFA and really terrified at the thought of having kids |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2016, 10:23 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 3,425
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| i had a child prior to being diagnosed. i never really wanted kids but felt like it was you were supposed to do to be normal. i cant say that i regret it. he may be the only real love i have felt. however it increased my stress levels: financial, change in relationship with spouse, lack of sleep, in... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: I am lost (in my marriage, and new to AS) |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2016, 9:24 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 889
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| sorry to hear of the hard times you are going through. not sure if i can offer great advice but your situation is almost identical to mine. i would agree counseling with an AS specialist therapist should help. our therapist can say the same thing i do but my wife will believe the therapist more than... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: coping vs authenticity |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2016, 7:41 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 331
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struggling with the concept of accepting and embracing my HFA.
How do you balance being yourself and coping which i take as acting NT?
How do you balance pleasing others vs pleasing one self?
thanks |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Burnout... |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2016, 9:35 am
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Replies: 44
Views: 3,502
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my bad, i should start a new thread, not used to online posting and was desperate for some further advise.
and yes, i am self absorbed, i have aspergers, i am depressed, and going through a hard time. so be it. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Burnout... |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2016, 12:20 am
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Replies: 44
Views: 3,502
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| Any pearls of wisdom on how to move fwd from burnout. My hfa attributes came on strong after a series a major stress events and seem to be worsening. Now it is very difficult to keep things together. I am disorganized, forgetful, and have less executive functioning than before. This has been a progr... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and Burnout |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2016, 12:02 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 12,202
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| Any other successful strategies? Recently diagnosed because burnout has brought forth my hfa tendancies that I was able to hide easier in my past even though I never thought of myself as hfa. I get it now as I have played the chameleon role thinking that was normal all along. Now I am struggling as ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How is your marriage going? |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2016, 11:43 pm
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Replies: 54
Views: 5,023
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| All in all my marriage is failing. We have had issues since my son was born and I had significant job stress at the same time. This led to burnout and depression for me thus leading to some bad choices and abuse of alcohol. Obviously this has had negative impact on my family. Now 10 years later, I a... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Are you very high-functioning? |
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Posted: 17 Aug 2016, 12:56 am
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Replies: 171
Views: 24,921
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| hi y'all i am whats considering high functioning in that i have made it to 40s with career and family. unfortunately, the success has led to high expectations by myself, employers, and family leading to eventual asperger burnout with worsening traits. not sure how to proceed in the future with regar... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: newbie |
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Posted: 16 Aug 2016, 11:15 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 237
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| hi i am recently dx with aspergers/hfa as an adult after years of difficulties. i always felt challenged but never realized other people were different. i moved around quite a bit as a child so i became adept of being a chameleon to fit in and try to make friend. these skills along with denial worke... |
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