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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I want to have friends but I get too scared |
| RuRuPachu |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2017, 10:07 am
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Replies: 2
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| Hi, I'm wondering whether anyone else has this problem -- I really want to have friends and interact with people, but I find it exhausting and frightening sometimes to talk to them at all, even over email or text. Like after a while, when I see I've got a text from a 'new friend' (no idea if they're... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Colleagues want a party for me but I don't?! |
| RuRuPachu |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2017, 5:37 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 380
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| Hi, I'm not sure whether this should be in the work forum or not but if I'm wrong please tell me. My colleagues always organise birthday meals for people having "special" birthdays, e.g. 21, 30, 40 etc. Unfortunately soon I'm having a "special" birthday so a birthday meal is bein... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: discomfort with people crying |
| RuRuPachu |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2017, 4:07 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,726
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| People crying makes me uncomfortable too. I do feel empathy for them, but I am terrified of comforting them because people can be so unpredictable when they're upset and I don't know what would make them feel better since everyone is different and the situation is always different too. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: how do people view u |
| RuRuPachu |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2017, 3:31 pm
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Replies: 44
Views: 3,242
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| It depends who you ask. People (especially men) often comment on my resting face and ask me why I'm not smiling, I usually get told that my resting face is angry or sad, even when I feel happy, so to be told "you look angry/sad" just makes me anxious and not happy. The answer from people w... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do I say to estate agents? |
| RuRuPachu |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2017, 3:13 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,915
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| Thank you for your advice, I'm sorry I'm so late in replying! Yes we are renting, and it is incredibly lucky that I do get so obsessive about things I am excited about like this so I do remember details! I have a terrible memory unless it's about something I'm excited about haha. It's the staring fr... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do I say to estate agents? |
| RuRuPachu |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2017, 5:44 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,915
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Haha I thought of that too! My boyfriend and I are going to look for flats on weekends when most people will be home (hopefully) so we can see how noisy it would be on our weekends. That's a really useful tip, thank you  |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do I say to estate agents? |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2017, 5:36 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,915
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| Thank you very much for your response, my parents have advised this too, and it comes up on google a lot. I will make very very sure that I understand the contract before signing, thank you for recommending it! |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do I say to estate agents? |
| RuRuPachu |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2017, 5:16 pm
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Replies: 17
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Thank you, that was an incredibly helpful reply and it's made me feel a lot better about the situation! It's good to know that people on the spectrum have the upper hand in social situations sometimes  |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do I say to estate agents? |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2017, 4:49 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,915
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| I think this might be completely out of place but I don't know where else to post it, so I'm sorry if this is the wrong place for my post! I'm currently looking for a flat to move into with my boyfriend (who is also autistic) and when estate agents show us around flats, they seem to want us to say s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: is there any hope for a future for someone like me? |
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Posted: 03 Dec 2016, 5:33 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 819
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| It's never too late to go to school! What helped my social anxiety a bit was doing volunteer work in a charity shop, and the skills I learned from that helped me get my first job six months ago. I think you can find introverts anywhere to be honest, but if you feel you would be happier in another co... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Are some people inherently worthwhile? |
| RuRuPachu |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2016, 3:18 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 739
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| I'm sorry you're going through this. I also find it hard to see people making friends without effort when it's such a struggle for me. In the end, I had to force myself to socialise through work. It was really, really awkward to start with and I hated it. However, after six months I've found people ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friendship Board - Age 19 Onwards |
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Posted: 06 Nov 2016, 9:05 am
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Replies: 1,197
Views: 734,148
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| Hi, my name's Ruby, I'm 20 years old and I'm from England. I have a lot of interests, like Harry Potter, Star Wars, LOTR and The Hobbit, languages in general, astronomy, psychology and other things. I especially love learning about medicine and medical procedures! I have a full time job and find it ... |
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