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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
| Lucy521 |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2017, 8:57 am
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| I'm also wondering if they counselor does any one-on-one work if there is little to no progress while you are both together in sessions. Also, does the counselor not moderate as well? Seems pointless if they just let you two have at it. Unfortunately, she will not see us individually since we are t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
| Lucy521 |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2017, 8:52 am
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| You would probably have more success with hypno-therapy rather than conventional-therapy. I will tell you about an interesting story that I remember reading (although it seems to have disappeared from the book for some reason that I suspect might be related to The Mandela-Effect). Anyway, within th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 4:50 pm
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| A diagnosis can be resisted or unwelcome (college kid, a little rough) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3tVEEfOGQhs There can be a defensive component to Aspergers that creates misunderstanding which then exacerbates feelings of hurt and prompts a counter attack. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P1iz... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
| Lucy521 |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 4:39 pm
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| I'm also wondering if they counselor does any one-on-one work if there is little to no progress while you are both together in sessions. Also, does the counselor not moderate as well? Seems pointless if they just let you two have at it. Unfortunately, she will not see us individually since we are t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 4:17 pm
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| What happens when you confront him with the lies, and give evidence that he is lying? I've actually seen people accuse Aspies about lying about something that is said when it's not actually lying. What it might be instead is the missing of non-verbal cues in addition to what is said, which NT's rem... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 4:05 pm
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| http://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=275874 Thread on couples therapy. My opinion is that if a therapist isn't familiar with Aspergers's the good intentions and expertise with normal couples isn't enough to be helpful. She's actually the head of an organization that provides therapy and ot... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 4:02 pm
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| I'm also wondering if they counselor does any one-on-one work if there is little to no progress while you are both together in sessions. Also, does the counselor not moderate as well? Seems pointless if they just let you two have at it. Unfortunately, she will not see us individually since we are t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 3:54 pm
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| What happens when you confront him with the lies, and give evidence that he is lying? He changes the subject very quickly and knows to press a trigger in me so that I easily forget about what I've just caught him lying about. I've heard from other spouses that their partner will often lie to get ou... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 2:48 pm
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| I don't see him as being a Sociopath, but I've been wrong before. Our therapy is SO UNPRODUCTIVE. The blame game is getting old. Wondering why the therapist doesn't start explaining more about the dynamic and how to address it. No use in arguing for 1 hour and going home. Our marriage is worse in th... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Characteristics of AS in females |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 9:50 am
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| Females with Aspergers Non-Official Checklist By Samantha Craft of Everyday Asperger’s, March 2012 This is a non-official checklist created by an adult female with Asperger’s Syndrome who has a son with Asperger’s Syndrome. Samantha Craft holds a Masters Degree in Education. Samantha Craft does not ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Psychologist doesn't think I have aspergers. |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 9:38 am
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| What a horrible feeling to have someone invalidate your very experience of life. I know that feeling all too well and I'll say what everyone else is saying... find a specialist!! Other professionals in the Psych field don't know enough about ASD and if they do, they tend to only know about the stere... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for Men who are Aspies... |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 9:28 am
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| I have a question for you men out there in Aspie-land. My husband and I are both in the process of being diagnosed with Aspergers, along with our three children. Up until 6 months ago, I had no clue what had happened to the man I had married. He was wonderful, with some quirks, but nothing even clos... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: 2 undiagnosed aspies MARRIED & STRUGGLING... is this common? |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2017, 9:01 am
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| Lucy, I'm going to go out on a limb here and recommend that you determine if he could be a sociopath. Search on "identify a sociopath" for some sites that will help you. BTW, sociopath is the new term for what we used to call a psychopath. Anytime people are discussing interpersonal diffi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: 2 undiagnosed aspies MARRIED & STRUGGLING... is this common? |
| Lucy521 |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2017, 9:48 pm
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I'm 100% on board and I couldn't agree more. What's that saying, "Be the change you wish to see in the world" ?!
Yup... that's the one. Thanks. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: 2 undiagnosed aspies MARRIED & STRUGGLING... is this common? |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2017, 9:11 pm
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| Hi BTDT: Ugh! That's a hard pill to swallow. I couldn't imagine being in a marriage where my husband gets to remain in denial about his behaviors that severely impact our family on a daily basis, children included. AS or not, no one should be given a green light when it comes to blatant disregard fo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: 2 undiagnosed aspies MARRIED & STRUGGLING... is this common? |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2017, 8:18 pm
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| Thank you, Glflegolas. I just wrote a whole reply and poof! It's gone. So, now feeling slightly frustrated, I'll recap by saying... I've tried to reach out to people close to him, his mother and closest childhood friend. They turned it all around on me and made excuses for his behavior. He's a team ... |
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