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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I'm afraid of talking to people |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2017, 11:22 am
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Replies: 2
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Hi Awkward,
What exactly do you think will happen? A lot of people are shy, and shopkeepers will surely have encountered people like you -- as well as people of every different sort of personality.
Really think about what is worrying you. Being quiet is fine! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers with Abstract Thinking? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2017, 9:49 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,490
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| I wondered if the 'literal thinking' that a lot of people experience might rule out proficiency with abstractions. But on reflection it seems like literalness is not incompatible with abstraction. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers with Abstract Thinking? |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2017, 9:02 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,490
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| Is this possible? Is tending to think very abstractly an automatic indication of not being on the spectrum? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Love for Female Aspie? |
| klin |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2017, 1:10 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,198
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| Hello. I'm desperate for a relationship and intimacy. I think I tend to fall for NTs. Aspie women, did you date an NT and if so how did you end up together? What is your relationship like? Does your partner recognize you as on the spectrum or has it never come up? How did you deal with communication... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What do guys look for in a woman? |
| klin |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2017, 7:44 am
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Replies: 48
Views: 4,124
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| Don't focus on attracting guys, focus on being you and if the right guy comes along then try and attract him specifically. I'm going to disagree with this... given your tendency to seem vulnerable, your dating solution is not to become even more passive. I think the best thing you could do is try t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Making Apologies |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2017, 5:39 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 365
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| Okay, thanks. I feel very nervous about it... but on the other hand I have been obsessing about this for the past 5 months. XD I guess I'll just have to get it done somehow. Thanks for the advice! |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Consent |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2017, 4:57 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,161
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| To me consent is more a superficial legal manifestation/criterion that's supposed to be the lynchpin of a way of communicating about wants and desires. I find the whole consent thing rather ludicrous, to be honest. I only really can understand it as the tip of a legal iceberg. That said, it is good ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Making Apologies |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2017, 4:36 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 365
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| Thanks for the response, kraftekortie! Could I ask you to elaborate? What should go into 'explaining myself?' |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can an autistic person be a leader? What is 'leadership?' |
| klin |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2017, 4:31 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 913
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| Hi, Billy. Absolutely, yes. At the moment two people who come to mind are: Temple Grandin; a young woman whose youtube videos I've watched a lot and who is an advocate for autistic people (Amethyst Schaber, you should check out her videos). Certainly I think leadership roles might be more suitable f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Making Apologies |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2017, 4:07 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 365
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| So, when do you think an apology for behavior that may have been caused by your neurotype is warranted? I went on a few dates earlier this year with a guy that I really liked and I think liked me (at first) but I felt suspicious of him and was rather standoffish. When it was just us things were okay... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: greenturtle74’s Cartoon Guide to Asperger’s |
| klin |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2017, 11:00 pm
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Replies: 680
Views: 785,673
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| What a great guide! Thank you, Greenturtle74! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Abusive Relationship |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2017, 1:57 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 943
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| I have lately been wondering this, too. I'm not sure I have an answer, but I will share an anecdote in case it might spark useful interpretation/generalization. I very briefly dated someone who seemed unwilling to be clear with me about what he wanted. I tried to push him to spell things out very cl... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Constant Anxiety, Aspergers |
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Posted: 13 Mar 2017, 1:45 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,169
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| Thanks all for responding -- interesting to hear everyone's replies. @ Redxk , Ok, this is what I was thinking. Perhaps an undiagnosed person who has a lot anxiety might not recognize it was environmental. I'm wondering if this might be something like what I experience. Would you say that "the ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Constant Anxiety, Aspergers |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2017, 9:53 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,169
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| Hi everyone, just curious what everyone's (particularly aspies') experiences are with anxiety. Do you feel like an especially anxious person, and if so do you think the anxiety is related to your aspergers or arose separately? In my own case I'm wondering if the constant anxiety I experience might b... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Female Aspies and Social Performance |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2017, 7:51 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,053
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| @iliketrees sorry for slow response! I think there are resources but they presuppose a diagnosis. I'm also starting to think I'm not an aspie after all, just an anxious and socially inexperienced NT. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Female Aspies and Social Performance |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2017, 7:47 pm
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Replies: 14
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| @Shahunshah, I found I drifted gradually into philosophy. It was a combination of an interest in formal methods, in writing, and in interpretative work. I think like many who move to the discipline I am driven by a compulsion to interpret and extract meaning from things. That sounds potted, but I'm ... |
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