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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2017, 12:51 pm
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| You said that you want to keep her, and listen to her advice, but still want her to get in shape. Are you in shape? Or is this something you can do, together? I'm no model, but I exercise and pay attention to what I eat. Today, she said she may start walking on some days, and I told her I would gla... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I get lost easily. Can't orientate. What to do? |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2017, 12:46 pm
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Thanks for all the answers, folks.
GPS and asking people for directions it is then (which is what I have been doing anyway)!  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2017, 8:08 am
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| Not in the sense that she is demanding, but that she is leading you by the hand,. as a sort-of guide or mitigating influence or helps you to be more-collected, mentally. I don't mean to imply that she is bad, in any way. Just, maybe, you don't respond to that, physically. Naaahhh... I love it when ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I get lost easily. Can't orientate. What to do? |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2017, 4:33 am
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| Hi, folks! I have a problem with directions when walking or driving. I often take the wrong direction. It seems I don't have the ability to orientate. If I know how to go from place A to place B, and from place B to place C, it seems I find it difficult to go from A to C or C to A directly. It's as ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2017, 3:40 pm
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friedmacguffins wrote: Can't her bossiness be a physical turn-off I don't believe I have mentioned the girl is bossy. Or where you mentioning it as a general example? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 19 Apr 2017, 3:12 pm
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I was sure I posted an answer, but I can't see it now. Let's try again...
friedmacguffins wrote: Is is possible, that the roles of sex partner and therapist should be compartmentalized, so that she is not unfairly receiving mixed signals? I do like asking for help from the experts. I have done this in the past, and will continue doing so. However, experts will usually "talk." Spending time in the field and learning from experience is also valuable. We need both book smarts and street smarts.itsme82 wrote: So this doing physical things together thingy helps you feel more love? Or why do you mention it? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do relationships make Aspies happier? |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2017, 12:05 pm
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Thanks for the replies.
I think it would be great to have a meaningful relationship with a NeuroTypical who accepts who we are, and who can help us work through some issues that we may have. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2017, 11:55 am
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| So, you have prioritized sex. I do enjoy it. It's part of a relationship. But I'm looking to be with a woman I can connect with and who can help me become more "normal". I have found that the more time I hung out with others, the more "normal" I become. That's because they help ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2017, 11:07 am
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| That was a fat joke. The real question is whether you value looks or personality. And, you seem disappointed, going on personality, alone. In pop psychology, the sex therapist is supposed to ask whether she is a platonic friend, for sex, or marriageable. See how it categorizes itself? It's based on... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2017, 1:17 am
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friedmacguffins wrote: So, you must have been Mozart.
I'm sorry, but this problem is not autism-related. The title of the movie came from a scene where the guy was dressed as a whale, and the girl as Mozart (for Halloween).
Trailer:
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2017, 5:26 pm
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| Which aspect(s) is (are) missing from your current partner? I'd say the main missing aspect is she isn't health-conscious enough. She doesn't really pay that much attention to how she eats, and she doesn't exercise enough. As a result of this, I feel she could afford to lose 30 lbs. I'm not looking... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hi, all! |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2017, 9:39 am
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do relationships make Aspies happier? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2017, 9:15 am
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| Hi, folks! I just watched this TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI They basically studied the lives of 724 men for 75 years. The main lessons were: 1) It's not money, fame or hard work that lead to happiness. 2) What helps make us happy, and keep our brains healthy, are MEANINGFUL ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2017, 5:35 am
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| What is your value system and why do you believe that you're in a relationship. I value hapiness, health, personal growth, living on my own terms. I believe I'm in a relationship, because I go out with this woman, we sleep together, we don't fool around with others, we confide in each other and are... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2017, 1:16 pm
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| Why are you becoming more cynical? Because I used to believe in the "fairytale version" of love: "Boy meets girl, they fall in love, live happily ever after." Yeah, right. Relationships take a lot of hard work, and compromises. And most don't last forever. Princesses and princes... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can't feel "in love." How to fix this? |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2017, 11:53 am
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| Hi! I have experienced this issue, yes. Still experiencing it, in fact. I have a few questions though, maybe thinking about them helps you a bit, too? - What do you interpret as feeling "in love"? Can you write about this as much as you can? Give yourself a bit of time to think/wonder abou... |
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