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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Masking |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 02 Nov 2023, 12:54 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 5,352
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| So my husband has great banter at work but when home he is quiet and in his shell, does he mask at work? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Promoting |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 30 Oct 2023, 10:39 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 5,211
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| Hi I’ve been married to my Asperger’s husband 23 years. It is absolutely normal AS behaviour to be prompted to do stuff all the time? My husband hardly functions unless he gains from doing stuff for himself like he has to be motivated by his own interests. We never go out unless I arrange it because... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: My AS husbands wandering eyes |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2020, 11:31 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 180
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| My husband has Aspergers and is extremely good looking, he gets quite a bit of attention from the ladies, but I don’t know what actually happens when he visits the same supermarket on his own sometimes and there always seem to be a shop assistant who fancies him. I can pick these things quite well a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does anyone else find cheating super hard to understand? |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2020, 5:47 am
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Replies: 57
Views: 2,618
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| Yes, but again what is cheating? My husband has Aspergers and is extremely good looking, he gets quite a bit of attention from the ladies, but I don’t know what actually happens when he visits the same supermarket on his own sometimes and there always seem to be a shop assistant who fancies him. I c... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2020, 4:35 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| I am mostly accepting, just some things hurt more than others. We do love each other very much, his love language is different to mine. He does DIY at home, will help out with chores sometimes, will cook weekends, other stuff that I consider to be helpful. Yes thought processing is big on his part,... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2020, 4:34 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| I am mostly accepting, just some things hurt more than others. We do love each other very much, his love language is different to mine. He does DIY at home, will help out with chores sometimes, will cook weekends, other stuff that I consider to be helpful. Yes thought processing is big on his part,... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2020, 2:55 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| I am mostly accepting, just some things hurt more than others. We do love each other very much, his love language is different to mine. He does DIY at home, will help out with chores sometimes, will cook weekends, other stuff that I consider to be helpful. Yes thought processing is big on his part, ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 29 Jan 2020, 3:21 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| Thanks Teach51, I think it is a great suggestion to ease up on the sex. Communication, I have tried to talk, ask questions. It is a one way conversation. Anything uncomfortable about, he clams up. The therapist one said, he needs to get out of his comfort zone. I do know his upbringing was very shel... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 28 Jan 2020, 12:47 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| He used to bug me for sex in the morning, he didn’t care if he was late for work. Now that the children are older (teenagers), I like to wake up a hour earlier, as they are still asleep, I feel more comfortable than at night as they go to bed later, or they are in their rooms. I have explained all t... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 28 Jan 2020, 3:41 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| Update: So I caught him masturbating in the morning, walking in on him in the bathroom, not that I mind, but he denied it. So I am worried that he chooses to masturbate, instead of having sex with me. But what I had noticed, he couldn’t get it up for me in the morning, he was better in the evening. ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2020, 3:02 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| Normal porn, mostly girl on girl. Was very affectionate in the past, but it never led to sex. Affection has waned a bit. Only kisses when having sex. There is no build up in the day, when we sit watching tv, he always kept his distance until I asked him to cuddle up to me. He does it all the time no... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2020, 1:19 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| Twilightprincess, We had the foreplay problem years ago (been together for 20 years). He always felt clumsy in foreplay, (he does come across robotic and wooden) I said it didn’t matter. I tried the books and teaching him, he said made him feel inadequate. When I requested fore play he went off sex ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2020, 12:30 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| Thank you, looks interesting. |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Premature ejaculation & erectile dysfunction |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 25 Jan 2020, 12:11 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 237
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| My AS husband is 50 years old and for the last 10 years had premature ejaculation problems, mostly it has not bothered me and I also have gone without foreplay due to his sensory issues. I have tried other things, but he is not interested in hardly any sexual activities. I am now having problems due... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can Aspies connect? |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2019, 3:33 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,155
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| Thank you everyone, you are all sweet and lovely. Thank you to Teach 51, for remembering me. I also have to look at myself, I am nearly 50 and going through menopause. I have learnt so much in a space of 2 years, I have re read my old posts and I feel my husband and I have made some progress. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can Aspies connect? |
| TracyLou |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2019, 10:22 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,155
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| Yes we are married, have 3 children, one who is special needs. I worked very hard on our relationship, sex was very good in the beginning, but very porn like. He lost his virginity to a prostitute. Since we started living together, one year after we met, everything went downhill, by that time I was ... |
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