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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: High five means friendship? |
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Posted: 01 Jul 2018, 2:49 pm
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Replies: 14
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| Sorry there's no "high five" rule. Human interaction is complex and involves alot of different variables and context. If you are looking for feedback you should probably share more details(although not with me, I'm clueless) Its not like a switch you have full control over, so I can't real... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Have I exhausted all options? |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2018, 1:45 am
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Replies: 62
Views: 2,605
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| Take a break from it, find something to do you're passionate about and try to find groups that share the same interest. Even if it is a 'Magic : The Gathering' related club (And yes, they do exist! What a surprising find), find something you can use to socialize with people, no matter how difficult... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What's the point for Aspie men to date? |
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Posted: 24 Jun 2018, 2:14 am
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Replies: 90
Views: 2,422
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| Noone finds defeatism, whining, blaming other people or making strange generalisations attractive, in friendships or relationships, something that I learned the hard way. The people here who struggle do all of those things on a regular basis. Things that contribute to self progression are responsib... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: life is a nightmare |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2018, 6:07 pm
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Replies: 3
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| Well, to me its like art. Let's say there is a movie with a sub 20% rating on imdb or rotten tomatoes. True, taste in entertainment is subjective, but there can be a high rate of consensus that something sucks. In this analogy I am that movie. People mostly seem to be either hostile or indifferent t... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: life is a nightmare |
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Posted: 07 Jun 2018, 4:59 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I don't understand why I keep getting up and going to work. I hate it. I hate every day of my life. Every day feels like the same day. People don't like me. I don't like me. I anethisize myself with whatever entertainment I can find enjoyable whenever I can, but sometimes you just sit there and have... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How and where do I find a boyfriend? |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2018, 1:15 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 1,722
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hale_bopp wrote:
That downside doesn’t sound like a very fun outing. I’d rather have no attention than that, yuck!
I might be overstating it. I've never been a woman in a chess club, just a man, and most chess players are alright. But, like any competitive activity, it draws in its share of obnoxious blowhards. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How and where do I find a boyfriend? |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2018, 12:10 pm
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Replies: 43
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| Join a chess club, if you enjoy chess. That's a very male centric activity where you are also more likely then in many other communities to find guys more like you. The downside is you might experience some misogyny and condescending behavior. But, regardless of your looks, in that environment, you'... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: can't get off those ppis |
| Mantis |
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Posted: 13 May 2018, 8:10 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 166
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| I'll give it a try, thanks |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: can't get off those ppis |
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Posted: 13 May 2018, 6:40 am
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Replies: 3
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| Growing up I was a fussy eater and really thin, my mom thought I looked like a skeleton. When I was a teenager I started getting dysphagia with food getting stuck in my throat. In my early 20s I saw a gastro enterologist, who dilated my throat and put me on the proton pump inhibitors, which I've bee... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Rants |
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Posted: 11 May 2018, 7:17 am
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Replies: 9,436
Views: 676,173
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| It's tiring. Of course, complaining about it is probably pointless and likely toxic. Every day feels the same. The numb unending sameness. I believe I've become, or have maybe always been, a very unlikeable person. When I talk to people I can't help but blurt out criticisms and back handed complimen... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: training social skills |
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Posted: 02 Dec 2017, 4:48 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 332
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| I guess I want to know whether what I have in mind is worth undertaking or not. So, I guess I want to know if anyone has actually tried what I am currently thinking of attempting. I'm really bad with people, which I guess is common around here. I'm 38 and I wanted to spend the next couple of years f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Not very observant |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2017, 11:08 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 474
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| Hi, I have a problem that I want to express here that I am wondering two things about 1) whether other people have experienced this and 2) what strategies they have to manage it or train it. I'm not very observant. This is important because At 37 I finally have my first adult job as a developer. But... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Coworker driving me crazy |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2017, 11:05 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 545
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| Code review is something we are all required to do before we check in a fix/change to the code base. We have to ask another developer to review it. There was no ambiguity about what I was asking her for, its a daily practice there. At the time she was the only developer on my team who was around sin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: approach anxiety |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2017, 2:26 am
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Replies: 1
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| Not looking to commiserate or throw a pity party, but this is a bottleneck that I just can't get past. I'm 37 now and when I was younger, I was sometimes able to put myself out there. But in college, there were women everywhere. Now I look around and there's not alot of options, and when I see someb... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Coworker driving me crazy |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2017, 3:22 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 545
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| Well, I appreciate your responses. I thought about them and I've calmed down somewhat, but its still in my head. I've been thinking recently about tit for tat in game theory, and how it might apply to situations like this. I was curious about whether I could bring myself to emulate that sort of stra... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Coworker driving me crazy |
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Posted: 24 Aug 2017, 11:55 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 545
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| Hi, I made an account just to create this thread, because I have nobody to talk to about it so anyhow, just think of this as a venting thread. I've had this job for a little while now, which for me felt like a big milestone. I'm already sick of it, and really want to move to another state. Most of t... |
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