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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Religious Expression |
| moarjin |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2018, 8:05 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 3,202
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| ... ( I ) have no faith, except perhaps faith in math and logic. I agree entirely. I think Asperger's makes me think entirely logically, and faith is simply incompatible with me. I don't want to upset anyone, you're all entitled to your own beliefs, but as far as I'm concerned, fairy tales, and fai... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Helping my boyfriend mourn |
| moarjin |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2018, 8:41 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 284
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| I have Asperger's. I was exactly the same when my mother died. I was initially upset, but it was for a very short time, and then I went back to my "normal" self. At the time, it bothered me a great deal, simply because it didn't bother me (hope that makes sense). I couldn't understand why,... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Autistic and Widowed at 26 |
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Posted: 29 Dec 2017, 4:16 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,525
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| I don't really know what to say to you, other than, I'm sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about the tears being stuck. When my mother died, I cried for a very short time, but then I was done. I still think about her every day, but I never felt like I properly grieved for her. I often feel gu... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Are you very high-functioning? |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2017, 5:06 am
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Replies: 171
Views: 24,710
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| . Sometimes it seems as if my brain is, perhaps, using cognitive systems as a neural detour around the structures that don't work well, like recognition of facial expressions. That idea makes a lot of sense to me, because I feel far more intelligent when I'm left alone than I do when I'm having to ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does anyone like alcohol? |
| moarjin |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2017, 4:35 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 760
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Absolutely not.
I need to be in control of myself, being inebriated is not being in control. I feel like I would let the mask slip.
Obviously something to do with keeping up the 'act' of being normal. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you think of the statement |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2017, 7:46 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 500
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| "I think I understand just enough about the way other people think to know that the way I think is not the same If it was slightly altered it may make more sense? "I believe I understand just enough about the way other people think, to know that the way I think, is not the same." Tha... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Double bind messages |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2017, 3:19 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 246
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| I've found that, looking back at situations in my life, these sort of things have happened to me all the time. It seems, because I was easy to fool, i.e. gullible, "friends" would say something which sounded nice, but would prompt snickering and giggles from the people around me. Obviously... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I don't miss anyone. |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2017, 12:25 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 513
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| You're not alone in this. I don't miss anyone either. Old friends, well, never really had any best friends but, acquaintances, relatives, anyone! Even parents. I cared about my mother a lot, but after she died, I can honestly say, I didn't really miss her. Seems strange, as I think about her almost ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: My Folks Are All Dead... |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2017, 8:49 am
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Replies: 3
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| I'm the same. My mother is actually dead. My father now lives in a different country. I rarely speak to my brother. I never, ever, contact any of my other relatives. At all. I don't miss them. They're all pretty awful people. When my grandparents died, they all descended like vultures, grabbing what... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: No attraction at all to men or women. |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2017, 2:04 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 1,585
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| I think I might be demisexual then. I haven't heard of it until it was mentioned on here. I do think there's a possibility that if I was with someone for a good amount of time, say 5 months as an example and this person understood me, understood my shutdowns and eccentric behavior and didn't judge ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: No attraction at all to men or women. |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2017, 1:53 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 1,585
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| I'm asexual, too. Being female, it's a bit easier to deal with, but I understand where you're coming from. Even apart from the mere fact that sex is unappealing, the lack of sexual interest brings with it other certain...deficits. Sex is at the heart of many social and cultural customs, from the cl... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Doctors appointment in a few hours |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2017, 11:46 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 474
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Be cool. Good luck.
And please, let us know how it goes.  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional control/conflict resolution - help |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2017, 7:51 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 484
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| Anything to keep you grounded and stop your mind running away with itself is a good idea. I'm with you on not remembering these things when in the midst of an episode though. I try to remember to ground myself, but often I can't think of anything other than panic. Silly thing is, I can control anger... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional control/conflict resolution - help |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2017, 6:30 am
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Replies: 13
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| But I found one thing that might be useful. That is to remember that I really don't know how my partner thinks or feels. It's really obvious in most other situations, but I've noticed that I forget it when it really matters. That's the crux of the problem. Where we have a hard time reading people a... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Are you very high-functioning? |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2017, 5:02 am
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Replies: 171
Views: 24,710
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| I'm probably a reasonably high functioning Aspie. I have 4 sons, one from a previous marriage and 3 with my current partner. I've been with my current partner for 13 years. We get on well because, even though she's an NT, she's quite like me, and we have similar interests. I struggle with work, and ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Does anyone actually feel immature even though they are not? |
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Posted: 03 Dec 2017, 6:45 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 210
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| I am a very mature adult who manages to keep things going in an orderly manner. At least, that's how I probably appear. In reality, even though I can think and act responsibly, like an adult, I never actually feel like an adult. In social situations, I feel out of my depth, like a child, surrounded ... |
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