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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: New side interest: what are your side interests |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2018, 6:38 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 659
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My main interest is reading  but it does swap out a bit with gardening <3 my side interest at the moment is going to the gym, and randomly also history and castles  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Sudden changes to schedule. |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2018, 10:12 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 358
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| Thanks for the replies guys, I know you are correct that there is a certain amount of just having to deal with it, and I know I can do it. I just don't know how to deal with all the background stress it causes me. It's not like I try to freak out over it, but I do. And telling myself not to isn't do... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: grinding teeth/clenching jaw |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2018, 10:08 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 677
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| I've found I do this all the time, my jaw can get really painful! I tried to stop it, but I simply don't even realise I have been doing it! And when I do force myself to stop it feels like my mouth is hanging open, as though clenching it stops it from falling out or something xD its rather odd. I th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Employers and prejudice |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2018, 10:03 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 464
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| I disclosed to an employer ONCE about my diagnosis. Never again. She immediately started treating me different. She slowed her speech to talk to me, for one, as well as: -being shocked when I dyed my hair (?) -being shocked when I did my makeup nicely (??) -being shocked and condescending when I go... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I want to be mute for a while |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2018, 9:59 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 530
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| Sometimes I think I would like this. Just quiet time by myself, get rid of an extra process I have to watch all the time. It can be frustrating though when you do need to communicate. I do go mute when very distressed, but part of me would like to do it without having to be very upset lol. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Going out |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2018, 9:55 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 299
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| It's a bit like asking why your cat doesn't like fireworks. They are loud, scary and it's terrifying. Going outside is the same xD. Eating out is often one of the worst things for me, sitting in a very loud place and having to converse with other people, it's hard to enjoy an experience when you fee... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How I almost lost my composure on a train. |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 29 Jan 2018, 4:14 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 648
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| I have this kinda thing quite a lot, the toilet is my refuge too! Often I end up sitting on the bathroom floor rocking backwards and forwards and flapping/tapping until I calm down. I normally go for the disabled toilets for this a bit more privacy, and even better if you have a coat or something yo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Sudden changes to schedule. |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 29 Jan 2018, 6:40 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 358
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| This may be more of a rant than anything else but I don't know what to do. We are running technical interviews at work for prospective employees, and as one of the senior programmers I am expected to run a number of these interviews. Which although I do not like or enjoy them I can cope, I've done e... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Rail staff autism awareness training video - UK |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 29 Jan 2018, 3:10 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 461
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| The listing of all those things was stressful. I find my senses make these situations very overwhelming. While I have learnt how to deal with public transport I am pretty sure I have been that passenger once or twice. I once got on the wrong train by mistake and the person told me I had to get off a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Narcissistic abuse when you're on the spectrum |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 28 Jan 2018, 6:58 pm
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Replies: 36
Views: 5,626
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| This had me thinking too about something that has been ripping me up for my whole life, that I've always been a target for bullies, even now. Who never get punished for bullying, but I get punished if I react. Would you guys say this is just par for the course if you're on the spectrum? If so, myst... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Pathological demand avoidance? |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 28 Jan 2018, 6:55 am
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Replies: 41
Views: 2,464
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| Welp, I had never even heard of PDA but I just scored pretty highly on the test ahaha. Curious, I am sure information like this would have helped my parents dramatically, apparently I was an impossible child. They always said I was a teenager from the age of 2 ahaha. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you feel comfortable going out alone? |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2018, 6:42 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 608
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| I like going out alone, when I am all prepared for it it makes me feel very peaceful. I do find the sensory stuff more overwhelming on my own, another person I feel safe with seems to help distract me and helps more than hinders me. I probs count my mum, sister or boyfriend as the only ones who make... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdowns |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2018, 3:12 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 398
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| Both my boyfriend and I are autistic and though I don't have violent meltdowns he does. So I would say I have reasonable experience ahah. My main advice is to leave her alone, let her have her moment and understand she has very little control. If she hits anything or risks breaking something she wil... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Narcissistic abuse when you're on the spectrum |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2018, 7:00 am
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Replies: 36
Views: 5,626
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| In my first proper job I was specifically targeted by the boss who was a narcissist because I was socially inept and had been abused in the past. He took advantage of the fact that I couldn't read social cues, was very naive and unable to stand up for myself. He mentally, physically and sexually abu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How sensitive are your senses? |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2018, 5:51 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 1,588
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| It's quite strange to talk about this stuff because I have always been hyper aware to some senses but I have only recently even worked out I am very likely autistic (getting an assessment soon) and it's all kinda fitting into place. Sight: My biggest sense I notice is sensitivity to light, I am incr... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What is your personality type? |
| AntisocialButterfly |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2018, 3:59 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 667
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| I am INTP and I've stayed that way for the last few years now. I think I am actually quite strongly all of the letters ahah. I don't fall borderline on any lol. |
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