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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Dads say the darndest things.... |
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Posted: 23 Sep 2018, 3:45 am
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| This is good advice. I don't understand the why of it properly either but this is what you have to do with NT females who are friends and family. Some people figuratively wear their hurt feelings like a crown, and it doesn't matter if they are NT, female, or whatever. It has to do with anyone , NT ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Abnormal childhood fears? |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2018, 12:21 pm
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Replies: 37
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| Re, the police....Well now you mention it and the song started playing in my head it is fairly horrid. My childhood fears were wolves, somebody breaking in to our flat in the night and war. Whilst they are all fairly normal, I assume, it was the extent of my fears that got on top of me. Intrusive i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Abnormal childhood fears? |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2018, 3:34 am
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| When I was 7 my family moved into a really old house. It had a really old toilet and it was its flush that I became afraid of. To me it sounded as if it would explode as it had a rising in pitch sound. When I needed to go to the toilet, I would just go and not flush it. Is it any wonder I developed... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Abnormal childhood fears? |
| elsapelsa |
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Posted: 19 Sep 2018, 12:29 am
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Replies: 37
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| Re, the police....Well now you mention it and the song started playing in my head it is fairly horrid. My childhood fears were wolves, somebody breaking in to our flat in the night and war. Whilst they are all fairly normal, I assume, it was the extent of my fears that got on top of me. Intrusive im... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: migraine, migraine aura without pain |
| elsapelsa |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2018, 1:50 pm
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Replies: 48
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| Gosh poor you. They are awfully debilitating. Trigger factors for me were msg (in food, never deliberately ate it but it is often added in Asian cooking especially Korean food) any form of flickering lights or generally being run down. Things that help include - exercise, acupuncture, cutting out gl... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Peaks in synesthesia / new synesthesia |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2018, 2:01 pm
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| My daughter has just moved schools and is 2 weeks into the new term. Also we have a new living arrangement. So lots of change. Her synesthesia has changed. She is seeing many more flashes of colour linked to certain emotions - tiredness brings out certain colours, worry diffent ones... there are a f... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lady at work keeps interrogating me 0.o |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2018, 12:34 pm
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Replies: 189
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| I guess you already know you're supposed to understand perfectly what they mean, and the dying inside is the punishment you get for lacking that innate ability. Can you explain what you mean? I am confused. These things always trouble me. Like recently I was in the states and filling up at the gas ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lady at work keeps interrogating me 0.o |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2018, 12:05 pm
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Replies: 189
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| [quote="Spiderpig"]If people have a way to make you uncomfortable for their mistakes, they’ll often use it. Apparently, there are universal ways for men to make women uncomfortable. I tend to be oblivious to them, because I usually forget life is a game of chess, and also tend to think tha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lady at work keeps interrogating me 0.o |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2018, 11:55 am
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Replies: 189
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| I remember one time when me and my best friend at the time were squished into a single dorm bed and he was tickling me and we were messing about and he started biting my neck. When I told him to stop he said "don't you like it?" and I said " that's not the problem, I like it too much... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lady at work keeps interrogating me 0.o |
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Posted: 10 Sep 2018, 5:17 pm
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Replies: 189
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| Women are....just attractive to heterosexual men. It's just the way it is. Many times, it really doesn't matter what she is wearing. It much more than just clothes. To me, it's the voice. And the imagination evoked when a women wears NON-revealing clothing. There are times when I'm more turned on b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lady at work keeps interrogating me 0.o |
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Posted: 10 Sep 2018, 5:12 pm
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Replies: 189
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| I am so sorry you were harassed and disrespected in this manner elsapelsa. It is unacceptable behavior and I am always ashamed of my gender when I hear stories like your own. Some people seem to have a total disregard for acting civil around others, lacking any basic common respect that everyone is... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lady at work keeps interrogating me 0.o |
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Posted: 10 Sep 2018, 5:06 pm
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| That's right. Draw the line. That's all you have to do. If the guy doesn't respect that, and he continues to do sexual things after you told him to stop, then you call the cops. It is inevitable that a (hetero) guy will feel attracted to his female friend sometimes. It's normal. The key is to not r... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Lady at work keeps interrogating me 0.o |
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Posted: 10 Sep 2018, 4:47 pm
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Replies: 189
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| In my late teens travelling around Asia I had an onslaught of masturbating men following me (literally, it happened at least 5 times). It actually continued once I got back to Europe, on buses everywhere.... Nothing I did seemed to stop this wave of male attention. Once, I lived in Cairo I had adopt... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why do some neurotypicals try to relate to everything? |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2018, 8:07 am
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Replies: 28
Views: 1,350
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| People do this for two reasons (1) to build rapport and connect with the person they are talking to. It is instinctual ( and often unconscious) for many NT to look for sameness and similarity and points of overlap. Sameness feels safe to people. (2) because the common folk psychology view of, for ex... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: What do you call this? |
| elsapelsa |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2018, 5:56 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 500
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Forum: The Haven Topic: So difficult |
| elsapelsa |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2018, 1:53 pm
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Replies: 93
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| Oh no I don't do the going out as a group of women thing. I'm very much a loner and when I do organise a group activity I make it a mixed group. I am the same. But my point is slightly that even when you are in a mixed group you are less approachable than when you are on your own. The other thing i... |
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