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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2018, 1:04 pm
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| I mean I don't want to ruin the moment. When we were together, he was always an easily-mov-on type of person. He would always be fine the next day after an argument, but most of the time I couldn't let go of the issues and fussed about it. It intensified it and ruined it again and again. Apparently... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2018, 11:42 am
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| It sounds like he doesn't know along with leading you along which is mean. I would let him know that you have felt that you aren't a good pair and that you are just going to bring the worst out in each other and that it's time to part ways. You can 1. Call him on the phone to talk -Or- 2. Offer to ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2018, 4:07 am
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| What exactly is it you don't want to ruin, his act? It doesn't matter though, no matter what you do at some point it will be ruined, he'll decide you're doing something wrong and guilt trip you about it and pick at you for the same things he always does. This is just an act to draw you back in, sur... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2018, 3:39 am
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| Just block him and move on. Or get in touch and repeat the pattern as often as needed until you learn it. As I am a pattern-learner, I had to do this many (many....) times before I "got" it. My heart goes out to you. It is a terrible place to be stuck. I had considered of just doing that ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
| datsloth |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2018, 3:31 am
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| It sounds like he doesn't know along with leading you along which is mean. I would let him know that you have felt that you aren't a good pair and that you are just going to bring the worst out in each other and that it's time to part ways. You can 1. Call him on the phone to talk -Or- 2. Offer to ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2018, 10:21 pm
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| Than you all for your reply. I kinda talked about it with his mom as she approached me with Easter greeting, and also his sister. They understand what would i feel too so they told me to just trust my gut feeling in order to make decision. But I still can't. I currently am in this situation with him... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
| datsloth |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2018, 6:04 am
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| Not to suggest your ex has a personality disorder (bpd, narc, other), this sort of behavior pattern is often just a cultural thing, or personailty thing, or maybe just defense mechanisms from past hurt. But everything still applies. He's shown himself to be selfish and manipulative in relationships... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2018, 7:15 am
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| Even if you love him and trust him to never hurt you again, I think you're better off forgetting about him. Reconnecting with exes rarely goes well, if ever. That's been my experience with my 1st girlfriend but it didn't help that I was mentally unstable & she was having problems with drugs &am... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2018, 6:49 am
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| Even if you love him and trust him to never hurt you again, I think you're better off forgetting about him. Reconnecting with exes rarely goes well, if ever. That's been my experience with my 1st girlfriend but it didn't help that I was mentally unstable & she was having problems with drugs &am... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2018, 6:47 am
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kraftiekortie wrote: What were you supposed to have “learned?”
I denote a sense of arrogance in the other person.
to control my emotion better and not to go on and on in argument I suppose |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2018, 1:37 am
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| Even if you love him and trust him to never hurt you again, I think you're better off forgetting about him. Reconnecting with exes rarely goes well, if ever. That's been my experience with my 1st girlfriend but it didn't help that I was mentally unstable & she was having problems with drugs &am... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I reconnect with my aspie ex ? |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2018, 9:39 am
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| We had broken up our unhealthy relationship since late January, we were still kinda friends and he unfriended me everywhere 2 weeks ago after arguing again with me. Just last Sunday, he texted me "I hope you've learned." I didn't respond. And yesterday, he shot me three really short messag... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does it mean the end if an Aspie unfriend you on everywhere? |
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Posted: 16 Mar 2018, 12:54 pm
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| It is likely, and its probably for the better....I'd also refuse to answer if he ever contacts you again. He was probably doing that with that girl on purpose because he knew it would bother you so then he could justify calling you names and being a jerk. Really though based on the other thread and... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does it mean the end if an Aspie unfriend you on everywhere? |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2018, 11:21 am
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Replies: 6
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| It is likely, and its probably for the better....I'd also refuse to answer if he ever contacts you again. He was probably doing that with that girl on purpose because he knew it would bother you so then he could justify calling you names and being a jerk. Really though based on the other thread and... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How long would it take for an Aspie let go of resentment? |
| datsloth |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2018, 7:25 am
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Replies: 30
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| Guys, thank you for all of your replies to let me understand more about resentment of Aspies. I regretted not to check it soon. My situation got worse, I made a new post about it for if your concern... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does it mean the end if an Aspie unfriend you on everywhere? |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2018, 7:23 am
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| It's an update of my older post: http://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?f=7&t=360678 We still talked afterwards and kinda been on and off. Whenever we came across topic in terms of relationship or other women he is currently flirting with, I would get triggered because I still have feeling ... |
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