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Forum: The Haven Topic: Being out and about... Worse than you can imagine? |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2021, 10:27 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 449
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| Does anyone else experience this where while at home, you know full well what it's like when out and about because of the burnouts and being overwhelmed, but then you start questioning it... "Surely it can't be that bad?", "I'm only nipping out for 10 minutes to the shops, that's noth... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Getting through abuse |
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Posted: 30 May 2021, 5:13 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 238
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| I have an elderly relative (my grandmother) who is a narcissist and controlling, but she's also manipulative which has lead to her getting away with abuse. I grew up there with her and my mother. My mother was disabled and my grandmother used to abuse her. Mum was very ill, wheelchair bound and my g... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you get accusations of laziness?? |
| Markasp |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2021, 12:24 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,011
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| I get accused so much, mainly by doctors working for the NHS but it's all assumption based from them though. I explain what I want to achieve and about the difficulty of my situation but they always have an assumption that I'm fine and I'm purely making excuses to not do any of it. The reality is ve... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Boiling point was reached |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2021, 12:32 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 282
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| The tricky thing I experience is explaining it. I do a short person and here, anywhere I post about it, I get some generic advice. I explain things in more detail and the post is too long and nobody has time to read it. I do appreciate all comments anyway of course. Even though the reality is things... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Boiling point was reached |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2021, 12:03 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 282
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| I've been reflecting on it a bit more and the best way of explaining it is my life is pretty much "Asperger's unfriendly". I do feel miserable. I do get overwhelmed and overall, there just isn't any support. The problem is a lot of being overwhelmed is out of my own control. Like I mention... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Boiling point was reached |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2021, 12:33 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 282
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| FOR THOSE INTERESTED IN THE LONG EXPLANATION: So I struggled with an unknown problem all my life. At 18 I knew there was defs something wrong. Went to GP, always fobbed off (I tried many different ones). No understanding, no support. I've been unfortunate with family illnesses and deaths at a young ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Boiling point was reached |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2021, 12:17 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 282
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| Overall in life, regarding med's, I'm not depressed at all. I mean, what it comes down to are circumstances. Take the packlink thing. That's one issue. Anyone would be annoyed but on it's own, it is what it is, you just get on with things. Then there's the rest. Being in this house where it's so col... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Boiling point was reached |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2021, 12:07 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 282
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| I'm the seller. It's my business (So I sold to someone, Hermes lost the parcel, I claimed back on Packlink, the provider on mailing services, it exceeded when I should have my money back and they are ignoring me). I mean, thats just 1 thing and on it's own or will little other problems, I can handle... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Boiling point was reached |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2021, 11:42 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 282
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| The problem with the pressures are they are totally out of my control. Take a lost item on an ebay sale for example. Packlink said I would get my money back (compensation) within 30 days. It exceeded that and I've had to constantly chase them. They've then been completely ignoring me. The money does... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Boiling point was reached |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2021, 7:25 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 282
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| Anyone else with Aspergers feel like they are right on the edge? To a point where it only takes 1 more thing to happen and they just cant cope anymore? Constantly living like that and the other night was a serious blowout. I was at home, so overwhelmed as I generally am with life and then my phone f... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Asperger's preventing any enjoyment in life |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2021, 8:37 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 192
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| Anyone else experience this? Everyone needs some enjoyment in life. In a way, it balances the bad. A long week of work, then a nice treat after. Weather that's enjoying a hobby or activity, or treating yourself. Life seems to flow when the bad/dull/boring/stressful things are followed by something t... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: do you regret things you did when you were young |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2021, 8:12 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 506
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| Yes I do regret a lot of what I did when I was young.... BUT.... Asperger's was ultimately the blame for it (or, should I say not knowing I have it). At the time I didn't know I had Aspergers and so I couldn't recognise behaviour and adapt my life to cater for it. For example, I remember overhearing... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Always other people ruining my life |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2021, 3:56 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 649
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| If you think the locus of all your misfortunes is other people, it's profoundly depressing ... because there's not much you can do about it. If on the other hand, you think "maybe I could avoided or mitigated the outcome," it gives you hope of improving things. If you really want to be de... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Always other people ruining my life |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2020, 8:15 am
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Replies: 5
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| Such wise words there, really appreciated and so so true. It is that constant thing where with any action = you lose. Doctors were a great one for that. I go there, explain....Dismissed/Fobbed off. I then think "ok, maybe in the moment I didn't explain myself well enough", send a letter to... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Always other people ruining my life |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2020, 7:21 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 649
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| The one big issue in life I keep encountering is actually people and their actions ruining my life. Last year would have been an ok year had it not been for other people and their actions. Until March things were going well, I was stabilising my life and keeping to a healthy routine. Then one day I ... |
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