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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 30 Apr 2023, 1:59 am
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| One way for me to interpret what you just said is, any attempt on your part to contact her will trigger her. Which would only make sense if she had some reason to feel threatened by you. Meaning that she doesn't even consider you a friend let alone a boyfriend. I find this hard to believe, TBH this... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2023, 11:54 am
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| One way for me to interpret what you just said is, any attempt on your part to contact her will trigger her. Which would only make sense if she had some reason to feel threatened by you. Meaning that she doesn't even consider you a friend let alone a boyfriend. I find this hard to believe, TBH this... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2023, 7:58 am
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| Well the important thing now is you must stay in contact with her. Assuming what you said in your OP is basically true and not just your unique perspective on the situation, she will want to talk sooner or later and who else would she want to talk to besides you? If she's like most cisgender hetero... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2023, 2:39 am
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| I think it’s just a case of reframing your way of thinking - I think it’s possible for things to work out if the other person is willing to understand the difficulties and issues that come from being autistic or neurodivergent, but the willingness is the key part and it has to work both ways in some... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2023, 11:26 am
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| I wouldn’t say I’m at that stage yet. Sure, some people can just jump from relationship to relationship, but it hasn’t even been two weeks yet and given how strong my feelings are, they don’t just go away like that. It’s not going to be a linear process but I have to move on fully before even trying... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2023, 10:02 am
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rse92 wrote: I am surprised it took this long for this thread to get to this point.
What point is that? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2023, 7:36 am
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| Shouldn't the issue be whether you're compatible, instead of if someone is "good enough" for the other person? Are we all demi-gods? That's the thing - it's about whether or not another person fits my criteria for what I'm after which I don't feel is unreasonable (someone I get along well... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2023, 1:20 am
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ProfessorJohn wrote: Dating can be very confusing, that is for sure.
Understatement of the year right there. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2023, 10:11 am
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| It's also possible she's not comfortable with physical intimacy but engaged in it because she didn't want to hurt your feelings. That definitely wasn’t the case as she was very affectionate and was incredibly responsive to the more intimate side and made it clear how attractive she found me (which ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2023, 10:08 am
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| This woman spent her entire adult life with somebody who utterly controlled her. She probably came to view him as an authority figure and imagines being punished for "cheating" on him. Is she permanently damaged? I wouldn't know, but it would seem simply leaving her alone isn't the best p... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 26 Apr 2023, 10:12 am
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| This woman spent her entire adult life with somebody who utterly controlled her. She probably came to view him as an authority figure and imagines being punished for "cheating" on him. Is she permanently damaged? I wouldn't know, but it would seem simply leaving her alone isn't the best p... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2023, 10:24 am
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| You also talk about settling for the next right thing. I have done that in the past, not worth it either. Going MGTOW would have been better. On the former point, yeah I don’t see that as being viable I’d only want to be with someone if I genuinely felt something towards them, but after experiencin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2023, 10:20 am
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| Take a break and avoid going into LTD relationships later on. I’m not planning on dating anyone right now - need to focus on myself rather than trying to fill the emptiness with another person, and give some love back to myself. I don’t think the issue was the distance - the issue was more the bagg... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 25 Apr 2023, 1:42 am
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| Breakups can usually be tough, but I think that they are even harder for ND individuals. After finally getting an experience that makes you feel like you have caught up to everyone else, that suddenly is ripped away from you. And after thinking you have found someone who finally understands and lik... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2023, 2:50 pm
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rse92 wrote: Who will you be hurting?
I don’t know, I don’t want to risk hurting another woman by trying to date when I’m not ready to. I need to take a breather and don’t want to risk having a rebound relationship. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Coping after end of long distance relationship |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2023, 2:31 pm
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| Right now? It wouldn’t be right for me. I need to move on properly before I’m ready to date again, and I don’t want to risk hurting anyone. Maybe once I’m ready, I’ll be more open to seeing other people, but I want it to happen naturally and don’t want to go back to dating apps as they didn’t work f... |
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