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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why do I still hate my younger self? |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2022, 11:15 pm
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| Why do I still hate my younger self? People tell me that I was just young and stupid, but the thing is, I did things that I would have known were wrong when I was even younger, like in grade school, so I don't think I could say I didn't know better because I did, I was just impulsive and selectivel... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why do I still hate my younger self? |
| youcameandchanged |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2022, 8:56 pm
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| Yep....there is the expectation that a 35-year-old person should "have it together." A 15-year-old is thought of as being "just a kid," so impulsive actions at that age are not as harshly judged (by adults, that is. 15-year-olds tend to be harsh judges of other 15-year-olds. Ran... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Sarcasm |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2020, 1:31 am
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Replies: 6
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| Bump because of something that happened to me today. Does anyone else have this thing where they immediately guess that something is sarcastic, but they second-guess themselves? This is more my anxiety speaking instead of my autism, but for some reason, I am beating myself up for not being 100% sure... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did people let you get away with being angry in public? |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2020, 9:24 pm
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Replies: 66
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| Because I only learned to control my anger late, controlling my anger feels like, well, imagine trying to force yourself to do everything with the hand you don't currently use. No doubt you'd get used to it somewhat, but you'd probably still feel that something was off. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Your anger as part of your individuality vs. social harmony |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2020, 7:40 pm
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Replies: 8
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| To quote myself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yvFEjM46xZE This song reminds me of a very specific problem of mine about how I changed so many things about myself to fit in. And these passages remind me of my dilemma about how that may actually have been necessary. "I had to make them changes... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Your anger as part of your individuality vs. social harmony |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2020, 7:35 pm
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| Has anyone else had this problem? As I said before, I only learned how to control my anger at an age when my personality was already halfway set so I think of my anger as part of my individuality. But of course social harmony dictates that I need to control it. Any good idea for a balance? Like I w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People obsessed with your flaws |
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Posted: 19 Apr 2020, 6:14 am
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Replies: 84
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| Ouch, didn't mean to bump this thread. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People obsessed with your flaws |
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Posted: 19 Apr 2020, 5:36 am
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Replies: 84
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| Another update: BTW, my biggest fear nowadays is no longer of being bullied again, because I know I could prevent that. If anything, my biggest fear is of being bored with nothing to distract me with my traumas, like was the case for me in the recent past. Like, my traumas, they manifest in the str... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did people let you get away with being angry in public? |
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Posted: 19 Apr 2020, 5:31 am
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Replies: 66
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| Screaming tantrums is part of your individuality?! I get not always wanting to bottle up your anger, lord knows I do terrible things when I try, but there are circumstances where its really in everyones best interest that you do. You can't always give in, and the more you do and get used to it, the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did people let you get away with being angry in public? |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2019, 6:50 am
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Replies: 66
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| My backstory: I was born with a short fuse. No trauma made me like that, I was just born with a low frustration threshold. You probably have this picture in mind of someone who was incapable of being calm, but I was calm most of the time, I just didn't know any way to express my anger other than pub... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did people let you get away with being angry in public? |
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Posted: 18 May 2019, 3:27 pm
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Replies: 66
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| Your only 21 and you know that you want to change, that's the start. Don't judge yourself too harshly, you're not going to change overnight so when you let yourself down, don't punish yourself for it. pick yourself up again and keep going. You'll get there. Edit: To answer your question, no, I woul... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Song lyrics etc. that express the Asperger's world |
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Posted: 18 May 2019, 2:54 pm
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Replies: 117
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| https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yvFEjM46xZE This song reminds me of a very specific problem of mine about how I changed so many things about myself to fit in. And these passages remind me of my dilemma about how that may actually have been necessary. "I had to make them changes, I hope you und... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Agreeing with criticism vs. flat-out ignoring it |
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Posted: 11 May 2019, 6:18 am
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| There has got to be a balance, right? There was a time when I would think everyone who would ever say anything bad about me was a sadist or a jealous hater. I held on to all those turn-of-the-decade cheesy self-esteem messages found in pop songs and "It Gets Better" PSA's, and the combinat... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Finding the real you |
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Posted: 08 May 2019, 9:00 am
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Replies: 54
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| https://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=283988&p=8055564#p8055564 More about my own complicated relationship with myself. "I had to make them changes, I hope you understood You see for every bad, I did a ton of good But you was underground, and I was mainstream" I have posted t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Your anger as part of your individuality vs. social harmony |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2019, 11:22 am
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Replies: 8
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| Has anyone else had this problem? As I said before, I only learned how to control my anger at an age when my personality was already halfway set so I think of my anger as part of my individuality. But of course social harmony dictates that I need to control it. Any good idea for a balance? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you get angry often? |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2019, 10:21 am
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Replies: 21
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| BTW, who else has felt torn between expressing their anger as part of their individuality and the fact that most manifestations of anger are not healthy? I only learned how to stop my anger at an age when my personality was halfway set, so I'm like this. Also, another problem would be that for a lo... |
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