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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Recommended Reading on AS/Parenting |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2015, 8:29 pm
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Replies: 126
Views: 318,202
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| The new book NeuroTribes by Steve Silberman is supposed to be quite good. I haven't gotten to read it yet but would like to. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being told to smile... |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2015, 3:56 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 4,635
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| There may be something other than sexism at work here. Isn't a very slight smile the "default" expression on a woman's face with her muscles relaxed? No. There is no single standard default expression for any particular gender (the presumption that there is is based on stereotyping which ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being told to smile... |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2015, 1:34 pm
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Replies: 60
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| This is a very common NT complaint, too. I'm not sure if it's bullying, but it is sexism because men are not told to smile like women are told to smile. It's not a social thing; it's a sexist thing. I get told all the time to smile. Not female. Definitely male. This is not sexism, this is just anot... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Service dog alerts to self harm (aspergers) |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2015, 4:43 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,318
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| I am an aspies and I have had issues with both self injurious behaviors and meltdowns (usually separate events though some people do have them together). I also work with a service dog and some of her tasks have to do with intervening to stop, prevent, and help recover from these two issues. These a... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: "spoiled brat, undisciplined, unetitled" |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2015, 4:25 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,454
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| is unetitled even a word? And going around leaving rude stickers on your neighbors car seems much more like undisciplined, spoiled brat behavior than I imagine this moms son has displayed..considering autism 'symptoms' aren't just some choice like going around leaving rude stickers. Why can't the p... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I don't understand how smiling is friendly |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2015, 4:19 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,669
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| Its a cultural form of nonverbal communication. In most Western cultures when someone smiles it just means that they are happy and/or that they like you and thus are happy to see you (hence the friendly interpretation because that is what they are trying to emote with their facial expressions). Ther... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being told to smile... |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2015, 4:14 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 4,635
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| If she seems friendly all other times then I would suggest discussing this with her in private before doing anything else or determining whether it is bullying or not. You could just say "I do not like when you call me out and tell me to smile because it singles me out, and makes me uncomfortab... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: What do you think about housewives and feminism? |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2015, 2:50 am
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Replies: 83
Views: 4,134
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| There is nothing anti-feminist about choosing to be a housewife. Yes, you have the right to work but if the work you want to do and makes you happy is managing a household you have the right to do that. If want to dress in vintage 1950s garb, you have the right to do that. Feminism is about equality... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Visual stimming |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2015, 2:42 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 5,306
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| Stimming behaviors can be very difficult to change. Generally speaking, unless the behavior is self injurious or so intense (either in type or duration) that impedes his ability to function it is usually best to just accept it. You can try to set up a designated "stimming area” where he can go ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: 13YO Aspie son likes wearing bras/panties |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2015, 2:16 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 19,409
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| It could be phase or a comfort thing which he could outgrow or not. Cross-dressing often doesn't have anything to do with sexual orientation nor is it necessarily indicative of any gender orientation issues. Many male cross-dressers are strait cis men. It’s good that you are communicating with your ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: School not protecting my son!! |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2015, 2:00 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 2,067
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| There are some people who do this. Many paraprofessionals are decent people who care about the students and want to help them. Unfortunately, some are not. It sounds like your son's aid is in the latter group. It is good that your friend is reporting this to the principal as there will be an inside ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: HELP - School targeting son as possible "Columbine shoo |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2015, 1:38 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 3,373
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| I am not sure about the laws regarding private schools but it does sound like they are specifically targeting your son based on misconceptions related to ASDs. I would definitely seek counsel from a lawyer with a background in disability based discrimination. I think you should meet with the school ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Recommended Reading on AS/Parenting |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2015, 12:50 am
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Replies: 126
Views: 318,202
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| 1. The Complete Guide To Asperger's Syndrome by Dr. Tony Attwood -A great resource for anyone who wants to know more about/understand Asperger's (parents, people on the spectrum, educators, professionals, etc.). It is comprehensive but is written clearly for any level of familiarity. 2. The Discover... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Can I have some advice please? |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2014, 8:28 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,143
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| There as already been some pretty good advice. Another option is to look for a house/apartment with roommates/housemates to split the living expenses. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: I WISH I had my own place! |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2014, 8:24 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 3,551
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| You're not alone. Many people are forced to live with their parents or move back in with their parents. The economy makes it difficult for many to live independently. I am 28 and rent a room in a house with other adults because I can't afford an apartment. Before I came to grad school I lived with m... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: My Mom is in the hospital |
| militarybrat |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2014, 8:17 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 647
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| Wishing your mom a quick recovery. You did a good job getting her the medical treatment she needed. |
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