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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Does your child say "I love you"? |
| Sylvia |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2007, 2:11 pm
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Replies: 26
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| Okay, I think something has gotten lost in translation here... Number one. She is not my daughter. I treat her the way I would like to be treated, and do not demand nor receive hugs or kisses. I am simply not that way. DH would never, ever hold her or try to make her do ANYTHING against her will. He... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Does your child say "I love you"? |
| Sylvia |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2007, 9:23 am
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Replies: 26
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| We do love her for who and what she is. However, we would appreciate a little effort in return! Everything I've read about AS tells you to show/teach the person with AS what would be the appropriate response to something. Is that incorrect? Sorry, but I would not feel very wanted if I didn't receive... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Does your child say "I love you"? |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2007, 9:08 am
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| DH has no problem with no physical contact. However, an appreciation and an occasional I Love You would be nice every once in a while. She shows none, even when you point out all the things you've done for her. And she wonders why we don't do more. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Does your child say "I love you"? |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2007, 8:23 am
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| DH is having a hard time with DD not telling him ILY. He's always told her so, and she's merely responded in kind. I think that NTs have a hard enough time with the concept of love, much less someone with AS. However, even though she doesn't feel it, she should at least respond accordingly. You woul... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: AS/ASD and lies?? |
| Sylvia |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2007, 8:12 am
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Replies: 21
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| Oh sure. Definetely comes with the territory. DD can't lie to save her own skin, and occasionally will even dig herself even deeper with the added tendency to describe the events in detail. We've tried to explain the concept of "the little white lie" to spare someones feelings, but she still struggl... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Looking back - Funny stories |
| Sylvia |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2007, 10:41 am
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Replies: 18
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| I have a couple: When I first began dating DH, I came to the house and rang the doorbell. Sound of running feet. The door is flung open wide, and DD is opening the door to announce, "My Dad needs you to SHAVE his BACK!" After much blinking of the eyes, DH came running around the corner to explain th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are NTs Able To... |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2007, 7:48 pm
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Replies: 14
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| I'm usually pretty good at it, unless, like you say, someone has schooled their face into a deliberate expression. But humans aren't usually don't think to do that, unless they are concentrating on deceiving someone, as in the "poker face". I can usually walk into a crowded room and can tell right o... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Poor DD... |
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Posted: 16 Sep 2007, 9:18 am
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Replies: 13
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| Thank you for understanding. I myself would never hit her, however, I do try other methods to get my message across. What would be a better way of doing this? Talking to her does not work all the time, as she tunes you out very quickly and more or less ignores you. What would get her attention quick... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Poor DD... |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2007, 6:10 pm
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| She didn't hurt her, at least in my opinion. DD brought her arm up before she could really land one on her. It's nothing that I haven't gotten smacked for in my time. I don't consider the occasional cuff abuse. Beatings that leave bruises, broken bones, etc. is different. They have joint custody, wi... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Poor DD... |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2007, 11:54 am
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Replies: 13
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| She left her husband and daughter behind back with she was four. She is 15 now. She really does not know a whole lot about it, mostly because she only gets her on the weekends, and that's if she wants her around :cry: . She knows DD is "slightly off" as she puts it, but she doesn't stop to think. Sh... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Difficultly understanding jokes? |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2007, 7:25 am
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Replies: 30
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| DD is right alongside you all. When you try to make a joke, you usually just get "the Look". And heaven forbid you try to joke around with her, because it soon escalates into a fight most of the time... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What is the difference between Men and Woman with AS |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2007, 7:23 am
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Replies: 68
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| DD also fits the diagnosis, however I also disagree with the "Girls have a tendancy to be more accepted by their peers aka other females because females are more nurturing and understanding by nature." I realize that everyone is different of course, but the typical female in my experience is absolut... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Poor DD... |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2007, 7:11 am
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| I tell you what, learning those social skills are going to be rough on her. Her biological mother came to pick her up for the weekend yesterday, and we were outside chatting, when she just hared off and asked her mom, "Why are you missing so many teeth?" :oops: She got a very quick cuff from mom ups... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are any aspie's on this board lactose intolerant? |
| Sylvia |
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Posted: 14 Sep 2007, 8:37 am
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Replies: 39
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| I am wondering this as DD consumes a lot of milk (2 gallons a week if we'd let her!). Trying to wean her off but fighting a 15yo in a routine is no joy ride! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How old were you when you finally moved out on your own? |
| Sylvia |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2007, 7:57 pm
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Replies: 53
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| DD has made the following annoucement..."When I hit 18 and get a job, I'm out of here! And I'm taking the cat too!" Well, DH and I just about had cramps trying to keep from laughing. And it has nothing to do with being an Aspie, either. Just the sheer challenge for her to make it out there boggols t... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do you approach the sex issue? |
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Posted: 31 Aug 2007, 10:03 am
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Replies: 14
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| No, she is not home schooled. I mentioned that in my original post. Of course if she was, I know we would have to explain it to her. And I would never laugh at her, because that just confuses her even more. The thing that floors me is that she readily reads books about it in Japanese manga, but when... |
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