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Forum: The Haven Topic: How to overcome shame and self-hatred? |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 09 Sep 2018, 2:12 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 314
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| I think a lot of people feel that way. I think NT’s typically act out rather than act in. I’m doing some 12 step work to help. I’m trying to remember to challenge my critical parent using affirmations. I was talking to a friend about shame. It’s deep stuff and has to with believing messages that are... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I can't stop being desperate. I should just kill myself |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 08 Sep 2018, 1:26 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 1,398
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I’ve totally been there with my critical inner voice and a toxic amount of loneliness. I am looking for community, so I have gave up on the idea of a relationship.
Please get help. You are enough. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Late diagnosis |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2018, 10:24 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,178
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| http://autismgoggles.com/weblog/2015/09/05/could-you-be-woman-aspergers/ I found this anecdotal list. That really helped me confirm my gut feeling. In my recovery they keep telling me to socialize, not isolate, but I don’t have a choice! I can’t make other people like me. I have other priorities lik... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Late diagnosis |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2018, 6:35 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,178
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| I went to a doctor in my early twenties and got diagnosed as possibly Asperger’s. Being a woman with my special interest being psychology, I use my intellect when dealing with people. I’ve read dozens of books on boundaries, personality typing, etc. Also, I’m an adult child of a dysfunctional family... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why should I try to find friends when people are awful? |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2018, 6:20 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 476
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| Dealing with human nature is not easy, but I would rather deal with human nature than be alone all the time. It’s painful dealing with other people’s flaws, but I’m not Bill Gates so I have to learn to get along to be successful and get my needs met. I have C-PSTD yeah I have every legit reason to i... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Older brother's brewery outshining me |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2018, 6:10 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 577
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I don’t have siblings.
I would define success as being happy, healthy, and able to provide for myself. Not compare myself to others. I’m sure you have many gifts. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Braless. Need to know if I am in the wrong please? |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2018, 4:35 am
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Replies: 37
Views: 2,994
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| Your not wrong, but there are consequences for breaking rules. You just have to decide if it worth paying. A dirty look I don’t care about. I’m not shaming you, but often I feel like men feel like they have permission to harass me if I’m wearing something “sexy”. It up to you. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm exhausted. |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2018, 2:34 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 870
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I know how that feels.
I’m sorry. I don’t trust anyone further than I can throw them. I have really bad trust issues. To be fair most people aren’t trustworthy.
I’m think of volunteering to do hospice.
I think that would make me appreciate life more.
Could you volunteer somewhere? |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm exhausted. |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2018, 2:34 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 870
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I know how that feels.
I’m sorry. I don’t trust anyone further than I can throw them. I have really bad trust issues. To be fair most people aren’t trustworthy.
I should volunteer to do hospice. I have my CNA license.
I think that would make me appreciate life more. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Penelope Trunk’s female aspergers “test” |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2018, 2:21 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 1,382
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| It says in there being a sex worker...ha. I’m an adult entertainer. Yes, it easy because I just pretend to like men. The problem is when I’m trying get out of the industry I was honest about my adult work and didn’t realize its okay lie about it to protect myself from polite society. I thought I out... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Lying |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2018, 2:02 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 738
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Thanks. I was getting in trouble for being too honest.
I think I have a more dualistic understanding. |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Become a personal trainer: yes or no? |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2018, 7:45 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 502
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| I’m studying right now for my personal training exam. I’m too invested to quit now...lol. Good side hustle, but not a lot of benefits. With all the apps and technology people do a lot by themselves. Most people can’t get in peak condition on their own. I’ve done work out videos for awhile. Until I g... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Mothers with ASD, how do you deal with NT "mom groups" |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2018, 7:07 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 776
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Oh no!! !!
I live in snobville.
Okay, not all moms are treacherous, but I understand what you mean. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do women really have more normal looking special interests? |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2018, 7:03 pm
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Replies: 116
Views: 10,882
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| Books!! ! My special interest is sociology/psychology. Which I understand people from a psychology perspective, but I still can’t work out people’s motives are facial expressions. I do well enough that I function really well. I usallly get called ‘nice lady’ a lot. I’m letting go of psychology and m... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: I've been sexually assaulted multiple times & I'm learning |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2018, 6:58 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,185
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| I’m so sorry. It’s not your fault. Is there anything you can do? I understand wanting to move on and not be retraumatized by the legal system. It’s not your fault hun. I forget all the time that men just want sex. No offense Aspie men. It’s kept me from being retraumatized is expecting the worst fro... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Lying |
| ilovehumanitybuthatepeople |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2018, 6:43 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 738
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I hate lying, but it seems to be necessary social lubricant.
What are everyone’s opinions of lying.
I think I have a black and white idea of lying as absolutely wrong. |
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