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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Advice about writing |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2019, 4:32 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,824
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| *Hoping that my advice isn't somewhere in Fnord's exhaustive reply* Firstly, everybody has writer's block so don't stress. Be patient. One way that might break it is to consider three things: The audience . Who are you writing for? How will this affect you're writing? The purpose . Why are you writi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Crush Is Nervous Around Me? |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2019, 4:21 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 474
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| If you think there's a bit of a vibe between you two find some way of asking her out! In my experience the best time when you're at school is in between classes or actually in class (when she isn't in a group). Otherwise, there's stuff like Facebook or Whatsapp or whatever you guys use. It's around ... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: What do we do with people like Joe Biden? |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2019, 7:14 am
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Replies: 39
Views: 2,200
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| My immediate reaction to the accusations was that people were trying to take him down. Not that the accusations are false but that they are being inflated to something more than they are. But any man has to realize that intention isn't the full story. A man can have perfectly good intentions but sti... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: When should students learn basic code? |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2019, 7:09 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 868
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| It depends on what kind of field your hoping to go into. There's no benefit in learning to code if you're going to be a teacher for example, unless it is for personal development/entertainment. Perhaps as soon as the student decides they want to focus on a field where coding is useful. Physics for e... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I stop panicking? |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2019, 1:39 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 234
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| The best advice I can give is to keep engaging with therapy. A lot of people make the mistake of holding back with their therapist because some stuff is hard to articulate or you don't want to talk about the real issue. In my experience, when you fully open up to your therapist and be totally honest... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: baby girl |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2019, 5:50 pm
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Replies: 37
Views: 979
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| I'm not religious, but I'll be praying for Evelyn and your family tonight. Sending love. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Tried to reach out but it doesn't seem to phase them |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2019, 1:10 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 469
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| No it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. These people probably thought they didn't have to be nice or express genuine condolences because you guys are not on good terms. Or maybe they have just moved on with their life and aren't interested in engaging with you. Whatever the reason, these pe... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Struggling With Romantic Loneliness |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2019, 12:57 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 638
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| You have to work on yourself first. If you aren't happy with yourself, it will be hard for others to find you attractive. and I don't mean in the physical sense, because someone will love/care about you no matter what your physical appearance might be. It really doesn't matter how old you are. Unti... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Flirting or being funny? |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2019, 12:50 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 497
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| Even if he didn't actually take his shirt off surely it's inappropriate to joke about taking shirts off in the office? To your question, it sounds like he was flirting, albeit very strangely. If he was actually that hot he would have just done something about it instead of vocalizing it like that to... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How do I control my thoughts? |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2019, 4:32 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 307
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I think the trick is not to control them but to see them as just thoughts. Thoughts only have as much power as you allow them to have. As a previous therapist put it to me:
'Don't try to win the tug of war: just drop the rope.' |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does this happen to anyone else? |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2019, 6:11 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Can you connect with her via social media? If you don't see each other often that might be your best bet, assuming she isn't currently with anyone. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I get back to not caring? |
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Posted: 29 Jan 2019, 6:00 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 494
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| Learn to love yourself. Then love yourself some more! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Trying to understand |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2019, 12:09 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 517
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| Is this related to any challenges with empathy/sympathy that I have read may affect individuals on the spectrum. Any insights would be very much appreciated. Thank you. Just an important point of clarity, people on the spectrum generally don't have issues with feeling empathy, it's more a problem o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Unwanted thoughts about loved one |
| Jake6238 |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2019, 7:54 am
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Replies: 5
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| Based on what you've shared it is perfectly understandable that sometimes you will panic about this stuff. Your mind is obsessively trying to anticipate a potential relationship problem or even a break-up, in order to mitigate the pain that would come with that scenario. It does this out of fear of ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: first impressions |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2019, 7:11 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,093
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| It depends on the guy. Some guys are very superficial and their interest will be based on stuff like size and height etc. Some guys will hinge their interest on your passions and interests and what you talk about. Personally I think most guys fall somewhere in between (although who knows these days)... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Unwanted thoughts about loved one |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2019, 6:47 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 804
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| My advice would be to shift your focus onto the good parts of your relationship, physical or emotional. When you find yourself in the situations you describe try and do a couple of things: 1. Most importantly, DO NOT (I say again DO NOT ) chide or berate yourself at any point. Anxiety is a funny thi... |
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