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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2023, 2:28 pm
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| Do you see a therapist or counselor? As I explained above, currently she's not seeing any therapist. Back in 2019 we were seeing a therapist together. It did help so that she came back. She booked another therapist just for herself last year. After 2-3 sessions she dropped out. She never explained ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2023, 11:01 am
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| To MarkP: Not sure if this would satisfy your wife's needs, but have you and she considered, instead of renting a whole extra apartment for her, perhaps having the entire family move into a new apartment with one more bedroom that she gets to spend time alone in? Perhaps that might be cheaper? From... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2023, 10:54 am
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| Does your wife see a therapist? If not she should. But also if not, why not? Currently, she's not seeing any therapist. Back in 2019 we were seeing one together. It did help a bit. Then she booked another therapist just for herself last year. After 2-3 sessions she dropped out. Truth to be told, wh... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2023, 6:04 am
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| To MarkP: Not sure if this would satisfy your wife's needs, but have you and she considered, instead of renting a whole extra apartment for her, perhaps having the entire family move into a new apartment with one more bedroom that she gets to spend time alone in? Perhaps that might be cheaper? to @... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2023, 4:53 pm
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| Question: who is going to pay for this "insurance" house? Her or you? Until now it was always "us". Even though my wife and I do have several bank accounts of our own, it was never important who paid for what. It's one bucket. That being said, it is also true that my wife has a ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2023, 2:43 pm
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| I find myself frequently re-reading thoughts of all of you in this thread, trying to find nuggets of wisdom. We obviously live far far away on different continents. But your thoughts are much appreciated. So, a Thank you. No matter what happens, I will will be forever grateful to you all. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2023, 2:27 pm
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| is the 15 year old still throwing violent tantrums? I can understand wanting to live in peace on the one hand , but I suppose a lot hinges on how much alone time she is thinking of having. No. Our younger sob has camled down. Our joint vacation helped. And talk. And lots of love. Well. We’re not th... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2023, 11:04 am
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Replies: 37
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| Question: who is going to pay for this "insurance" house? Her or you? Until now it was always "us". Even though my wife and I do have several bank accounts of our own, it was never important who paid for what. It's one bucket. That being said, it is also true that my wife has a ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2023, 10:43 am
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Replies: 37
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| It's a common stereotype for Aspies to lack empathy. Perhaps you could better explain it to her. Maybe it would hep to write it down or send an email & you write/type it out in a very logical straightforward format. You'll have to point connections to how her behavior is negatively affecting yo... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2023, 7:41 am
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| If you have noticed a repeated pattern (Nov-Feb) it sounds like Sessonal Affective Disorder may also be playing a role in all of this. Treating that may ease or break the cycle. Yes. We tried to address the SAD (special light on the office desk, natural supplements for natural serotonine, more natu... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2023, 5:08 am
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| Thank you for your comment. I remember reading your other thread & hoped things would work out for you guys. I hope you & your son are having a nice vacation, I know you two really need it. Actually, we were having vacation together. I'm pretty sure that she is not having an affair. I would... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2023, 9:30 am
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| You have the patience of a saint, my friend. Thank you my friend. Sometimes it takes a gargantuan amount of patience with my youngest Aspie son and my wife indeed. If God wanted to test my patience, he devised the test perfectly. Funnily, my wife says I'm inpatient with her. I guess sometimes I rea... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2023, 9:12 am
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| @MrsPeel Thank you so much for your insight. I read your response several times and found it to be very valuable for my situation. Now if your wife is an aspie and has got to 51 without recognising the problems with her behaviours, that does indicate to me a lack of insight and self-awareness which ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: AS-Wife wants to move out. NT Husband+2 Kids |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2023, 5:30 am
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| Hey guys. You helped me once immensely. Maybe you'll have some thoughts again. I'm a NT husband and father of two boys, 15 and 20. The youngest boy is diagnosed with high functioning Asperger. My wife is a suspected never diagnosed high functioning Asperger as well. My wife and I are both 51, marrie... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Suspected AS-wife moved out. NT husband+2 kids stay at home. |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2019, 2:10 am
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Replies: 47
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| UPDATE: All of you guys have been fantastic. With your help I managed to understand my wife better and that was invaluable. Alternative has been to let my ego prevail. That could have been catastrophic. So, my wife came back home approx a month ago. We went to vacation twice during that time, we ju... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Suspected AS-wife moved out. NT husband+2 kids stay at home. |
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Posted: 30 Jul 2019, 2:09 am
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| I'm really glad things are working out for you two Mark :D You've done a lot to figure out what's going on & to learn how to deal with it & adapt. I really wish more NT partners in relationships with Aspies were like you. From what I've seen in the L&D section & other sections of th... |
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