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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Failing as a high IQ kid |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2025, 5:19 pm
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Replies: 31
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| Ha, this showed up in my FB feed today: At age 23, Tina Fey was working at a YMCA. At age 23, Oprah was fired from her first reporting job. At age 24, Stephen King was working as a janitor and living in a trailer. At age 27, Vincent Van Gogh failed as a missionary and decided to go to art school. At... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Failing as a high IQ kid |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2025, 9:05 pm
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Replies: 31
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| Myself and my BFF didn't start to succeed until well into our 30s and then we caught up in a big way by our 50s. On my 27th birthday, I was in a hotel room because my tent pole broke (I was homeless and jobless) and my cat was crying at a spider on the ceiling and I was afraid someone would hear and... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Vent |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2025, 8:40 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 3,487
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| One too many bad apples in the world. How do you like them apples? I don't. As Mr. Rogers said: find the helpers. Find the respectful people. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Menopause |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2024, 7:09 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 3,510
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| Do women in menopause get more facial hair like on chin? I been getting cold & little hot. I know about hot flashes & night sweat, I don’t know too much on what to expect. My facial hair increased. Not sure if that's related or not; I'm in perimenopause still. I can't tell which symptoms ar... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Could shyness be just a way to "mask" autism? |
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Posted: 04 Aug 2024, 3:32 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 2,620
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| Yes. At 50 I was surprised when a new friend observed --- you were so quiet at first, but you're a firecracker. Ah, yes. I must have been shelling out "doses" of myself so I figure out who can "tolerate" it (ableism) and then when I find that person or group, I'm free(r)! !! ! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Having Lots of Kids as Autistic Parent? |
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Posted: 04 Aug 2024, 3:30 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I have two children and that is sufficient for me and I needed my spouse to be a full co-parent. In fact, he's now primary parent because I took a new job and it's using my energy. Could we have had more children? Yes, but we'd need to have systems and allocate our limited energy accordingly. It was... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you managed autistic traits successfully? |
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Posted: 04 Aug 2024, 3:19 pm
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Replies: 11
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| Stage of life thing. I developed skills, I masked, I burnt out. Now I am "unmasking" - what a relief. Like everything - mask enough to make others comfortable enough and -new to me- unmask enough so that I am comfortable. Like the PP, I was working so very hard (masking). Can I "manag... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Taking Breaks |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2024, 10:36 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I am a "successful" professional in my 50s. That said, I also see that most others "do more" than me in terms of regular tasks. I attribute that in part to the fact that I am processing large amounts of data (sensory and informational) that they don't have to. My happy place is a... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Dumb Blonde Jokes |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2024, 10:06 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 4,541
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I was strawberry blonde and now dark blonde - no blonde jokes for me. That said, a good friend of mine is bleach blonde and I printed off the only blonde joke I found funny and she put it up in her office. I wish I remembered what it was. It was a blonde joke making fun of blonde jokes.  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you think autistic people constantly need reminders? |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2024, 12:22 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 6,416
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| I'm ASD/ADHD and so not sure how much is which. I "live in the moment" and can forget something in an instant. I'll agree to do something and within 5 seconds see something and forget what I was wholeheartedly intent on doing. My kids are nice about it: "Mom, did you...?" Me: &qu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Clueless on what to do |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2024, 12:15 pm
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Replies: 6
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| My BFF and I didn't hit our stride until our 30s and we've done well since then. At your age I was homeless - it was my birthday and I cried so hard. Fast forward 20 years and it's a world of difference better. Hang in there. Wishing you find the job/situation that fits you and/or that it finds you!... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Trauma from Existence of Menstruation |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 8:55 pm
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Replies: 7
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| I'm constantly telling my spouse: I have Autism and periods!! !! !! !! !! !! ! And frankly the periods are worse. I don't have contempt for them, but I really, really, really don't like the pain, uncertainty and complications that go along with them. Life is hard enough to manage and throw in monthl... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: A really weird menopause symptom? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 8:44 pm
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Replies: 13
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| I have been having internal tremors for 20 months now. Mine were triggered by COVID, which also disrupted my menstrual cycle for six months. Relevant for me, I read studies that confirm that Long COVID (or boosters) and internal tremors are a thing and disproportionately affect women ages 40-60. My ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do you hide your gender? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2024, 8:32 pm
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Replies: 16
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| I'm what one called a "tomboy" back in the day. In college I avoided feminine clothing. I still do to some degree, but I think it's mostly protective (don't want to attract negative attention). That said, I don't meet the slew of female standards. I consider myself female but don't "f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I got a medical alert bracelet disclosing my diagnosis |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2024, 10:35 pm
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Replies: 25
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| The most discombobulated I have ever been was on the subway in Washington DC. I began to get very, extremely overloaded by all the motions and lights, etc. I was still in a state for like 20 minutes after getting off! I remember thinking people probably thought I was on drugs cuz that was the most ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I got a medical alert bracelet disclosing my diagnosis |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2024, 12:58 pm
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Replies: 25
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| If I'm ever questioned about it by a medical professional, I guess I will just tell them that it means I need direct communication (no beating around the bush) and that I am prone to sensory overload and that some medical equipment may affect that Like this. :!: I have difficulty paring it all down... |
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