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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspies writing long messages |
| elephantplushie |
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Posted: 22 Oct 2020, 11:31 am
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Replies: 42
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| Something i've noticed compared to chatting with NT people is that all aspies i've texted write really long and well worded paragraphs. It's something I haven't done myself as before I got diagnosed I was used to only texting NTs and they tend to text in a very different, slackier way. Maybe it's ju... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Dumb things Mental Health Professionals say |
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Posted: 22 Oct 2020, 8:17 am
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Replies: 80
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| 1. "You will never get taken seriously by authorities because you don't look autistic or act handicapped enough". 2. I asked for very mild anxiety meds as I don't like meds and I don't need anything heavy. The doctor promised me mild stuff and said I dont need more and then he prescribed m... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: free ASD dating app? |
| elephantplushie |
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Posted: 22 Oct 2020, 7:45 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,117
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| Well there are Facebook groups if you use Facebook. In my country there's at least two groups for people with ASD to get in touch with others looking for a partner. It's free and the only disadvantage I find with it is that the ages are very mixed and you've gotta be lucky to find people in your are... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How many friends do you have? |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2020, 7:51 pm
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Replies: 132
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| I have 3 friends at a distance. Two of them diagnosed aspies, the third has obvious aspie-traits. One of them I only rarely chat with because he has little social energy but we used to meet quite often before he moved even further. We send very long messages to each other though to make up for that.... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Feeling very lonley. |
| elephantplushie |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2020, 3:10 pm
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Replies: 6
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| My two closest friends who are my only friends also diagnosed with aspergers live far from me. One lives 9 hours away and the other 2 hours but he recently moved as far away as my other aspie friend to study for several years. Before he did that we could meet multiple times a year. I only have 1 fri... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Aspergers and asexuality? |
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Posted: 06 Oct 2020, 2:42 pm
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Replies: 6
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| I am a woman with aspergers and I also believe myself to be on the asexual scale because i've had relationships without wanting to have sex though I am attracted to men. I like all other forms of intimacy in a relationship but I avoid sex. This complicates dating. Everyone thinks sex is extremely im... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2019, 2:27 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 1,541
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Raphael F wrote: elephantplushie wrote: I'm sorry if it came off that way. Oh no, hey, hang on! I'm not convinced it was you to whom Rainbow Belle was actually referring. Your enquiry struck me as eminently humane and reasonable ... which was why I got so cross (sorry, everyone) when somebody appeared to dismiss it as self-serving and cynical.elephantplushie wrote: I don't think anyone should get involved with anyone with any form of illness if they can't handle it. It's not fair to anyone involved. Exactly! This was kind of what I meant about humane and reasonable. See?
Go Elephantplushie, I say...
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2019, 2:26 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 1,541
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| I have experience with Manic Depression, if this is indeed the pertinent diagnosis. I will try and give you objective advice. In the manic stage, I have seen families destroyed because of financial debts of astronomic proportions, but these were high income families and I doubt that anyone of low o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2019, 7:55 am
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Replies: 43
Views: 1,541
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| The lack of empathy and understanding is shocking and reinforces the social stigma society has against people with mental illness. Say if the guy had cancer or some other illness. Would you just walk away, tell him to man up and get over? I'm sorry if it came off that way. I have experience of ment... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2019, 7:53 am
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Replies: 43
Views: 1,541
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| Introverts are more likely to be depressed than extroverts. Introverts are often misunderstood by the world and have fewer friends to provide support. It is hard dealing with depression on your own with no support. Extroverts are often friendlier, happier, open minded, talk a lot and are more outgo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 14 Oct 2019, 4:02 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 1,541
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| The Voice of Experience... • He will be too busy socializing during his “manic” phase to pay much attention to you. • He will be too deep into himself during his “depressive” phase to support you emotionally. • He will otherwise be too concerned with just getting through his days to treat you as an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 14 Oct 2019, 3:52 pm
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Replies: 43
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| He's told me he can't stand feeling lonely, that makes his depression worse. Hummm. Must admit I'm not altogether liking the sound of this. I wonder if he'll still be able to accept the space I need sometimes. So do I. But I don't think there's actually a law that prohibits you from raising that as... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 14 Oct 2019, 2:33 pm
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Replies: 43
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| I've just never in my life managed to attract someone without mental illness. The ones I attract without it I feel no chemistry with. Yeah, I can identify with that. On the one hand, obviously it could prove a toxic recipe for disaster, but on the other hand, it could just indicate a positive (or a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2019, 4:41 pm
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Replies: 43
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| Be firm with your bundaries. Care for yourself first. Take time to examine your own feelings and needs. They are important and you need to stand for them. A tendency to fall for mentally ill people may be related to tendency to codependence. Don't fall into that trap. I don't fall for them on purpo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2019, 3:41 pm
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Replies: 43
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| The Voice of Experience... • He will be too busy socializing during his “manic” phase to pay much attention to you. • He will be too deep into himself during his “depressive” phase to support you emotionally. • He will otherwise be too concerned with just getting through his days to treat you as an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a man with depression? |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2019, 2:07 pm
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Replies: 43
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| I know a man with diagnosed depression and we've recently started dating. He is also very extroverted and likes to hang out in large groups of people and he doesn't get tired from that! I am introverted and have social anxiety. So far i've never gone with him to hang out with friends and i've told h... |
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