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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So my worst fear has come true |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 22 May 2020, 10:49 pm
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Replies: 74
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| There are more (and perhaps better) places you can meet people online than just dating sites. I've been virtually dating with Theamazinggeek for a few months now after meeting him here at the beginning of the year. Current events kinda put a damper on being able to meet in person for the time being,... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Media/pop culture Autism attitudes vs lived experience |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 21 Feb 2020, 2:54 pm
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Replies: 41
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| Yea but I dont thnk I addressed the point of the original post so it’s not relevant I suppose. I just don’t think outside attitudes changing will alleviate all the daily problems much. It might but I doubt it. It's relevant in that it's part of some our lived experience that doesn't get a lot of re... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Media/pop culture Autism attitudes vs lived experience |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 21 Feb 2020, 2:26 pm
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Replies: 41
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| But the processing of the situation made my body limp and hard to move properly at times. Or if I sat upright I cd no longer focus the same way. So is that mental illness, physical, I don’t know. But it’s real I experience and have to actively guard against that too. I think it's termed "cogni... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Predator Blindness |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 21 Feb 2020, 2:02 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 12,339
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| I've had some struggles with this over the course of my life, but a helpful litmus test that I've found is to watch whether people are asking more exploratory questions vs guiding questions (those that seem to follow a narrative leading to a pre-determined conclusion or request) or no questions at a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Quick question: are we ultra humble, modest, or unconfident? |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2020, 10:05 pm
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Replies: 28
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| I like compliments in theory, but in typical usage they tend to break the flow of conversation so I have trouble changing gears from what was being discussed to coming up with an appropriate response and then get back to the subject at hand again, and I can't usually do that within a natural-seeming... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I might be the most dysfunctional person on the planet |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2020, 10:20 pm
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Replies: 38
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EzraS wrote: Alas I screwed up. My last post was a response to another thread.
At least you picked the right thread to screw up in.  |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Holiday Recovery |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2020, 11:15 pm
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Replies: 0
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| I managed to do pretty well this year navigating family holiday events, which emotionally I feel very good about but mentally still feel very drained from. Trying to get back into routine but having trouble getting my brain to fire up again, like trying to start a car but the engine won't turn. Any ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: A lull |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2020, 3:00 pm
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Replies: 4
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| That sounds like how my efforts to socialize have gone as well. I think sadness is a reasonable response and not something wrong with you, but I know that doesn't help figure out how to change things. I'm in the place now where I've withdrawn from many things, focusing on family and work instead. Th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: It's a trap |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2020, 9:51 pm
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Replies: 50
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hurtloam wrote: I only got the blunt reply because I asked. He would have just slipped away quietly with no fuss otherwise.
But I needed to know.
Ah, ok. Well I am glad he wasn't intentionally hurtful of you at least, but still I'm sorry you have been so hurt by this nonetheless. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: It's a trap |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2020, 4:35 pm
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Replies: 50
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| You also don't have to remain in the position of being the one to wait for someone else to notice you. The pool of potential expands quite a bit when you can also be a "noticee." It doesn't necessarily have to lead to a specific outcome to be a worthwhile experience. I went through the sin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: It's a trap |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2020, 4:02 pm
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Replies: 50
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| but you don't know what they're thinking and you don't know what's wrong. This caught my notice...... Did he tell you he had made a mistake and didn't like you anymore? Yes, he did, and in a rather blunt manner as well. That sounds like a real jerk. While the scenario does sometimes happen that peo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Creating an Autism-Friendly Vocational Center (USA) |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2019, 8:03 pm
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Replies: 3
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@Mona - I'll reply to you privately after getting through (and recovering from) family holiday stuff.
I am also definitely interested in hearing more about your work as well.  |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Slow Dancing |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2019, 3:53 pm
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Replies: 62
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| ^^ He could just be a socially awkward guy who felt embarrassed by being teased by his coworkers. You’ll know for sure if he continues to not contact you through email or by some other means. Well, I saw him again today and things went pretty well. It was the first we've seen each other since he to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Creating an Autism-Friendly Vocational Center (USA) |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2019, 11:05 am
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Replies: 3
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| That would be great if anything material ever comes of it, but I have a hard time being optimistic. I've been working on creating a digital media company to offer better at-home employment and education opportunities for disadvantaged people and caretakers through solely my own initiative and financ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: When is it too late to "make something" of yourself? |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2019, 12:12 pm
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Replies: 50
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| Something I find helpful to remember about the value of a life: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/krissa-lox_inspiration-motivation-people-activity-6546045081718136832-HVKR Everybody is already "something" but we can make choices about what we most want to do with what we've got. Options and ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: It's a trap |
| Brisienna |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2019, 10:40 am
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Replies: 50
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| As an additional note, there are two main guiding principles I keep posted on my wall these days: "Value is created from Commitment" and "The purpose of Leadership should be to Organize, not dominate" Originally I found them necessary to keep in mind for employment purposes as my... |
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