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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: At a crossroads with what to do with my career & life? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2021, 7:08 pm
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kraftiekortie wrote: Believe it or not, if I were you, I might pick the first option, since it is less stressful. How much do you have to pay in electricity, cable, and phone per month?
I could probably get by on £15k at a push. You are right I couldn't go on holidays. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: At a crossroads with what to do with my career & life? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2021, 7:03 pm
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kraftiekortie wrote: Depends on the Aspie.....but there's the distinct possibility that an Aspie will be a neat freak.
That is a very good point, sadly I am not a neat freak  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: At a crossroads with what to do with my career & life? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2021, 4:43 pm
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| What about having a fellow aspie as a lodger? Is this a good idea? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: At a crossroads with what to do with my career & life? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2021, 2:42 pm
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| Option 5, and hire a property manager to oversee the people for you. My family and friends have a history of doing this, and it's quite lucrative. Just my opinion, of course. I'd personally dissuade anyone from Option 2. Sharing living space, especially when autistic, is very problematic both legal... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: At a crossroads with what to do with my career & life? |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2021, 5:14 am
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| I am a single male aged in his mid 30s. I owned my own company for 8 years and have now had to close it due it not being viable anymore. The work I did was online only and involved no real interaction with humans. It was the dream job for someone who has Asperger's. I have accumulated a large wealth... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 08 Sep 2020, 11:04 am
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Replies: 28
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| Yes, by all means, I’m just making suggestions. It’s your hand to play as you see best. Now, the neighbor who made the abrupt “WHEN YOU GETTING MARRIED THEN?” is the same guy who’s probably the estate agent’s friend? And it’s definitely an abrupt statement. As is calling your dad an idiot because o... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2020, 11:56 am
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| I still think there’s some potential in casually asking, almost as if it was out-of-the-blue, hey, are your ______ [estate agent’s] friend? Accept whatever answer he gives right there and then, without making a big deal about it. I think I want to avoid doing that as it shows my hand too easily. I ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2020, 9:23 am
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| I think you’ve made a pretty good poker read of the situation. The question is, how much opportunity is there to realistically do something with it. The estate agent who I believe is friends with the neighbour owns two offices, one near my current house and another in another part of town. Him movi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2020, 7:22 am
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| I'm wondering how upset or disappointed you are with yourself? I am very upset with myself. Still beating myself up over the situation I find myself in. I think there has been a slight misunderstanding as to the exact turn of events so I will clarify what exactly happened now. The house I bought wa... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2020, 5:27 pm
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Replies: 28
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| The annoying thing is I have no concrete evidence for any of my thoughts regarding the neighbor being the estate agents friend. I also have no concrete evidence the estate agent tricked me. I do have my suspicions though, a list of 10 or so things which make me suspicious. I was going to arrange a m... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2020, 8:58 am
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| He is really wanting to be my friends, constantly asking to go out for lunch. Normally, I’d guess sex, religion, or money: 1) The guy is gay and wants a relationship with you, or 2) He’s a Christian who wants to witness to you (or other faith), or 3) He’s involved in an MLM organization such as Amw... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2020, 5:16 am
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| He doesn't owe you the truth in this situation. He owes his friend the favour of not snitching. You're fixated on discovering a truth that you're not entitled to. Move on with your life. Would your advice part of moving on be to stop being friendly with the neighbor? Let him wonder why I have stopp... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 13 Aug 2020, 4:36 am
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Replies: 28
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| He doesn't owe you the truth in this situation. He owes his friend the favour of not snitching. You're fixated on discovering a truth that you're not entitled to. Move on with your life. Would your advice part of moving on be to stop being friendly with the neighbor? Let him wonder why I have stopp... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2020, 3:29 am
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Replies: 28
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| The neighbour did nothing to you and ultimately the agent isn't your friend so he's entitled to help his friend more than just any random schmuck. There's no sense in being bitter or resentful against the neighbour though and who knows, maybe integrating yourself with them will have benefits. Being... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 12 Aug 2020, 3:24 am
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| I really can’t comment on this...because I don’t know you at all. And I’m not totally privy to the entirety of your situation. Do you like where you live now—but wish it was better? Or do you really dislike where you live? I like where I live. I can make the house fantastic and fix most of the gard... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Neighbor wants to be friends but I fear they have lied to me |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2020, 10:27 am
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| Two years ago I was about to purchase a run down house with cash. The house was overlooked by around 10 windows from neighboring properties at the back, it had stones at the back with no trees and was surrounded by a concrete jungle. Fearing I had paid too much for the property I decided to ask anot... |
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