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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
| BrambleberryPie |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2022, 7:04 pm
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| Ok, so an update. I found out quite by accident at the weekend that this man intends to keep my money. He was using delaying tactics to delay my solicitor appointment to get minute of agreement signed. This would have meant him selling the house. He now says he will keep the money. He initially offe... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Going on self destruct mode |
| BrambleberryPie |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2022, 6:27 pm
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Replies: 7
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2022, 6:24 pm
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Replies: 29
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Tried finding a different support forum |
| BrambleberryPie |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2022, 4:33 pm
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| Glad to hear you are feeling better Sarah. Don't worry about the meltdown or loss of control when you were struggling - a lot of us have been there. I can only sympathise. I wish I had some good advice, but I feel similar to you right now. I guess we just have to keep putting one foot in front of th... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Going on self destruct mode |
| BrambleberryPie |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2022, 3:44 pm
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Thanks everyone - I even smiled at your post Mountain Goat. That is true - things can't get much worse can they?  |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Going on self destruct mode |
| BrambleberryPie |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2022, 2:34 pm
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| Hi Everyone, After a particularly bad relationship break up over the festive period, I am going into self destruct mode. I am in touch with an ex boyfriend from years ago (abusive relationship). I have been suffering from an acute stress reaction and cannot control my emotions or by behaviour. I too... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 5:40 pm
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| I do feel his daughter is acting up to get her own way to some extent. I can see that she really struggles with the side effects of her meds recently, but I feel a lot of this is a misguided attempt by her to get her parents back together. There was a lot of talk from her about magic potions to get... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 3:06 pm
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| Hi Everyone, I am normally too shy to post, but wanted to share a big struggle in my life right now. I am sure family dynamic problems are very common here, so even if posting doesn't help me, it may help somebody else. Basically I met my perfect guy, all was going well and we moved in together. We... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 3:00 pm
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| My therapist just told me this afternoon (in another context) that it takes the average abused woman seven tries before she leaves her abuser for good. Don't let it take you that long. Good point. Yes, I had an abusive relationship in past and it fizzled out slowly. A doctor told me that I was not ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating a Man w/Children |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 2:56 pm
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Replies: 32
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| Too many stories of step parents sacrificing for their step-kids who more often than not hate them but take their money/time/resources. But in addition the sole parent may be involved in ongoing legal proceedings over child maintenance and custody, It's messy and not worth it. In a worst case scena... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 2:45 pm
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| If you ask me, that was pretty nasty of him to throw you out like that just because you got frustrated over one time. Not to mention, take your job and transportation away from you? That sounds like a controller who you don't need in your life. You deserve so much better than that. Summer Twilight,... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 2:33 pm
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rse92 wrote: You paid his mortgage. You took him and his child on an trip. You bought him a 4x4.
You need to get out, run away and don't go back. He and his daughter are TOXIC. Consider yourself lucky it is only money you have wasted on him.
Thanks for your point of view. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 12:01 pm
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| To BrambleberryPie: First off, where (or in what kind of place) are you living/staying now, if any? You said you were "made homeless, jobless and left without transport." Are you now in a shelter? Were you able to get anyone to help you? Something puzzles me. In your first message, you wr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 11:32 am
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Replies: 29
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| To BrambleberryPie: First off, where (or in what kind of place) are you living/staying now, if any? You said you were "made homeless, jobless and left without transport." Are you now in a shelter? Were you able to get anyone to help you? Something puzzles me. In your first message, you wr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 11:13 am
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Replies: 29
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| Hi Everyone, I am normally too shy to post, but wanted to share a big struggle in my life right now. I am sure family dynamic problems are very common here, so even if posting doesn't help me, it may help somebody else. Basically I met my perfect guy, all was going well and we moved in together. We... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Breaking up with my perfect partner due to his daughter |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 11:05 am
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Replies: 29
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| Have you three considered family therapy? It sounds like one of two things is happening: 1. The daughter has some real trauma or issue that needs to be addressed and she needs help. Or 2. The daughter is acting up because she wants her own way/attention/whatever. If this is the case she just needs ... |
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