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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Ever feel like you need to act MORE autistic? |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2021, 1:12 am
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| I get frustrated all the time, because I'm "high functioning." I feel like the more obvious people get all the help and services. Nonprofits for the developmentally disabled are not equipped to do much for higher functioning adults. And, yeah, men get so much more respect. Society needs t... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Ever feel like you need to act MORE autistic? |
| Ms Dobalina |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2021, 4:17 pm
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| Trying to do all of these things leaves me so exhausted that eventually I just break down completely and spend the day in bed with the curtains drawn, curled up in the fetal position, praying for my anti-anxiety medication to kick in as soon as possible so that maybe I can get some relief. It's too... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Ever feel like you need to act MORE autistic? |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2021, 2:29 pm
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| ... they're incredibly needy, they pee, crap, vomit, and cover you in snot and it's your job to deal with the aftermath. Then they get bigger and they run and dart about constantly without provocation. They talk and tell you their tedious stories with weak plots, terrible syntax and no structure. L... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Ever feel like you need to act MORE autistic? |
| Ms Dobalina |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2021, 7:25 pm
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| Quote: It's even trickier than this. If their eyes are open and bright and their voice is high and steady, it means "they definitely want you to think they're fine." That may be because they are fine OR they could actually be trying very hard to hide from you what they're really feeling. A... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Ever feel like you need to act MORE autistic? |
| Ms Dobalina |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2021, 3:39 am
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| May I ask, what do you mean by "complex theory of mind"? I know a little of theory of mind from psychology and took one incredibly boring philosophy of mind course at university, but am interested in how you are using it to describe yourself, since you write in an articulate and self-awar... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Ever feel like you need to act MORE autistic? |
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Posted: 03 Apr 2021, 7:13 pm
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| I can't mask or mimic, and never really did. I hid the extent of my stimming / BFRB but it was still obvious that I had uncommon mannerisms and repetitive motions. I couldn't assimilate to NT culture, let alone female behaviour. I've always been very different than other girls and women. It was obv... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Ever feel like you need to act MORE autistic? |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2021, 10:44 pm
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| Definitely agree on the masking. It's a conundrum - if I'm open about my autism to people I get a lot of scepticism. "Really?" Yes, I have a professional diagnosis and a 13 page report that took a lot longer to get than this 10 minute conversation. "You mustn't be very autistic".... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Are you a spinster? (women only) |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2021, 4:03 pm
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Replies: 55
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| I prefer the terms "on the shelf" or "destined to die alone" (jk!). I have an indifference to romantic relationships that other people don't have. If one came along suddenly and it worked out, I'm sure I'd be happy have it. But I don't mind being perpetually single. A part of it... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Are you a spinster? (women only) |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2021, 3:58 am
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Replies: 55
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| I prefer the terms "on the shelf" or "destined to die alone" (jk!). I have an indifference to romantic relationships that other people don't have. If one came along suddenly and it worked out, I'm sure I'd be happy have it. But I don't mind being perpetually single. A part of it ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Questions about you |
| Ms Dobalina |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2021, 10:45 pm
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Replies: 5,762
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| What is your first name? Tessa Age: 33 Location: New Zealand Hobbies and Interests: Reading, watching movies, playing with my dogs. Why are you here? I am wanting to be able to talk to women (men and non-binary too) who had been diagnosed later in life and the struggle that comes with knowing you ar... |
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