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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Forgetting to breathe and autism/aspergers. |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2023, 10:40 am
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Comparing Someone To You |
| ThisTimelessMoment |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2023, 2:09 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 630
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| Each human has such a unique set of circumstances that I don't believe there is any way to objectively compare one of us to any other. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: (C-)PTSD Thread |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2023, 5:11 am
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Replies: 282
Views: 17,674
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| Sometimes it's just like my body remembers and my mind doesn't. I got much better once I realized what it was and started giving myself space to feel it. The advantage of feeling it, is that it is the thing as it actually is, without the story I'm attaching to it. It's reality, not the potentially ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: (C-)PTSD Thread |
| ThisTimelessMoment |
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Posted: 02 Mar 2023, 4:36 am
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Replies: 282
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| I also have murky, memories that come and go. I think this is partly due to aphantasia, partly due to trauma. It is, in my view, possible to heal from trauma. For me the healing I have achieved so far has largely been about accepting reality. Past experience is fixed as far as the reality of what ha... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Constant Embarrasment and Guilt |
| ThisTimelessMoment |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2023, 2:49 am
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Replies: 6
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| Growing up with parents who shamed me to manipulate me into behaving as they liked caused me to internalize that shame. Taking on an image of myself as shameful and not worthy. This resulted in me feeling very much like you describe. I've found that talking about the shame with other humans and in g... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: my mum has died.dont know how to feel |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2023, 1:29 am
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Replies: 16
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Processing loss happens at different rates for everyone. There is no "right" way to do it. The process will happen at its own pace regardless.
I'm sorry for your loss. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How do I break out of a slump? |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2023, 1:10 am
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Replies: 11
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| A few other ideas: Sunlight Nature (even a walk in a park can help) Feeling the feelings in your body. (Body scan meditation). If you are simply feeling what is happening, it is impossible to be thinking about what is happening. Thinking is usually a hindrance rather than a help. I hope you feel bet... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm giving up on "witchy" s**t |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 12:15 am
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Replies: 59
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| The Netflix show about Ram Dass that follows his last days was pretty good. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm giving up on "witchy" s**t |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2023, 2:54 pm
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Replies: 59
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^ There is a genre of internet media clips called "Watts Wave". Recordings of Alan watts added to a backing of some spiritual/trippy music.
He certainly "got it", in some important way. Pity he couldn't heal all his own issues. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Exploring my Attatchments to people |
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Posted: 06 Feb 2023, 2:35 am
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Replies: 6
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| I always used to see myself as younger and more immature than everyone else. Also that i gravitated to people who, at least seemed like, they could look after me. This has changed as I've grown into myself. Where the developmental disorder held me back, I feel I have managed to develop myself "... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm giving up on "witchy" s**t |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2023, 12:59 pm
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Replies: 59
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As others have said:
The universe is meaningless process.
Make your own meaning.
The spiritual journey is a journey of understanding yourself, not something external. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: My mother is starting to go downhill |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2023, 1:41 am
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Replies: 17
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| KitLily your storie is certainly ringing all of my narcissist warning bells! I'm sorry you've had to deal with this. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: My mother is starting to go downhill |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2023, 6:51 am
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Replies: 17
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| As people get closer to the end they sometimes start to see through some of their sh#t. Start to realise where they made mistakes. It may happen in a big way or a little way. I would try to take her word for it while not getting too excited that she has changed. Change is hard work. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can you understand poetry as a person on the spectrum? |
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Posted: 15 Jan 2023, 12:46 am
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Replies: 62
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| While I can understand metaphor, I struggle with poetry. Listening to something in real time I cannot process fast enough to get the meaning. It becomes word salad. Somehow song lyrics are easier. Why is that? Perhaps because they are usually less of a continuous, dense flow of words? Does the music... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I want to die so badly right now. |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2023, 12:25 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Hi. Just seen this. I hope you are still with us. There is no way to end your life without passing your pain on to those who love you. I know how f@#king terrible things can be. But passing it on is worse. If you just manage to keep breathing, things will change. They always do. Nothing can last for... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Condolences for Kortie |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2023, 12:47 pm
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Replies: 52
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| Sorry for your loss Kraftie. I've heard it described as the umbilical cord finally being permanently severed. My own mother is getting towards that time. Sending you much love and care. |
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