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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Handbook for autistic-autistic social interactions |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2024, 5:34 pm
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| Actually, on the same or flipside of what I was talking about before- I have something more specific to add. I thought it might be good to mention explicitly, even if I don't know how common it is in a place where almost everyone will be familiar with breakdowns: a way I have misunderstood others in... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Definitely felt alien |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2024, 11:18 am
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Replies: 12
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Thank you! I'll do my best to contribute value to the community.  |
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Forum: Television, Film, and Video Topic: Who did you want to be? Do you remember why? |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2024, 11:09 am
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Replies: 13
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| That's an extremely strong endorsement- everyone I heard at the time did not like it, so we didn't see it even though we both had enjoyed the original. But, that's what you sometimes get for listening to the crowd; hearing that now, maybe I can check it out sometime. Honestly I'm sure I'd enjoy the ... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: How to comfort people |
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Posted: 06 Feb 2024, 12:08 am
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Replies: 15
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| Something I think usually helps to show you are invested is if you can ask a reasonable clarifying question, or make a reasonable inference from what they have said. Perhaps basically similar to, "My house has flooded." "Oh no! Is everyone ok/was anyone hurt?" or asking about stu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Diagnosis rejection is a personal rejection |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 11:16 pm
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Replies: 9
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| It does feel pretty terrible. Well, that's an understatement, considering that prospect is half the reason I don't tell most people about my diagnosis still- and why I told only one or two people the theory that I was almost certain of prior to the actual testing. I think 'We're all a little autisti... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Handbook for autistic-autistic social interactions |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 9:48 pm
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Replies: 10
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| I think it's true that the likeliest misunderstandings come from assuming similarity and having trouble coming up with alternate options. Related to that specifically, there are some checks I usually run in all social interactions that help some in general, but do seem to have less downsides and be ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Definitely felt alien |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 1:28 pm
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| Thank you for your response and advices jimmy. I particularly appreciate how in-depth it is, especially so that I can see someone else writing posts that are the length of mine. I started to be concerned I was coming on too strong, even here! I think to me, being "honest, correct, and friendly ... |
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Forum: Television, Film, and Video Topic: Who did you want to be? Do you remember why? |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2024, 12:03 pm
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| That makes sense, Hokulea. I think a lot of times it probably is some aspect of the character's life that is appealing, even if their personality isn't something you'd aspire to or even necessarily think much about. Even though I listed personality traits for many of mine (so it must have been at le... |
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Forum: Television, Film, and Video Topic: Who did you want to be? Do you remember why? |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2024, 4:46 pm
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| It's been long enough that I don't remember the details of why, but I really wanted to be Professor Jackson from Stargate SG-1. I even drew a picture of a child relative to be an OC self-insert, which I almost never did. Andraia from ReBoot, but mostly while she was a child. I liked that she just kn... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Answering Questions About Pain |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2024, 2:31 pm
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Replies: 16
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| It is extremely difficult. I share others' frustrations that the interpretation of the doctor matters more than what you actually say. I am reputed for having a very high pain tolerance. To the point that my assertion that something was tolerable or not that bad is considered fully inadmissable and ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: actually accurate autism asessments? |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2024, 12:48 pm
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Replies: 7
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| That is very helpful context. Truly accurate ones don't exist yet, even when they're used in evaluations they require expert interpretation to distinguish behaviors that are motivated by autism from similar ones that can have different sources. They also can have phrasing that confuses autistic peop... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: looking for fellow goof |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2024, 11:57 am
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Replies: 10
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| Hello! Welcome! I am also new here, L1, a programmer, and can enjoy some absurdity. I'm very progressive but also hold a strong distaste for political correctness. People who prioritize policing the words you use care more about who can properly show their group allegiance than whether or not your p... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Are autistic people expected to like famous autistic people? |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2024, 10:31 pm
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| I think maybe many do, since it's not only nice to know they have that in common with you but also you're less likely to be bothered by the specifically autistic reasons not to like them. However, I don't think it's expected. Maybe I hang out with too many neurotypical people, but they are very hars... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Moving and Saying Goodbyes |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2024, 9:43 pm
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| I don't think I have the same experience, but the feelings are a little similar. I've never moved across the country, but I have moved probably within every four years for my entire life until this house. I think we've made it to six years here, now. For one move, when I left to go to an out-of-stat... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: getting followed around like you are going to steal somethin |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2024, 8:17 pm
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Replies: 24
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| This used to happen to me a lot, partially because I would wear or carry a winter coat in the wrong season or bring a backpack everywhere, and it gives the impression you are looking to have a place to hide items. However, I may also have learned to shop with more normal body language because I star... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Greetings from Brazil - Begging for advices. |
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Posted: 01 Feb 2024, 7:34 pm
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Replies: 10
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| Welcome Fernando. I am new here as well but I relate some to your story, as I also was raised under the impression I was normal, while still receiving many helpful autism-symptom-targeted parenting strategies. I am certain your son is better off from your dedication to helping him early in his life,... |
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