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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "You're so lagged behind in life, you need to buck up" |
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Posted: 06 Jul 2023, 4:21 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 1,171
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| How often do you hear these words from the people around you? My mom just spoke these words to me yesterday, she said that her hairstylist's daughter is 26 years old and already had a stable full-time job and had recently gotten married. And she asked me why I'm still so lagged behind in life, and ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: what are common autism traits that you DON'T relate to? |
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Posted: 28 May 2023, 1:00 pm
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Replies: 58
Views: 4,888
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| I think this is a trait of Asperger's rather than Autism, but I don't ramble like a little professor about my special interests. That's because I only talk to about four people in the whole world, and even then I'm often mute with them. I know they aren't interested in my special interests and it f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: what are common autism traits that you DON'T relate to? |
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Posted: 28 May 2023, 6:19 am
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Replies: 58
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| I seem to relate to and have most of / very many Autistic traits. Of the few that I don't have is the inability to read people's facial expressions and body language etc. I think I'm actually very observant and perceptive in that side of things. (This is what directly led me to being diagnosed so la... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Leaving a job without having a new one to go to? |
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Posted: 07 May 2023, 7:34 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 768
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| Is the pain of being in the job worse than the pain of worrying about needing to get a job soon, applying for jobs without necessarily a good reference, having to answer the question of why you left your current role in the most diplomatic way possible, worrying about money, and the stress involved... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: ADHD informant form needs to be filled in by someone else |
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Posted: 06 May 2023, 8:06 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 416
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| So I have finally got a reply from my ADHD assessment centre, and have received a list of things I need to do next. One of these things is causing me a lot of anxiety and difficulty, which is the 'informant form.' Someone who knows me well is meant to answer in depth questions about my potential ADH... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Leaving a job without having a new one to go to? |
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Posted: 06 May 2023, 4:31 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 768
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| I know this is a risk, especially if you're Autistic like me, and struggle with the interviews that will be necessary to get through in order to land my next job role. The thing is though, I am really not happy in my current role. The workload is just far too much. (I also suspect that I have ADHD, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Vodka for curing/helping with High functioning Autism |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2023, 4:55 am
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Replies: 50
Views: 3,537
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| The only common Autism comorbidity that alcohol might temporarily help some people with is the anxiety, especially social anxiety, that can often go with Autism. But anxiety is not a symptom of Autism in itself. Many Autistic people do not have anxiety. it's generally recognised that the rebound anx... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "Loser" is such a hateful term. |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2023, 11:21 am
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Replies: 8
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| And what does it even mean to be a "loser"? That you constantly lose? What I know is that myself - and I'm sure most of you as well - have constantly been called that. Who defines what a "loser" is? Why do so many people use a term that is so baseless - yet so loaded - to consta... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspiedar: can you tell if someone is autistic? |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2023, 10:23 am
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Replies: 34
Views: 3,182
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| I don't think you can tell just by looking at a person, but as I have learnt more about the traits I can look back on some of the people I've got to know over the years. Knowing what I know now, I know that some of them were Autistic because of what they told me about their traits, and also what I c... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Forced into unsuitable work |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2023, 9:05 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 904
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| Has anyone else felt compelled to take any work, even if it's totally unsuitable, just in order to keep earning? But if you are not good at a work or usuitable for it they may not even hire you or you will get fired. You have to be competent! So what are you talking about? What do you maen by the t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Forced into unsuitable work |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2023, 4:19 am
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Replies: 11
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| Has anyone else felt compelled to take any work, even if it's totally unsuitable, just in order to keep earning? I've been there a few times, especially with having to do phone based customer service roles. I was diagnosed with Autism about a year ago, very late in life, but I also suspect that I ha... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What medication helps you? |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2023, 4:09 am
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Replies: 23
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| Hi I am new here. Im 58 years young, and i dont have a firmal diagnosis yet. I now know i have an ASD. After all, we know ourselves better than anyone, dont we. I have been treated by my GP for anxiety and depmost of my adult life, but still i have struggled in so many areas of my life. In approx 2... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Books on autism |
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Posted: 12 Mar 2023, 5:53 am
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Replies: 3
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| Does anyone know any good books about autism? Like where the main character has autism. I'm not looking for clinical books more just a regular book but instead of it being about neurotypical it's about someone with autism. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon would be a ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: It seems to be that AS = extreme introversion? |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2023, 1:51 am
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Replies: 48
Views: 3,550
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| I don't see how on earth an autistic person can be an extrovert. I do. Autistics can be introverted or extroverted. Extroverted Autistics tend to be hyper verbal, very articulate, and go on endless monologues. My Dad is this type, I find him exhausting to be around. Sometimes a few minutes is all I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: You may be ADHD if... |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2023, 4:41 am
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Replies: 85
Views: 8,779
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| You may me ADHD if you were very late putting your 2023 wall planner up and when you did you still missed out transferring important events over to the new planner. Meaning that you failed to remember that you had bought a ticket to go and see a band last week.. The missed experience and opportunity... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I might have ADHD as well |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2023, 4:20 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,790
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| Some studies have suggested that 30%-80% of Autistic people may also have ADHD. I can believe this, but I also find it quite astonishing. It's also worth noting that until around the year 2000 and after DSM4 the so called experts deemed it impossible for anyone to have both conditions. It angers me ... |
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