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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Tactics |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2007, 3:10 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,981
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| Given I have neither male nor female friends, I need special strategies to actively cause women to be attracted to me. You have to understand I haven't even so much as talked to a woman roughly my age in person for many many months. You don't need special strategies. You need a way to make friends.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is there a difference between mental anguish and depression? |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2007, 3:53 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 2,597
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| What you say makes sense. But what if the experiences have ongoing lasting tangible negative effects. It seems reasonable for me to be unhappy. But if are depressed, you may see things as being more negative than you would if you weren't depressed. So, what kind of negative effects are you dealing ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Lack of Legal Sex Options for Aspie Males |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2007, 1:09 am
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Replies: 83
Views: 2,499
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| There must be a reason why you're not attracting people. If you smell like sh** (either figuratively or literally) people will stay away. No, I shower daily, work out, dress decently (business formal at work and casual out), generally behave with politeness and considerateness towards others, etc. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Any asexuals? |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2007, 12:28 am
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Replies: 67
Views: 6,903
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| I'm more-or-less asexual. The odds of finding someone that I'm attracted to, who is also attracted to me, and who has a compatible (read: low) sex drive... well, it doesn't seem very likely. And since I am more or less asexual, I'm not very motivated to pursue that slight possibility, which only red... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is there a difference between mental anguish and depression? |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 12 Dec 2007, 11:55 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 2,597
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| In my experience, depression makes it easy to find reasons to be unhappy (and "unhappiness" can take many miserable forms -- "mental anguish" is certainly one of them.) Since my "reasons" for feeling unhappy weren't particularly good reasons -- which is to say, none of them were really that bad -- I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ideas for alert cards for my trip? |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 11 Dec 2007, 11:06 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,195
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| Well, what sorts of situations are you concerned about? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you get frustrated when people don't say what they mean? |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2007, 1:33 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 3,023
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| You could try having a default, no-thinking-required response to some of the questions that come up a lot. "You look fine," is always a safe answer. "I don't know, what do you want to do?" is another one. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fighting a loosing battle with myself... |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2007, 1:24 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,931
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| Hey Nomad, Glad you managed to write back to us. Here's a few more thoughts for you to consider: In addition to an antidepressant, my psychiatrist prescribed 30 minutes of exercise a day. It doesn't even have to be "real" exercise -- brisk walking is apparently sufficient, as long as you keep up the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is Force the Only Way? |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2007, 10:41 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 3,759
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| You don't "get" a woman by raping her. All you'd "get" is momentary sexual gratification... at the cost of profound psychological harm to the woman. And, hopefully, the cost of a lengthy prison sentence for yourself. If you really think that sex with someone who doesn't want you would be better than... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Snobbish Behavior of Women in Online Social Networks |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2007, 9:39 pm
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Replies: 44
Views: 5,260
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| How are you approaching these women? And what are your profiles like? Also, you might have better luck with an actual dating site like OkCupid. The male/female ratio is still likely to work against you, but at least you know that everyone there is at least theoretically interested in dating someone ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fighting a loosing battle with myself... |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2007, 5:56 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,931
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| Again, I'm with SapphoWoman. Anti-depressants haven't changed my personality or put me on a "fluffy cloud." I'm still just as capable of feeling sad or anxious. The difference is that I don't feel these things all the time , I only feel them when there's something to be sad or anxious about . Also, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fighting a loosing battle with myself... |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2007, 5:28 pm
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Replies: 25
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| I also think you need to seek professional help. I know how hard that is when you are depressed and anxious, but I think it's the only way you're going to get out of this. Willpower is a limited resource, but even now, you probably have some untapped reserves. Put it all towards getting help. Find a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you know? |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2007, 4:41 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,381
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| Don't be scared. If you're generally doing okay in life, finding out you're an aspie (if you are) isn't going to change anything. It's not like it's some sort of progressive disease, it's just the way some people's brains are wired. And if you aren't doing so well, maybe this will help you figure ou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are We Being Pyschotherapied to Death? |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2007, 6:42 pm
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Replies: 11
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| Who's "we"? Are you speaking from personal experience? Did a shrink prescribe you Prozac for a stubbed toe? Or are you just annoyed that other people are getting help for problems that don't seem sufficiently problematic to you? I speak from personal experience when I say: Depression is not a "quirk... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: phobic of certain indiviuals... |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 06 Dec 2007, 3:26 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,224
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| I think you should lock your doors. Yikes. Besides your "territory," he's trespassing on your private property. Or someone else's property, if you're renting. Either way, you are well within your rights to tell him to leave -- and if he doesn't, to call the cops. Rude? Sure. But there's nothing wron... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional life of an Asperger |
| UnfoldedCranes |
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Posted: 06 Dec 2007, 1:29 pm
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Replies: 37
Views: 4,228
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| 1. Do I worry too much about math? 2. Is it a normal behavior among Aspergers? 1. By most people's standards? Yes. But if it really matters that much to you, then there's no point in trying to conform to other people's standards. 2. From the reactions you're getting, I suspect not. I think the odds... |
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