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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why do I try too hard to fit in with everyone else? |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2024, 6:19 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,516
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| It sounds like you are already aware and there is a common thread with all these threads - you are comparing yourself with other people. You are also already aware their situation is different than yours and that comparing yourself is unhelpful, yet continue to make comparisons anyway. The good news... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I don't want to lead ex boyfriend around |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2024, 8:54 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,695
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| Personally I wouldn't even say "It's good to see you." The type of pushy person will take it as invitation to seek more interactions, like "If they appreciated this interaction then they'll like more." This is different than leading someone around and more the other person seeing... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: considering asking common-law husband to marry me. Advice? |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 25 Aug 2024, 6:51 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,394
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| Asking as a hypothetical is probably a pretty safe way to do it, especially if you're okay with it either way. I don't think you need to say all these reasons, since you're not trying to win a debate. Ask him how he feels and answer any questions or concerns he may have. If he asks why you changed y... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Is anyone on HRT? |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2024, 12:54 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,663
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| In my case, I use both a waist pack / fanny pack and a small but rugged backpack with padded shoulder straps, unlike the fashion backpacks. The backpack has stuff like hairbrush, water bottle, sunscreen, etc, while the waist pack has my phone and wallet. I find weight not being evenly distributed ac... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Is anyone on HRT? |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2024, 10:30 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,663
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| I don't know if this is dated fashion advice. However, it generally worked well for me to go to target, get skinny jeans from the Juniors / teenage section (narrower hips and skinny jeans are stretchy nowadays), then combine a tank top with a V neck tshirt since their tshirts are see through. The sl... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Is it true that women are more mature than men? |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 21 Aug 2024, 8:27 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 2,045
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| There are possible developmental differences to explain it (though not thoroughly proven), but women are also more expected to be caretakers of other people, those people's feelings, or the environment / shared spaces more generally. This results in them seeming more mature, though it may be that th... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do we have to drink, travel and party to ''live life''? |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2024, 7:15 pm
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Replies: 15
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| Short version is that people do these things because they find them enjoyable, so you are only missing out if you also would find (or would have found) them enjoyable. But also, living life shouldn't be seen as synonymous with drug induced mental states. Traveling can be fun. Lots of people have not... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I want to learn flirting |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2024, 9:39 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,745
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| I think I explained how I thought it was relevant in the post you're quoting from. If you think I didn't, I'd suggest rereading it, then letting me know which parts are unclear if you still aren't sure. Otherwise, everyone can feel free to disregard the post if it is unhelpful. In terms of it being ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Adult megathread. Ask a question, answer a question |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2024, 1:59 pm
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Replies: 1,265
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| Anyway, a question for some people who might not have experienced group sex: How do you define casual sex, really? Is it: 1.) Any sex outside of a committed, loving relationship, including FWB arrangements, or 2.) Literally just having sex with people you barely know, simply because the opportunity... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Is anyone on HRT? |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2024, 10:51 am
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Replies: 10
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| I've been on it for over 11 years. It's unlikely people will notice the breast growth, and, if they do, it's unlikely they will connect it to HRT. Cis men get gynecomastia sometimes. You may be disappointed in how easy it is to hide the effects of HRT. HRT did good things for my emotional stability ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I want to learn flirting |
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Posted: 19 Aug 2024, 7:43 am
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Replies: 12
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| Hi Latimeria! Yes, it is this intense feeling that gets invested and even setting high expectations. I overthink the whole situation and analyse to much which makes me desperate. Often a few days later all those mentioned just disappear and life goes on as usual. So if I to say was a serial killer,... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I want to learn flirting |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2024, 6:33 pm
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Replies: 12
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| It sounds like your problem is less not understanding flirting and more getting emotionally invested very quickly, a trait you have in common with serial killers. That doesn't make you a serial killer, but it also doesn't make you not a serial killer, from the other person's perspective. At a minimu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Approaching someone in public |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2024, 6:24 pm
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Replies: 147
Views: 7,342
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| []I think men & women tend to experience horniness differently. Perhaps guys taking matters into their own hands is not as relieving for guys as it tends to be for women :chin: There's some reason most rapes are committed by guys & I think it's parlty related to their biology & hormones... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Approaching someone in public |
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Posted: 18 Aug 2024, 8:24 am
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Replies: 147
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| For me it's not. My sex life is basically over. For younger males who are looking for female (or male/other) companionship they have being horny in addition to coping with autism so for them frustration is something that is unavoidable (meditation and a walk on the beach isn't a cure for horniness)... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Do we live in a better world now than in days gone by ? |
| Latimeria |
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Posted: 17 Aug 2024, 4:26 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 542
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| In general there is more people, fewer wars, fewer deaths by war, fewer famine, etc, so things are objectively better. The news focus on problems and upsetting content because they get more views. Even then there are big gaps, like reporting extensively on gaza but not wars in Africa. If you watch t... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Being autistic and LGBT |
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Posted: 17 Aug 2024, 3:54 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 3,853
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| I feel like I've been treated worse for being autistic than transgender. Transgender is worse overall because you have to deal with gender dysphoria, but people are usually polite about my trans status while I remain within in earshot. Occasionally strangers have mocked or stared at me. That can be ... |
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