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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2023, 1:42 pm
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| I have thought about this some. I think the major issue here is that people on the Autism spectrum don't have the same need to constantly "engage" with their partners. Also, if the relationship is established, you really just assume the person will always be there for you. They're away, b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2023, 1:37 pm
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Stardust Parade wrote: Very much. He died in July.
I am so sorry to hear this. All the best. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2023, 1:36 pm
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| You maynot have realized you may have made a extremely "Loyal" Ally in life . Under the circumstances , depending on the bond a Aspie male my feel or develop. Based on some old relationships,that i have been in. It might not always be fullfilling . But it could be a reliable one ? Good Lu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: The big question that I don't understand about ASD |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2023, 8:08 am
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| I've noticed the same with me ASD-boyfriend. He did more "masking" in the beginning, like we all do, ASD or NT. Not because people like to lie, but because it is impossible to only show your good side all the time. For my bf and me very concrete arrangements tend to work, like: He would be... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2023, 4:31 pm
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| Also as I mentioned earlier, many autistic people have, to one degree or another, difficulty coping with sudden changes in plans. (This is an aspect of the executive functioning difficulties many autistic people have.) That's likely one of the reasons why he doesn't seize every possible opportunity... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 09 Jan 2023, 8:17 am
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| All of the things you mention here, as things you want him to do, require executive functioning skills, which many autistic (and ADHD) people have difficulties with to some extent. Also, given all his other responsibilities, he might have what we in the autistic community (and people in the disabil... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 09 Jan 2023, 8:11 am
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| It seems that the ability to connect is skewed in a way, so I need certain time to feel like I have received the emotional energy\satisfaction which in turn makes me less able to give and more likely to ask for. It feels like lack of progress and I tended to blame what my partners would do to furth... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2023, 3:52 pm
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| IMO it is simply not reasonable to expect "butterflies" or romantic "obsession" in any relationship, at least in the long run. Many people do experience these things during a brief "honeymoon" phase at the beginning, but then evolve into a more relaxed kind of intimacy... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2023, 5:43 am
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| Oh I have missed my fiancé when he goes out and we aren’t together and he misses me when we aren’t together. We both have Aspergers and we are very loving people towards each other and live together and I could not imagine not living with him. I am thankful we live together so we don’t have to miss... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2023, 5:42 am
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Recidivist wrote: Do Aspies miss their partners?
I don't miss my partner, family or friends, out of sight out of mind.
Thank you for your insight... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2023, 5:41 am
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| If he says he cares about you, and your relationship is generally good, then I would trust that he does. I can only speak for myself but it doesn't seem to me like being with someone we don't care about is something many people on the spectrum would do. I have never been able to stay in a relations... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2023, 5:50 am
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| Unless I'm told what they expect, things like that don't occur to me. Yes, I am that stupid in relationships. I am that person who thinks, "I'm fine" really means I'm fine when everyone else in the room knows it means the opposite. It sucks. I hate it that I've accidentally hurt people wh... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2023, 5:39 am
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| Unless I'm told what they expect, things like that don't occur to me. Yes, I am that stupid in relationships. I am that person who thinks, "I'm fine" really means I'm fine when everyone else in the room knows it means the opposite. It sucks. I hate it that I've accidentally hurt people wh... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2023, 5:27 am
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| Have you spoken to your boyfriend about your feelings? Yes, he know certain things make me doubt his feelings. He says what I think is not true and tries to work on things to make things better, which I appreciate. Like answer to texts I send him, which has has not done in the past. But at the same... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2023, 5:21 am
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| For example I have a dysfunction to connecting with my partner and I have to work hard to achieve it. It's frustrating but it pushes me to need more time with my s\o before the intimacy is achieved. I'm also not interested in sex as much as emotional stuff, a mix of things including significant tra... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do Aspies miss their partners? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2023, 5:13 am
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| Hi, I am a woman with ASD (Aspergers) and I don't know your boyfriend, or how his autism affects him, but I think the problem is you are putting your evaluation of his actions based upon what your own intentions would be. As in, if you forgot someone's birthday, especially someone you're dating, th... |
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