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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2008, 1:35 am
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| You are a jerk for even suggesting such a thing. Autistics DO NOT belong in jail, group homes or institutions for ANY reason. He hits his mother. This is illegal criminal behavior. He is a danger to his mother and probably society. Parents shouldn't have to be forced to take care of adult children ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
| trixiesirisheyes |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2008, 1:34 am
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CockneyRebel wrote: It seems like he's rebelling....
Of course he's rebelling. Emotionally, he's in high school! But he's smart enough to know he's 21 and legally an adult. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2008, 1:32 am
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| I believe you mentioned you have a daughter? Could you get her to talk to him? Or either you or him go stay with her for a while? Perhaps if you went to stay with her for a month or more he would come to realise just how much you do for him... My daughter and her husband have a tiny little house th... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2008, 1:29 am
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| Beau, I think you need to reread this bit: Much more worrisome are the untreated ADHD, which can indeed lead to violent outbursts (and apparently, meds are available - the patient simply refuses to take them), and the severe OCD. Both problems are treatable with medications - but the patient must b... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 9:24 pm
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| He's allowed to earn up to a certain amount and keep his SSI, or a portion thereof. He's also going to school, which allows him to work and keep all of his SSI. I'm glad he's working. It's not full-time, but at least he's paying back into the system he's taking money from. I'm going to have to sit h... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 9:08 pm
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| I already did a pretty good job of cleaning Dad out in the legal separation and spousal support. We're not exactly rich, although I would sort of love to force my husband to sell his beloved 2000 Porsche Boxster. It's the only reason I've been able to carry my son financially, and the only reason we... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 8:52 pm
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| Can I put my adult son in a treatment center?? It's going to cost me about $2500 to get conservatorship over him in order to be able to commit him, and then I'd have to find one that takes someone his age. Even his case worker acknowledges that if he doesn't want me talking to her, she doesn't have ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 8:42 pm
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| We do have something like that here, but when he was going through the assessment and preparation for the independent living, everything hit the fan with the divorce. When they found out he was moving in with me for a year, the independent living contractor dropped him. I kind of feel like, hey guys... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 8:34 pm
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| Does he get angry with you when you do remind him? If so, how do you handle it? |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 8:24 pm
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| He is not an awful person, but I agree, he does take much for granted. He can be the most thoughtful, generous, sweetest affectionate person you can know. He's smart and funny (intentionally) and creative. Emotionally, he is at the level of a junior high or high schooler right now. He's always been ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 8:15 pm
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My son is *violently* opposed to living with his dad and his dad's married mistress. His dad is utterly clueless and is even a little embarrassed about our son. And my husband has gotten scary angry at our son.
I have a feeling there is no good or easy way out of this. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting my adult Aspie - I can't take it anymore |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2008, 8:04 pm
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| My 21yo son actually has HFA, but he's matured so much that I think he would be diagnosed with Asperger's now, so here I am. He so smart. I almost think that makes it harder. Before I go on, I want to tell you that almost three years ago I had a heart attack at the age of 47, and my doctors are conc... |
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