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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trapped in a toxic marriage |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2024, 12:09 pm
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Replies: 5
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| You sound like you know what needs to be done, but you're looking for someone to give you permission. First your wife, then your daughter, now us. I think, when you've been in a relationship for a long time, particularly as part of a family, you get so used to thinking of yourself as part of that u... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trapped in a toxic marriage |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2024, 10:22 am
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Replies: 5
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| Today, I tried again to talk to my wife about divorce. Her reaction was mad as the other times, she menaced revenge and a wild fight. A daughter of mine, even if recognises her mother toxic behaviour and is exhausted of our toxic relationships, said that I must understand and stay. I have no reason ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Post a love song |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2024, 9:50 am
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Replies: 1,721
Views: 168,364
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Don’t say that it’s a cover if you didn’t listen to the end
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it "your fault" if you're 30+ and haven't found the One? |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2024, 9:45 am
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Replies: 46
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Being married and having found The One are not the same thing.
I’m married to the wrong one, that is much worse than being alone. Finding the right person is hard. Often, you don’t find them in your whole life. Don’t feel pressured by social norms that have been set centuries ago by ND people. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Majority of autistuc men dont have a girlfriend? |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2024, 7:30 pm
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Replies: 469
Views: 24,917
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| Sex isn’t a need For men, sex is the vehicle to receive confirmations about the partner's love, to affirm their power, and a lot more. It can look primitive but it shouldn't be just dismissed. Sex with other people is a "relationship" thing. Masturbation is something else. It's a personal... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Got anything random to say? L&D Version. |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2024, 1:00 pm
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Replies: 527
Views: 55,277
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| To support someone to create healthy boundaries, you shouldn't be very protective. They need to build their boundaries and strengthen them. They need to be exposed. Preventing them to see their family, or being always present or controlling the interactions are not ways to help. Protection should be... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: ADHD thread |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 2:53 pm
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Replies: 135
Views: 25,878
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IsabellaLinton wrote: How many tabs do y'all have open right now?
I'm counting nine, including three WP tabs leading to the same page and two YT tabs with the same song.
about 200, in 9 windows. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Got anything random to say? L&D Version. |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2024, 2:46 pm
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Replies: 527
Views: 55,277
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| Yeah that's what I'm thinking....if no one gets then that's all that counts they may be collateral damages. They are hit by our interest (because it's not love) for ourselves. In my ADHD world, forever doesn't exist I don't know what you just said mate because you wrote It's also really narcissisti... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: PPR: Get something off your chest. |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2024, 6:37 pm
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Replies: 346
Views: 22,986
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Aspiegaming wrote: I wish religions were more about preventing the end of the world rather than embracing or causing it.
Religions are only about controlling people using their fears and their ignorance, that they nurture |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Got anything random to say? L&D Version. |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2024, 6:25 pm
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Replies: 527
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babybird wrote: Yeah that's what I'm thinking....if no one gets then that's all that counts
they may be collateral damages. They are hit by our interest (because it's not love) for ourselves.
In my ADHD world, forever doesn't exist |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Therapy styles that work for autistic adults |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2024, 5:44 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 2,225
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| I had to go through several therapists before I found one who was able to help me. the first ones just kept asking me about my abusive past, asking me "how does that make you feel " and I spent all the therapy time saying "I don't know" and weeping. I could not identify my emoti... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Can Narcissists Change? |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2024, 5:26 pm
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Replies: 14
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| It's hard not to feed that delusion of grandeur My shrink and myself have both agreed that as long as I don't cross that line into causing people harm and I'm mindful of this then that is some progress It's very easy to convince ourselves that we are not harming people or that they want to be harme... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: I see my life falling apart |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2024, 7:42 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Married for 30 years, toxic relationship, a wife that wish me dead but is not accepting to divorce because of her fear of poverty and the insane economic commitments that we took. You can file for divorce & eventually have a judge approve it even if she is fighting against that. It sounds to me... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Bump when horny |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2024, 6:06 pm
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Replies: 3,933
Views: 35,859
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Bump
(but it would be easier bumping when I'm not) |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you handle loneliness? |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2024, 5:56 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 6,876
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| I think that there is a general confusion between the need to be alone and feeling loneliness. We are generally introvert and we need to be alone to recharge. Our social battery is small. Mine is often empty at the end of my work day. We usually don't like small talk, we want meaningful interactions... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Can Narcissists Change? |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2024, 3:32 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 4,631
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| Sorry, I misunderstood the question and I see every day the impact of manipulative behaviour. I did not mean to blame anyone. As you said, it's already plenty of self made gods that condemn narcissists as nothing could be worse Narcissism is a response to trauma. I had my share of narcissistic behav... |
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