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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Sensory issues and clothing |
| Sunfell |
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Posted: 28 Feb 2013, 9:44 am
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Replies: 44
Views: 38,751
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| I cannot stand most female clothing- dresses, skirts, sleeveless, midriff-baring, etc clothing. Cannot stand the exposed skin. Most fabrics for female clothing are scratchy, light, too 'busy' and fussy for my tastes. I refuse to wear dresses, skirts, or other overly feminine or feminizing clothes. M... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: "Outgrowing" Aspegers |
| Sunfell |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2010, 8:34 pm
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Replies: 67
Views: 16,455
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| I've gotten really good at 'role playing'. I have my Professional role, my Social role, my Out In Public role, and other roles as needed. I put them on like masks. I can switch between them and pass for 'normal'. But underneath it all, I'm still myself. If I get nervous, the thumb gets tucked into t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspies in midlife crisis, how do you deal with it? |
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Posted: 17 Sep 2010, 9:52 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 9,359
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| I'm going to be 50 on Monday. I've been trying to live and fit into the NT world all my life, and am failing miserably. I feel like my soul has been rubbed raw. But I remember reading Steven Silverberg's "Wired" article back in '01, and thinking, 'this is me'. Further research has confirmed my hunch... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Title changed- maybe now people will pay attention to topic |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2008, 7:13 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 3,462
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| I prefer 'deep interest' to 'obsession', to be honest. My deep interest in electronics systems- audio, radio, and now computers has paid well for me. While I might never get rich (too solitary and not people-oriented), I will always have something to do, because there is always a haywire system some... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What does it feel like to be in love? |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2008, 2:19 pm
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Replies: 33
Views: 5,977
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| "Love"- or, more precisely, that horrific hormonal storm of attachment- is awful. It's like having your head eaten from inside out by little termites. It makes you insane. It makes you paranoid, volatile, moody (to the point of being bi-polar) and psychotic. It grinds you down to your primitive, sav... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Singlism- Discrimination against the singles. |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2008, 2:09 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 9,533
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| I like being single. And people who are my real friends understand this, and keep me in their various loops. People who do not understand me, and make the Fatal Error of 'setting me up' only do that one time. Singledom is not a contagious or fatal disease. It is not a shortcoming. For some, (like me... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Attire – decoded |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2008, 2:04 pm
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Replies: 203
Views: 29,566
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| OK- I'm female, and absolutely do not 'get' fashion. Like ManErg, I do not see any difference, and am not label conscious in the least bit. In fact, the only time I pay attention to labels and designers is when I find something that is well-made and fits my odd body correctly and comfortably. Then I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What sounds can you hear that others can't? |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2008, 1:42 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 6,211
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| I can hear: CRT flyback transformers Flourescent light ballast Those new CFL lights have a whistling sound That stupid 'teen buzz' ringtone Motion detector ultrasonics Dog whistles I tell people that I have 'dog-whistle' ears. And I am at an age where I should not be able to hear it. A colleague had... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Anyone not diagnosed until in their 40's? |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2008, 8:12 pm
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Replies: 103
Views: 16,027
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I'm going to have to read that book, it seems.
:adds title to ever-growing Aspies reading list:
I have a feeling that this- and cognitive elements- is becoming Yet Another Special Interest. I need a bigger head to park all these ideas in! |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: The benifits of Aspergers |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2008, 10:29 am
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Replies: 41
Views: 6,849
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| It was nice to turn a Special Interest from a hobby to my living. They pay me to mess with computers and the Internet. I like the ability to sponge up new ideas and subjects. And I seem to have a bit of synchrodipity and ability to synthesize ideas from radically different sources. This comes in rea... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Getting to know each other, Dino-style |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2008, 10:17 am
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Replies: 606
Views: 244,726
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| What is your first name? Sunfell Age: 47 Location: USA Current perseverations: I prefer to call them Special Interests. Science, science fiction, cats, cooking, gardening, computers, internet, internet culture, blogging When did you discover AS? I learned about it while researching gifted adults. I ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Anyone not diagnosed until in their 40's? |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2008, 10:10 am
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Replies: 103
Views: 16,027
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| I ran into the Aspergers theories while researching gifted adults. I realized that I fit the criteria, but decided not to get a formal diagnosis, because there is still too much stigma attached to the word 'autism', and I have found peace with my own quirks and eccentricities. Plus, if you have such... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why do we look younger? |
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Posted: 05 Jun 2008, 8:00 am
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Replies: 319
Views: 67,577
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| I am in my late forties. Last year, I was passed up for a seat on an executive committee, because the nominating and selection committee thought I was 'too young'. They did not ask for birthday information, and had they hung out with me for any length of time, they would have heard some of my 'war s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Indigo children theory considered harmful? |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2008, 8:54 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 3,168
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| Yeah- I wish I had gotten more encouragement and support when I was younger. Aspergers did not exist as a diagnosis when I was young- they tested me and told my parents that I was 'gifted', but also an oddball. My teachers loved me, my classmates hated me. My dad told me that I was a 'waste of brain... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I can't take this mind-blindness! |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2008, 8:37 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,047
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| I've been in that spot- feeling totally inept and unable to intrepret people around me. As a young woman, I kept getting into difficult situations with people- especially men who misinterpreted my naivete as a come-on, or took advantage of it. I was lucky I didn't get killed, but after one too many ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Loud Noises |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2008, 8:23 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,437
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| I cannot stand loud noises. Especially high-pitched loud noises. I keep a pair of earplugs in my handbag in case I am in a trapped situation with a screaming infant or other noise source. But very small noises drive me nuts, too- I have to find the source in order to have peace. My boss is the same ... |
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