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Forum: The Haven Topic: Where do I belong |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 01 Mar 2014, 2:43 am
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"Also, as a christian you need to be careful of what the mainstream christian movement determines is an acceptable identity in Christ" what do you mean by this? I'm probably not mainstream christian. though i don't know what it's views are. o.O Mainstream Christian movement tends to place a lot of ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: TV subtitles anyone? |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 26 Feb 2014, 5:07 am
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... though if I'm reading subtitles it can take my attention off what is happening visually in the video, especially forms of non-verbal communication. Watching for these subtleties is good practice for Aspies apparently, we can obsessively scrutinise the way that people present themselves without ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Where do I belong |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 26 Feb 2014, 4:53 am
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The problem we have is that past experiences will create a thought pattern that pushes us out of the game mentally. If you look at your strengths you will find that the things you think make you weak are rather insignificant. Our problem though is that our weakness causes emotional turmoil which is ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Crush on girl? What to do/say? |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 25 Feb 2014, 7:06 am
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I was deep in thought when my crush walked past me and said hi....
My response was "Walawalawala" |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: New here |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 24 Feb 2014, 5:41 am
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redrobin62 wrote: Hi. I live with just a cat. It's not my cat; it just comes around everyday for food and a place to sleep.
I also have one of those, except he now comes around and demands to be fed, and will bug me till I get off his favorite chair, which incidentally, is the one in front of my pc. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Where do I belong |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 24 Feb 2014, 3:09 am
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does anyone else feel like the only escape to freedom is death? If i wasn't christian(please don't turn this into a debate) and didn't believe in afterlife, I'd probably kill myself. this sh** is awful so going to nothing and not existing would be freedom. Way too familiar a feeling for me. :( I ha... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Where do I belong |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 19 Feb 2014, 4:38 am
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It does not necessarily constitute a lie when people that tell you that you are great. You cannot assume they perceive you the way you do. This took me a very long time to figure out. It still makes me feel awkward when I get a compliment, but I accept it graciously. If your analyze your behavior to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Neuro-Linguistic Programming |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 31 Jan 2014, 3:33 am
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I would think that we cannot change the way we process info, but we can change the way we communicate the info we have. I would have an issue with it if the reprogammed way of communication has no logic to it. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Removing my mask |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 3:30 am
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That actually becomes less tiring because it enables you to adapt more easily to different situations. The nature of a mask is to be static and unchanging; a shapeshifter can adjust to its environment. This is far less draining than the "mask." With practice, it can become second nature. ^^^^^ This... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you "Adjust" to people? |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 18 Dec 2013, 5:19 am
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When I was younger, I learned to be extremely plastic. I'm usually unsure of what is normal, so I assumed the other person was acting normally and adapted myself entirely round that. I have come to realise more recently that this is not a good thing. I think it has helped to have a fixed reference ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you have to verbally list stuff? |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 18 Dec 2013, 5:13 am
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Lol everyone else thinks I'm crazy when I explain that I don't write lists because I'd never remember to go back and look at it. Uhm... :oops: I have the same thing.....I now have a task list app on my phone's home page which appears when I switch the phone on. I have had som many diaries in my lif... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Removing my mask |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 18 Dec 2013, 5:05 am
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To maintain the mask you need to find things that "recharge" you, things like sports, or a hobby or perhaps it means visiting with someone who does not require a mask. I have a friend like that, he is NT. What I have found is we don't even have to hang out, even if he is proximity it is good. I also... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Getting it wrong, typical or not? |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 18 Dec 2013, 4:55 am
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I agree to an extent with foxfield. Only, you might have conflicting ideas on the same thing, ie. You feel sorry for the person suffering the loss and then wish you could comfort them in their perceived distress so you look for solutions. Our personality type has an infinitely higher probability of ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I feel that 98% of the time I'm talking to myself. |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 29 Dec 2009, 5:32 am
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LP0rc wrote: I think sometimes we care more about the conversation and its content than NTs do. They are conversing to establish an emotional rapport, we are conversing to share and exchange information.
Very true...... For NT's it is about having the conversation most of the time, not the content |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Post a Picture of the Real You. |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 12 Mar 2009, 12:35 am
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I find a woman that speaks sign language rather.....erm....sexy!! ! :lol: :lol: :lol: I was in rare form. Usually I'm like this: http://www.babies-and-sign-language.com/images/sign_for_i_love_you_airplane_front.jpg Aaaawwwwww!! !! !!..........I love you too :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Post a Picture of the Real You. |
DaLoCo |
Posted: 11 Mar 2009, 4:00 am
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