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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: The following is not a racist question |
| whitecrow |
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Posted: 26 Nov 2009, 6:33 pm
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| The list of reasons why not much visible breaking innovation comes from sub-saharan Africa could be very long. Some considerations. * scientists emigrate to Western countries for better research infrastructure; hence the results of their work are attributed to the universities they work in; * curren... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to understand |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2009, 8:59 pm
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Replies: 20
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| What Willard said is exactly this: "that what comes naturally and easily to the neurotypical mind is an EFFORT to the Autistic" It was me who replied that the way he described it applies to everybody. Effort is required from everybody. Success in relationships does not come miraculously to NTs. Yes,... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to understand |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2009, 1:27 pm
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| "Well, I know it was difficult for them, but I didn't make it any easier." Nobody likes to take responsibility for a failed relationship, but blaming it on the ex-partner's autism is just another way of avoiding the notion that SOME of the problem might have been YOU. You are in no position to assu... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Trying to understand |
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Posted: 18 Nov 2009, 7:58 pm
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| It's the illusion of "High Functioning" - that what comes naturally and easily to the neurotypical mind is an EFFORT to the Autistic. In the beginning of a relationship, when everything is fresh and exhilarating, one barely notices the effort in the midst of all the overwhelming excitement. It is e... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Promising to change |
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Posted: 08 Nov 2009, 6:36 am
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Replies: 44
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| Orbyss has eloquence that I lack. Listen to Orbyss. Roman, you give out yourself to us when you do not have time/desire to google the concepts that you find confusing when you read them in responses, and when you do not even bother to click on direct hyperlinks we provide. You want to be heard and y... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What do women want? |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2009, 9:19 am
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Replies: 38
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Promising to change |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2009, 1:57 pm
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| This is so much more information now. Why did you want to get engaged if you were afraid to marry her? I hear a lot here that status is the only aim you are seeking, status (like the name of university attended) is the only measure you apply to classify people around you. So you wanted to be engaged... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Promising to change |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2009, 5:55 am
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| I want to find A, wherever it is hidden, and make A happy. - the most beautiful thing I read during the last month. So offer Jennifer a heartfelt apology. Prepare for it, but remove denial and deflection from your narrative [ ‘deflection’ as used in psychology: rejecting the logic of yo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Promising to change |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2009, 5:44 pm
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| The initial chapters of Aston’s book are on google books, I have no time to summarise it, and I agree for it lacking in many ways, so just drop it (or go read it on google, it’s a easy read). It’s definitely not a psychology book I would suggest for someone from hard-science to rea... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Promising to change |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2009, 2:07 pm
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| you did not read Stinkypuppy's message carefully enough. What you're doing in your reply to Stinkypuppy's point is more deflection (though you call it 'justifying') But wouldn't a genuine love include true concern about the other person? - it's a Yes for "personal wellbeing", and No for giving up a ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Promising to change |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2009, 1:42 pm
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| I feel that I can very well identify myself with Jennifer (there was an outrage about 'Cassandra' stuff on these forums, but I come to conclusion that Aspies are attracted to a specific group of people personality-wise, and that same specific group of people are attracted to Aspies, M.Aston describe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Promising to change |
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Posted: 25 Oct 2009, 10:22 am
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| So to sum up your original post... you've been jerking this woman around, for a period of time humiliating her with your attempts to make her breakup with you (and surely resenting her even more for not having confidence to do so). What you described is the worst scenario of colossal jerk behaviour/... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why I don't think I'm cut out for a relationship. |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2009, 12:42 pm
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Replies: 48
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| In dating use face-to-face or phone. It was OK to call when she was not online at 8:30. There are too many variables why someone could not rely on being at a computer at a designated time. It would have been different had she promised to (phone) call at 8:30. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Talking to other AS/NT couples |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2009, 3:01 pm
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Replies: 14
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| I wanted to say "check out the 'Loving the Tasmanian Devil' blog (=web address)", but it says that I am not trusted to posts urls until I submit 5 posts without urls (should I bet this was imposed on me because I identify with NT?!). Google to find the blog. The owner is amazing, and her experiences... |
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